staying with cheater till im ready to part ways

[jdan13]

i realize this is probably not normal or healthy. but i am having a terrible time dealing with being alone right now. and my former fiance seems to be more than willing to spend time with me and do what ever it takes to get me back.

 

i feel like if i could just let my self drift away from her naturally i will be getting the best of both worlds, i will be ridding myself of the cheating b*tch, and yet i will still be able to function normally until i am ready to part with her.

 

i realize that in the grand scheme of things this is probably not relevant but i have also just started graduate school and i have mountains of texts to read. i find that it is impossible to focus knowing that my former girl is gone and wondering what she is doing.

 

i don't plan on taking this girl back, at least i don't think so. and from reading the many other posts on these boards i have a feeling most of you are going to say "just get on with life" or "be a bigger person and don't string her along". but i really feel like i need to use her to get through at least the first couple weeks/months of grad school.

[Bryanp]

Big Mistake!

 

Why do you think she wants to get back to you. She wants you to get use to the sex again and you will be sucked in to marrying her again. It is like saying if I just take a little bit of crack now and then - how will it hurt. She wants you to get addicted to her again so she can manipulate you again. It is so obvious. She totally humiliated and disrespected to you being engaged to you and you want to crawl back to have some good times with her anyway. What is wrong with this picture? You will not meet anybody else if you waste your time with her.

[mark982]

i can see what you're tring to do,sorta ween yourself away from her to make "your " life easier.but in the grand scheme of things it's going to back fire. she's going to be sugary sweet to you and you're gonna fall for it.then it's back to step 1 all over again.just go nc with her and get it over with,tuff you bet it is,but in the long run it's your best bet.