dmannn Posted October 26, 2003 Share Posted October 26, 2003 listen please,my wife of nine years wants no more sex with me.when she did it it was once a month.then all she would do was use her hand once a month.she just announced she won't be doing that anymore.always complained about my penis size i am 3inchs erect.she has often ridculed me saying i am the same size as a 10 year old.also compares me to her ex husband who was big.she says i don;t last ong either. she is bored beyond belief.any suggestions would help Link to post Share on other sites
novascade Posted October 26, 2003 Share Posted October 26, 2003 like go get a penis inlargement it coast a bunch, but hey you could use it as a bat and knock her out for insulting you Link to post Share on other sites
UCFKevin Posted October 26, 2003 Share Posted October 26, 2003 What the HELL did you marry someone like that for?! Link to post Share on other sites
The Velvet Vixen Posted October 26, 2003 Share Posted October 26, 2003 Constantly reminding you that you don't measure up to her ex-husband is a really low blow. If size is so important to her that she can't get past it, why did she marry you only to keep putting you down for it? What could she possibly expect you to do about it?? How can she punish you (by withholding sex) for something you have no control over?? Your wife's behavior—her constant belittlement; her attempts to be in control of your relationship by insisting on always being the one to decide when and if there will be sex; "punishing" you for your shortcomings by withholding intimacy—amounts to emotional abuse. As your life partner, she should be supporting and uplifting you; NOT constantly deriding you for something you feel insecure about and have no control over. I think your wife is cruel, selfish and insensitive, and has zero respect for you. As she is, you would be better off without her. No one deserves to be with someone who causes him/her to feel bad about himself/herself. If you'd like to work this out, you should tell her how it makes you feel when she treats you this way. If she refuses to change, I would recommend finding someone who would love, respect and appreciate you for who you are. Link to post Share on other sites
UCFKevin Posted October 26, 2003 Share Posted October 26, 2003 When a woman makes fun of the size of your penis, I think there should be a legal right to punch her in the face. And that's the ONLY time it should be legal, other than self defense of course. Link to post Share on other sites
LadyX Posted October 26, 2003 Share Posted October 26, 2003 Dump her for criticizing you, then read up on how to please a woman in other ways. I wouldn't waste your time trying to please her. Maybe you can't perform because you aren't attracted to HER. I also believe the penis grows the more you use it. Link to post Share on other sites
UCFKevin Posted October 26, 2003 Share Posted October 26, 2003 That's because you don't have one. Link to post Share on other sites
cindy0039 Posted October 26, 2003 Share Posted October 26, 2003 Originally posted by UCFKevin When a woman makes fun of the size of your penis, I think there should be a legal right to punch her in the face. And that's the ONLY time it should be legal, other than self defense of course. I really hope you were joking here. Because there is NEVER an excuse for physical assault...never. Dmann - It is not right for your wife to ridicule you for your penis size, if indeed she has. It sounds like the two of you need to do a lot of talking about this issue and perhaps even go to couples therapy. I'm not accusing or taking any side here, but I'm wondering: What do you do to please your wife when you do have sex? Just playing devil's advocate here, but perhaps she's very frustrated over her own lack of pleasure or orgasm. Maybe if sex were more pleasurable for her, she would want it more. I don't know without hearing more details. And what the other posters need to keep in mind is that there are always two sides to every story. Link to post Share on other sites
LadyX Posted October 26, 2003 Share Posted October 26, 2003 Originally posted by UCFKevin That's because you don't have one. Not one of my own...but I've been in some very long term relationships, and it has proved to be true for me. Link to post Share on other sites
anonimouse Posted October 26, 2003 Share Posted October 26, 2003 Now! Link to post Share on other sites
oncemore Posted October 26, 2003 Share Posted October 26, 2003 Do you perform oral sex on her? Have you tried getting creative with positions? Link to post Share on other sites
UCFKevin Posted October 26, 2003 Share Posted October 26, 2003 I really hope you were joking here. Because there is NEVER an excuse for physical assault...never. So if someone's physically attacking you, you'd just lay down on the ground and take it? Link to post Share on other sites
TheFaithfulWife Posted October 27, 2003 Share Posted October 27, 2003 My sisters husband is also not well endowed, they came up something that worked for them. They utilize a rubber penis extender that fits over your own, the product is designed to give both parties pleasure. You should be able to locate one online. Surprise her with it. You never know. Link to post Share on other sites
cindy0039 Posted October 27, 2003 Share Posted October 27, 2003 Originally posted by UCFKevin So if someone's physically attacking you, you'd just lay down on the ground and take it? No. But self defense is a far cry from hitting someone for criticizing your penis. And I think you knew that's what I meant. Link to post Share on other sites
BlockHead Posted October 27, 2003 Share Posted October 27, 2003 listen please,my wife of nine years wants no more sex with me.when she did it it was once a month.then all she would do was use her hand once a month.she just announced she won't be doing that anymore.always complained about my penis sizeI think both you and your wife have sexual and emotional intimacy problems. She chose you for that reason. Your penis size is just an excuse. She has problems and she is trying to deflect the guilt onto you. Why did she get divorced in the first place? This reminds me of a marital game called “Frigid Woman.” Check the book Games People Play by Eric Berne, M.D. p98-101. The book is about transactional analysis, and it focuses on games. You might be surprised how similar your situation is to the scenario in the book. It is an ugly and cruel game. Link to post Share on other sites
Bubbles Posted October 27, 2003 Share Posted October 27, 2003 Why don't you try telling her that her uterous is tooooo big! Ha, ha that would get her! Tell her that you need to strap a 2 x 4 to your ass to make sure you don't fall in! I know, I know, insults don't work but my goodness! I don't know who to feel sorrier for........ Bubbles Link to post Share on other sites
ncguy34 Posted October 27, 2003 Share Posted October 27, 2003 THat is very low. She should not compare you to an ex-that is not only rude but tacky. I think you should leave her. Link to post Share on other sites
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