muhlissah Posted May 27, 2009 Share Posted May 27, 2009 Ok so sadly it may be wishful thinking but my husband, who I've been separated from for almost 3 weeks is still wearing his wedding ring. I asked him to wear until he decided he was done. Well he decided he was done a week ago yet he's still wearing the ring. My thought process is he doesn't want to have to answer questions from people at work. He's a very keep to his self kind of guy. Plus the wh0re he cheated with works with him so I want him to keep wearing it. I haven't mentioned it to him because I know if I do he will take it off. So does it mean anything or is it just wishful thinking? And this evening when he came to the house to see our son I felt like he was hesitating when he was leaving. He kind of stood there for a minute and said "well I guess I'm gonna go" stood there for another minute, asked me if I needed anything I said no and he slowly left. He is the one who cheated and he is the one who decided we were done and there was no fixing our relationship so what is he doing? I know if I ask him he will say its in my head, and maybe it is which sucks, but I'm holding on to any hope that I can no matter how bad its going to hurt when it turns out to be nothing. Link to post Share on other sites
Gunny376 Posted May 27, 2009 Share Posted May 27, 2009 Its a BAND of guilt! Move on with your life! Get busy living your life, quit wasting time on this @sshat! You can and will do better! Anything he's got to offer you? You CAN find just as good if not better, just as much if not better! Set yourself free from this misery! Get out there and smile, laugh and rub a little sun-shine on your face! Life's too short! Link to post Share on other sites
SummerLady Posted May 27, 2009 Share Posted May 27, 2009 Ok so sadly it may be wishful thinking but my husband, who I've been separated from for almost 3 weeks is still wearing his wedding ring. I asked him to wear until he decided he was done. Well he decided he was done a week ago yet he's still wearing the ring. My thought process is he doesn't want to have to answer questions from people at work. He's a very keep to his self kind of guy. Plus the wh0re he cheated with works with him so I want him to keep wearing it. I haven't mentioned it to him because I know if I do he will take it off. So does it mean anything or is it just wishful thinking? And this evening when he came to the house to see our son I felt like he was hesitating when he was leaving. He kind of stood there for a minute and said "well I guess I'm gonna go" stood there for another minute, asked me if I needed anything I said no and he slowly left. He is the one who cheated and he is the one who decided we were done and there was no fixing our relationship so what is he doing? I know if I ask him he will say its in my head, and maybe it is which sucks, but I'm holding on to any hope that I can no matter how bad its going to hurt when it turns out to be nothing. Gunny is right. Start to think onward about your life. Don't look behind you. The damage is done and the relationship is damaged and in most cases to badly damaged to go back. Its hard to do but you must start to live life without him and move on. It may take some time but start now so you don't waste to much time. Its not a race but you have to start some time and what no better time then now. It took me 2 years to get where I am today after I was cheated on but I am divorced and with someone new. My life is 100% better. Good luck to you..... Link to post Share on other sites
Author muhlissah Posted May 28, 2009 Author Share Posted May 28, 2009 I don't know why he continues to wear the ring but after the conversation we had tonight I was wrong to think he was having second thoughts. He's still very much done. I guess I didn't get my hopes up too much because I'm no more crushed now than I have been these last few weeks. Link to post Share on other sites
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