Girlfriend is killing me...

[thrice]

Well heres my story....

 

Me and my gilfriend were happy as can be, and out of the blue she told me last night that we need to take a break. IT hurt so much, and to make things worse she told me on the internet instead of in person. I was devastated. I drove to my friends house crying so I could talk to someone. She had acted like it was all my fault that we were breaking up, "I didn't show enough affection".

 

Later that night I talked to her a bit more and she told me it was really her fault she just didn't want to admit it. She is supposdly confused and doesn't know what to do. Her birthday is today and im going to her party it will be hard but I have to talk to her. I'm hoping she will understand that I can't just let things slip away that easy. I have no idea what to do everything felt so perfect. Should I even try to get her back?

[Tony T]

So she breaks up with you the night before her party??? I wouldn't even bother going. But if you must go, have a nice time and don't get into a heavy discussion with her. That's not the time or place to be discussing problems. However, you should respect the fact that she wants to be apart for a while...there's no need to talk her out of that. Those are her feelings and she will resent any attempt by you to change her mind. Now, if she said it to try to get a rise out of you, she's a first class turd and you don't need her anyway. Never be around people who mess with your feelings. Go to the party, be cool, and give her some space. Let her come to you if and when she wants to see you again. This is a golden opportunity for you to go out and find a nice lady who will want to be with you...and not need space.

[Reckless]

I seriously doubt your girlfriend is going to want to talk to you at her birthday party and I do not think she'll understand you turning up and trying to thrash things out when you get there.

 

Believe me you're setting yourself up for a rotten night. She was "confused and didn't know what to do" yesterday, I don't think she'll feel much differently today. I' m not saying don't go to the party (because I know you will anyway) just be prepared to feel further rejection and confusion.

 

You say you 'can't just let things slip away that easily'... newsflash: you have. Pleading, demanding crying and making a scene (at birthday parties) won't help.

 

If I were you, I'd give it a little time, maybe she'll figure out what she wants and if it's you.

 

Sorry your hurting,

 

R.

[thrice]

she told me she wanted to talk at the party she said she feels totally bad about doing it on the internet but that doesnt help anything she keeps telling me "I'm so sorry" it doesnt help one bit. Her excuse was that she didn't plan on doing that. I think she is hiding something from me

[Reckless]

Well then, just wait a few hours and you'll have the answer to your questions. If she wants to get back together then she'll say so but be warned, 'I'm sorry' is usually what you say just before you drop kick their heart, so be prepared.

 

R.

[thrice]

Yeah I think she has allready drop kicked my heart. The thing is she was sorry after not before...

[Thrice]

Well, I talked to her sister today she found her crying in her room she says that she still really cares about me but she just isn't ready to start dating again. I'll talk to her in a few hours "she has something she needs to tell me" im scared and anxious. I'm going anyway hopefully the hurting is going any further I started feeling better after I talked to her sister, but then again maybe she was only trying to make me feel better, I don't know what going on but I wish I did....