I need adive. My bf of 2 yrs broke up with me but he still tells me he loves me.

[Roxy]

[font=times new roman][/font][color=violet][/color] My boyfriend of two years broke up with me a little over a month ago. I'm sixteen and he's seventeen and I know that's pretty young, but we really care for each other. We had been arguing a bunch and he ended the relationship saying he didn't want us to end up hating each other. Well, for about two weeks, he was a total jerk and showed absolutely no emotion. For about two weeks now, though, he's been being really nice and flirty towards me again. Two days ago, he told me he still loved me and cares for me, but doesn't know what he wants. He says he's confused and he doesn't want us to stop talking because he really cares for me. He called me up yesterday and we talked for about two hours before he got sleepy. I just don't know whether to move on or wait for him. I'm willing to wait, but it's hard because it's his senior year and he'll be graduating so I won't see him as much. It took us a long time to get where we are at relationship wise. We've been through a lot and we are really comfortable around each other. Not only was he my boyfriend, but he's my best friend, companion, and lover. I trust him more than anyone else in the world and I know he feels the same. I just don't feel like it's really over. I feel like it's not the end and that we're gonna put this behind us and keep going on together. I'm exposed to him just everyday and people think we are still dating by the way we talk and act around each other. I know what I want. He's the one with the confusion. Do I move on or give him time? Does he just not want to let go of something that brings him comfort or may he really care? He says he can't picture himself just moving on without me, but he can't give me a clear answer. I need some type of closure. It felt good hearing that he still cared and loves me, but at the same time, everything I've tried to do to move on and accept that we're broken up was shattered when he said those words to me. I'm backtracking here. Help. I just need advice.

 

-Roxy

[NatoPMT]

Hi Roxy

 

I am twice your age, but you are asking identical questions to the questions i was asking - and i have found that you can move on while still being there for your ex - you are so young & its pretty rare for a love at your age to be long lasting but if you really feel that you can still make it work, you have to deal with this yourself to grow and progress on your own terms. hes giving you some pretty powerful signals, but they dont mean diddly unless his words and committment back them up, so until that day - if it comes, you are on your own. this is a great opportunity for you to become who YOU want to be, without the input from anyone else - he wants time so give it to him, show him you still care but dont expect anything back.

 

you say you dont feel its over, but then you need closure. you cant look to him for the answers, you have the power to deal with this how you want to, he cant give you anything right now, but if you dont demand anything, and just be cool which it seems you are doing, he may come back to you - but there is absolutely no guarantee of that, just trust that whatever will be will be. you go girl!