Slacker Posted October 26, 2003 Share Posted October 26, 2003 I broke up with my ex 3 months ago we were together over 8 years,she told me she finished it because she felt like we wasn't going anywhere, we had been engaged for nearly 2 years.Anyway she has since met another guy and been very stupid and got pregnant, she has been dating him for 2 months but knew him as a friend for about 2 years on and off, im worried that she has made a big mistake but she wants to keep the kiddy. Know im worried because she is 26,he is 18 i cant see this is going to work like lots of other people including her freinds and family and i dont want her to be living the life of a single mum in a ruff old flat in a bad area.I love this girl to death, what do i do if in time she realises what she has done misses me but has this blokes kidddy, i know the bloke well too which is why it would be so hard for me to take her back. Link to post Share on other sites
LadyX Posted October 26, 2003 Share Posted October 26, 2003 You would have to decide if you really love her, and accept the child....their a package deal. And even if it doesn't work with them it's no guarrantee she'll want to get back together with you. Link to post Share on other sites
NatoPMT Posted October 26, 2003 Share Posted October 26, 2003 Hi Slacker Can you clarify for me if she has said if she wants you back? i assume she hasnt as you say if she realises in time then you dont know if you could. were the terms of the split made clear to you? if they werent at the time, it seems that they are now. i think that if she DID want you back, reconcilliation only works if you can leave the past behind and that includes bitterness & resentments, you can only be happy with someone if you accept their past and who they are - this is now part of who she is, and if - if - she decides you are the one for her, then at that stage you have no idea how you will feel about her, because you dont know what the potential timescale is and none of us can see into the future unfortunately. I'd also like to say that it may make you feel better that other people think shes doing the wrong thing, but only she can decide what and who is right for her, and thats not something you can have a say in i'm afraid. this guy - young though he is - maybe perfect for her, you just dont know, and speculating on this wont help you. shes gone into something pretty recklessly, but thats her choice and it makes her who she is, and already you are saying you dont know if you could be with her again now - take that and build on it, use this to find out whats right for you now. you sound like you are handling this amazingly well considering that this is so fresh & you were together for a long time - thats a credit to you. hope it gets better for you, take care Link to post Share on other sites
Author Slacker Posted October 29, 2003 Author Share Posted October 29, 2003 Thanks for your replys, i know this is a tricky one and maybe one of those bridges i will have to cross if it arrives, She is not in a good way at the moment and is not having much suppport from her man who only lives a few doors away from her.surely he needs to make more effort. i spoke to her the other day and she wants to go out but it is hard for me to see her as you can expect. I do feel that the worst is over know. I mean how much worse could it get....... Link to post Share on other sites
UCFKevin Posted October 29, 2003 Share Posted October 29, 2003 If she wants to keep the baby, the absolute WORST thing you could do is try to convince her otherwise. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Slacker Posted October 31, 2003 Author Share Posted October 31, 2003 Spoke to the ex today were going out on tuesday night, she told me she misses me, I miss her to badly even though shes carrying someone elses kid.Would i be a fool to take her back ???? Link to post Share on other sites
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