rya794 Posted May 28, 2009 Share Posted May 28, 2009 I hate to complain about doing good but i want to know if i am headed for a break down. so i found out about my fiance cheating a little over three weeks ago. faught about it with her nearly everyday for the first two weeks or so, i could barely function during this period of time: no sleep, no eating, barely thinking. Took a couple days off from her, did a little better when she was out of my sight. then went through a 3 day long breakup argument with her. Since then i have felt surprisingly good about my self and my life in general. I still miss her, but not so bad that it hurts. And im still angry, but no so much that it controls my life. I have only been not contacting her for a couple of days but i dont constantly feel the need to call her or see her. once in a while it will hit but it seems to be rare. Can i expect brighter days ahead or am i just at the top of the roller coaster ready drop straight down a hill? Link to post Share on other sites
reservoirdog1 Posted May 28, 2009 Share Posted May 28, 2009 Be prepared for ups and downs. I think that after something like this happens, we all expect our recovery from the hurt to be on a straight line. It rarely is. The overall trend is positive (try to imagine the graph of a well-performing stock over a period of many years -- lots of smaller ups and downs but it can still trend upwards over the long term), but you will have setbacks and periods of euphoria. Try to acknowledge this in advance, so that if you have a "down period" you're not totally surprised by it. It's a natural response. Good for you for standing firm, though. There are better people out there. Kitty: "Red, you're just going through the five stages of grief." Red: "Kitty, I only have two stages: anger, and drinking!" -- That 70s Show Link to post Share on other sites
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