bateze Posted October 27, 2003 Share Posted October 27, 2003 They are backstabbing, gossiping people who have no idea about unity or the like. Everyone is always bitching about everyone else. And speaking to them has become a chore. I only speak to them if i have to and if its about work - otherwise i have no interest in their lives whatsoever. What makes it worse is that i actually liked them once. There is a particular female collueague that i work with who betrayed my trust, i confronted her and she denied it, after that it went downhill. The fact that she copies me really really annoyes me and no i cannot take it as a compliment. She dresses like me, speaks like me, uses the phrases that i use, the list goes on. Everything she does now bugs me, her voice, her manner, just her very presence, it grates on my very soul. Now, this makes work not a very nice place to be. There was also an argument with the team leader after he started nit picking (all of a sudden) on the way i sign for things (i.e. work done). THEN he makes a mistake and tries to blame me. We have another argument the next day when i asked him how long he would be away from his desk because i wanted to go get lunch and he answered by saying work comes first...all he had to do was give me a time. Right now there is tension between me and 'single white female' and me and the team leader. They should not be having this affect on me, i don;t care abotu them i don;t want them to know about my life etc I don't want to talk to them about 'how i feel' or the effect they are having on me, what i want to do is sort this out by changing my point of view of the whole thing...how do i not let them bug me so much...how do i just let everything they do or say have a teflon affect on me. I don't want to be feeling the way i do. It may have to do with how i view myself, my self esteem etc - how do i sort this out? Thanks Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted October 27, 2003 Share Posted October 27, 2003 I hate that about work. I hate politics and pettiness and I've encountered them too often. I had planned to be a prof but I met too many who hated the 'politics' of academe. Can't stomach that stuff. It's soul-destroying. If you can make yourself, you just have to suck it up. Too often, that's what you'll find at work and, unless you're in a senior position, you can't afford to stand apart or get into conflicts. If you can't hack it, better become a taxi driver or find a job where you won't have to interact with too many workmates. Translation is a nice, isolated job. Link to post Share on other sites
blah Posted October 27, 2003 Share Posted October 27, 2003 Thanks I am looking for another job but in the meantime i need to find some sort of way of not letting them bother me so. I think this might be verging on getting my confidence and self-esteem up to scratch. They mean nothing to me and i don;t want to be thinking about them when outside work. they are on my mind - not a constant thing but i'm not free of them - thats what i want - to be free of them, as if theres some sort of force field around me, protecting me from their toxicity. It would be great if they didn't bother me at all. am i making sense? maybe i have low tolerance levels which i am not sorry for - it means that i only interact with people that i like. The main thing that bugs me tho is that b***h is trying to be like me. and i can say this cos 2 other people have noticed this too Link to post Share on other sites
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