Lauriebell82 Posted May 30, 2009 Share Posted May 30, 2009 Ok folks, here it is! Fiance and I are trying to find a date to get married. Everything is booked for the summer of 2010 (June-August), therefore at each place we need to take what we can get. The place we want to have it is at a really beautiful museum that has a gorgeous ballroom with big pillars, a balcany, and a marble floor. Now they only have 2 dates, September 4th and September 18, 2010. I want the 4th but it's Labor Day weekend that weekend and my fiance says that we may here a lot of people saying they can't come. I think it would be nice because there would be an extra day for people to travel. So is there any potential issues with choosing to have a wedding over a holiday weekend? What do you think? Link to post Share on other sites
tigerstripes Posted May 30, 2009 Share Posted May 30, 2009 EVERYONE, besides those closest with the bride/groom, resents a wedding on a holiday weekend. In the working world those three day weekends are few and far between and we want to be able to do something for ourselves or our our families, something that we want to do, on those weekends. I say go for the Sept 18th date. Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted May 30, 2009 Share Posted May 30, 2009 Ugh, my family always seem to get married on holidays and I hate it. Everyone always looks forward to those for a long time and has so much going on, so it seems like we're being cheated out of that extra day off. It's the end of summer and a lot of people want to take advantage of that day for the last summer "fling", so to speak. Go for the 18th. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lauriebell82 Posted May 30, 2009 Author Share Posted May 30, 2009 Thanks guys, my fiance is saying the same thing. Flight tickets may be more expensive as well and many people have to travel. His mom was sweet she created a guest list from his side of the family, there are like 70 some people!!! Half he doesn't even know! They all live out of town and his mom told me that they would probably rather come on a weekend that wasn't a holiday as well. Link to post Share on other sites
tigerstripes Posted May 30, 2009 Share Posted May 30, 2009 Crisis averted!!! If only everything was this easy Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lauriebell82 Posted May 30, 2009 Author Share Posted May 30, 2009 Crisis averted!!! If only everything was this easy Haha, yeah I always thought a wedding on a holiday weekend would be nice though. I'm real disappointed we have to wait that long to get married though, I thought since it was a year in advance there would be so many dates open but I was wrong! I can't believe how fast everything goes! Hopefully we can find a church to have this thing in. Link to post Share on other sites
subdued Posted May 30, 2009 Share Posted May 30, 2009 Congratulations!! You have more than a year in advance. That should be more than enough time to plan a great wedding. Enjoy the process of planning for the wedding. The wedding day lasts only one day. Maybe, this will make you feel better about the dates. The number 4 is very unlucky in Chinese. It sounds like the word for "death." The number 8 is extremely lucky. Turn it on its side and you get infinity. The number 9 is also good. It sounds like the word for "long" in Chinese. The number 1 doesn't really have any other meaning than 1. Therefore, 9/18 (long one infinity) is a better day to get married on than 9/4 (long death). I wanted to get married on 8/8/08, but my boyfriend was too scared. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted May 30, 2009 Share Posted May 30, 2009 In your situation, the travellers needs trump the wants of locals. Book the long weekend. Unless you're planning on leaving the next morning for your honeymoon, it's a great way to have a nice gift-opening brunch with family, that you might not have a chance to talk to/get to know, if they live some distance away. Link to post Share on other sites
Lucky_One Posted May 31, 2009 Share Posted May 31, 2009 Gawd, I HATE when friends and family get married on holiday weekends!!! Screws up the entire day off, when we could have had a nice long vacay at the beach. Link to post Share on other sites
D-Lish Posted May 31, 2009 Share Posted May 31, 2009 LB, Make your decision about the date considering what works best for you and your husband. If there are people who resent the date because it is on a long weekend- that's their problem. Just remember, your wedding is about you and your guy. Pick and choose your battles about what you want to compromise on. My ex-husband's family got so controlling about their "wants" that we ended up taking out a loan and paying for our own wedding so we could design the event we wanted. Make a list of the things you REALLY want- things that are important to you. Stick to your guns about those things. Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted May 31, 2009 Share Posted May 31, 2009 think about the key guests you want at your wedding (family, best friends) and weigh the options. Even as their opinion about a holiday wedding, you're doing this far enough in advance that they can block the date if the need arises. my only concern about tying it in it with a holiday is the cost to fly if there's traditional a rate hike for a holiday. However, the extra day in the weekend could offset it. other thing to think about: What kind of weather are you looking at? Is it cooler by early Sept. where you're at? In Texas, it's a humid hell pretty much wherever you go, so you have to be pretty damned determined to stage anything outdoors then ... oh, and consider future work schedules if one or both jobs entail holiday hours. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lauriebell82 Posted May 31, 2009 Author Share Posted May 31, 2009 Thanks for the responses! I looked up the airfares and they don't look all that much different, however some of the people on our guest list work for the airlines and want to "fly stand by" so they don't have to pay for tickets. It is more difficult to get on a plane when it is a holiday weekend because the flights are fuller. Everyone's got a different complaint/reason. My fiance thinks that if we do book it on that weekend we will here a lot of the same stories that people have other stuff to do, can't afford tickets, traffic will be a mess. In otherwise a bunch of "sob stories." I don't know, that might be true, but I think that may happen no matter when we have it, someone will have some sort of issue. Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted May 31, 2009 Share Posted May 31, 2009 LB, people will have issues no matter what you do, when you do it, or how. The fact is, except for your close friends and close family, a lot of people see weddings as an obligation. And an obligation on the last holiday weekend of the summer won't be welcomed by many. Yes, it's your day and your bf's day, so consider carefully whom the two of you really want at your wedding - the people who mean the most to you - and try to accommodate them so they are there. If others can't make it, they can't make it. I know your fiancee has a lot of out of town friends he's close to, so do give him the consideration of trying to accommodate them so his important people can be there with the least amount of hassle. Airfares today may not be that different, but as you get closer to the holiday weekend and people actually start booking flights, they go up and the planes get very crowded...trust me, I flew home for many holidays and it's the worst time to fly, unless it's Christmas Day. Link to post Share on other sites
Lucky_One Posted May 31, 2009 Share Posted May 31, 2009 LB, Make your decision about the date considering what works best for you and your husband. If there are people who resent the date because it is on a long weekend- that's their problem. Just remember, your wedding is about you and your guy. Pick and choose your battles about what you want to compromise on. My ex-husband's family got so controlling about their "wants" that we ended up taking out a loan and paying for our own wedding so we could design the event we wanted. Make a list of the things you REALLY want- things that are important to you. Stick to your guns about those things. This is the best piece of advice on this entire thread!! (Also, don't forget that many men aren't totally into all aspects of wedding planning, and if this one issues gets to be too big of a deal, then it can turn a man off to a lot of the future stuff.) Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lauriebell82 Posted May 31, 2009 Author Share Posted May 31, 2009 LB, people will have issues no matter what you do, when you do it, or how. The fact is, except for your close friends and close family, a lot of people see weddings as an obligation. And an obligation on the last holiday weekend of the summer won't be welcomed by many. Yes, it's your day and your bf's day, so consider carefully whom the two of you really want at your wedding - the people who mean the most to you - and try to accommodate them so they are there. If others can't make it, they can't make it. I know your fiancee has a lot of out of town friends he's close to, so do give him the consideration of trying to accommodate them so his important people can be there with the least amount of hassle. Airfares today may not be that different, but as you get closer to the holiday weekend and people actually start booking flights, they go up and the planes get very crowded...trust me, I flew home for many holidays and it's the worst time to fly, unless it's Christmas Day. Yeah, well my parents left it totally up to us what we want to do so this is completely our decision. You brought up a lot of good points, I agree with a lot of what you have said. I know people probably will be able to come if it isn't on a holiday. A lot of people have to drive/fly so it will be easier to make it on the 18th instead. We aren't going to have a farewell brunch or anything so people may leave whenever they chose. And the extra day may not matter just because I doubt people will pay for 2 nights in a hotel room. I can't believe how much work this is and it's just planning the date! Yikes. Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted June 1, 2009 Share Posted June 1, 2009 I think you should do what works best for you, your fiance, and the people closest to you (your closest family and friends, i.e., bridal party plus a few more). I doubt any of them will care if it's over a holiday weekend, but who knows. If you have a lot of people that will have to travel a far distance (via airplane), I'd book the holiday weekend. IMO, when people have to travel a long distance, they appreciate the extra time. In that case, you'll have MORE people coming than if it were a regular weekend. However, if it's primarily locals, you could do either. As for those who would have a "sob story," do you really want those people present at the most important day of your life thusfar??? Just something to consider... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lauriebell82 Posted June 1, 2009 Author Share Posted June 1, 2009 I think you should do what works best for you, your fiance, and the people closest to you (your closest family and friends, i.e., bridal party plus a few more). I doubt any of them will care if it's over a holiday weekend, but who knows. If you have a lot of people that will have to travel a far distance (via airplane), I'd book the holiday weekend. IMO, when people have to travel a long distance, they appreciate the extra time. In that case, you'll have MORE people coming than if it were a regular weekend. However, if it's primarily locals, you could do either. As for those who would have a "sob story," do you really want those people present at the most important day of your life thusfar??? Just something to consider... Yeah, that's true. My family (my aunts) complained that they will have to buy tickets instead of fly standby so that's why we are considering moving it. Everyone will leave on Sunday anyway because they won't want to pay for 2 nights in a hotel so it doesn't make that much of a difference whether or not they have an extra day to travel. It's less hot in mid September as well, and my dress is absolutely sweltering. Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted June 2, 2009 Share Posted June 2, 2009 ...my dress is absolutely sweltering. You already have your dress??? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lauriebell82 Posted June 2, 2009 Author Share Posted June 2, 2009 You already have your dress??? No, I just looked at a few online, but the one I was looking at is a heavy ballgown so I'm probably going to be very hot in it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lauriebell82 Posted June 7, 2009 Author Share Posted June 7, 2009 So, we decided on September 18th, 2010! We are so excited! Link to post Share on other sites
Maggs Posted June 8, 2009 Share Posted June 8, 2009 So, we decided on September 18th, 2010! We are so excited! Good for you LB. We've set a date too...June 26, 2010. Link to post Share on other sites
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