Els Posted May 31, 2009 Share Posted May 31, 2009 This is a partial rant as well. Just got back from two consecutive days chock-full of weddings; and am in a rather melancholy mood. I realized I sort of get into that funk whenever I watch soppy movies, listen to soppy songs, etc... not only the 'chick flick romance' movies, but virtually any well-acted romantic/passionate scenes and happy-ever-after endings! I realized that I've been subconsciously avoiding many of them. My SO consciously avoids them. How about the rest of you? Link to post Share on other sites
Island Girl Posted May 31, 2009 Share Posted May 31, 2009 I dive into them. -- At least the movies, etc. Generally when I am feeling morose I find a good romantic comedy can help or crying while watching a good drama is a release. But real life is different. It is really hard to be around couples. This is especially true of my brother and sister in law right now who are in the baby talk constant lovey dovey phase. Being around couples glaringly reminds me that I am there alone and that my SO isn't visible or present. They know about him. They ask about him. But it isn't the same obviously. And we attended many of these functions together before. So it is hard. My social life has changed quite a bit since he has been gone. I am alone a lot more than I used to be. Link to post Share on other sites
Rollercoasterr Posted May 31, 2009 Share Posted May 31, 2009 I love romance movies and things. But one movie that really had me tore up for a couple of days was P.S. I Love You, simply because it reminded me of the situation that many of us are in with our foreign loves. Just thinking that he may die unexpectedly like the guy in the movie made me upset. But now that I've watched it a couple thousand times I'm immune to that. But when I'm feeling down, I find that I'm flipping through the channels on my TV looking for a romance movie. I dont read many romance books, so there's that. And since we've been searching for first dance songs I guess I listen to quite a bit of those. Link to post Share on other sites
KikiW Posted June 1, 2009 Share Posted June 1, 2009 Thanks for ruining the movie Roller!!! just kidding I am a sucker for a good romantic comedy or romantic drama - Sense and Sensibility, Pride and Prejudice are always lovely to watch. I am not into romance novels, although I suppose I probably would be if I gave them a chance. Link to post Share on other sites
Rollercoasterr Posted June 1, 2009 Share Posted June 1, 2009 It aint ruinin' the movie if you can see it on the previews AND it happens within the first 10 minutes. So pffttt! :bunny: Link to post Share on other sites
Eilonwy Posted June 1, 2009 Share Posted June 1, 2009 I sometimes do avoid them. Depends on my mood... but they definitely affect me way more than they used to, because they show me all the things I'm missing... I can only watch them when I'm in a really good mood now, or I'll be sobbing. Link to post Share on other sites
hoping2heal Posted June 1, 2009 Share Posted June 1, 2009 I love the romance movies. It makes me think of him so fondly . Then again, I'm more fortunate than most that I'm just a few small months away from no more seperation, so seeing everyone else just makes me feel more excited. Link to post Share on other sites
Spirit of the Ocean Posted June 1, 2009 Share Posted June 1, 2009 I agree with Island Girl, real life couples are so much worse than romantic movies/books! It really gets to me, and I'm like "Damn, I wish that were me!" Having said that I consciously avoid songs that both my boyfriend and I like, songs that we used to listen together. It's way too hard, music can be a curse sometimes! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Els Posted June 2, 2009 Author Share Posted June 2, 2009 Oh, I like romantic comedies as well! That's why I'm torn between wanting to watch them... and deciding not to because I just KNOW I'll feel melancholic after seeing all those happy endings with people snuggling in each other's arms. I agree that real life is worse. Unfortunately it's not as easy as just choosing to not watch people in real life, though. Kinda unavoidable. And yes, the music!!! I love music... but sometimes I just force myself to not listen to the lyrics and just enjoy the instrumentals instead. Ugh. I sometimes feel like LDRs cause me to cut off a whole genre of entertainment media. WHY ARE 50% OF SONGS LOVE SONGS ANYWAY!?!?! Grrrr.. Link to post Share on other sites
Lyssa Posted June 2, 2009 Share Posted June 2, 2009 I watch them whenever I can. It's fun cause I'll be thinking about him and what I'd like to do to him when I see him again.. which is pretty soon!! Link to post Share on other sites
Island Girl Posted June 2, 2009 Share Posted June 2, 2009 Oh, I like romantic comedies as well! That's why I'm torn between wanting to watch them... and deciding not to because I just KNOW I'll feel melancholic after seeing all those happy endings with people snuggling in each other's arms. Here I am chiming in again. Bet you guys are just "ugh!" about the positivity angle because sometimes I even make myself sick with it. And honestly I think it is because if I "buy in" to the other perspective I don't think at this point I'd have a lot to draw from to pull myself out of it ---- if that makes sense. I really have been really sad and missing him for so very *$&$^&$ long!! UGH! YUCK!! I am so done with the distance - yet I still have it as my constant companion. Damn it. But - romantic comedies - and good romances REALLY help me because I always think at the end "See!! We have a love like that and it is that kind of love that a lot of people will say doesn't even exist. They don't know it and have never seen it even with all of the people they may know! And I have it. It is a tremendous gift to really have it and know it first hand." Maybe because it took me until him and everything we have been through to truly trust another person with my being. It took until him to really know real love. I think that 50% of the songs of the world are love songs because so many people want to know it, have it, or have known it and have had it snatched from them. It makes me feel sad for all of those people and happy I am not one of them. Now, Richard Marx "Right Here Waiting" gets me every single time. I love it -- the words are so much my everyday life -- but after I hear it I am always in a funk. But I can't help listening, singing along, and crying when it comes on. Link to post Share on other sites
Rollercoasterr Posted June 2, 2009 Share Posted June 2, 2009 Mathew once said I was so happy all the time that I must crap rainbows every morning. Just sayin'. It takes a lot to get me down. Link to post Share on other sites
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