one goal Posted June 1, 2009 Share Posted June 1, 2009 Hey everyone. Been awhile since I posted. I was wondering I want a girlfriend really bad. I'm in my 20s and go to a junior college. Most of the girls are a few years younger than me. I don't look that old though. My question is how do I get them at school? I mean if I have a cute girl I like in my class what is the best way to go about it and ask them out or let them know Im interested? I start summer class in a week. Whats the best way to go about them without looking creepy? Link to post Share on other sites
Peter_pan Posted June 1, 2009 Share Posted June 1, 2009 get to know them, make them laugh and your be set Link to post Share on other sites
Soul Bear Posted June 1, 2009 Share Posted June 1, 2009 its all about confidence, but pan described it better. Link to post Share on other sites
Author one goal Posted June 1, 2009 Author Share Posted June 1, 2009 get to know them, make them laugh and your be set What happens if they don't sit in my area during class? Link to post Share on other sites
Errant Posted June 1, 2009 Share Posted June 1, 2009 What happens if they don't sit in my area during class? "Happen" to run into them as they leave. Introduce yourself (if they don't know you), say hi, and ask about something in the class or something you know they're interested in. Segue to something you're interested in. Ask a question about them. Be happy and open. Link to post Share on other sites
Author one goal Posted June 1, 2009 Author Share Posted June 1, 2009 "Happen" to run into them as they leave. Introduce yourself (if they don't know you), say hi, and ask about something in the class or something you know they're interested in. Segue to something you're interested in. Ask a question about them. Be happy and open. Should I tell them I think they're cute? Link to post Share on other sites
kostoronto Posted June 1, 2009 Share Posted June 1, 2009 Not so quickly. Ease into it. If they're giving warm vibes right away, and you feel like it flows well in the conversation, say what you feel. Link to post Share on other sites
Author one goal Posted June 1, 2009 Author Share Posted June 1, 2009 Not so quickly. Ease into it. If they're giving warm vibes right away, and you feel like it flows well in the conversation, say what you feel. Where are good places to sit before class? Where do they hangout at you think? Link to post Share on other sites
Author one goal Posted June 1, 2009 Author Share Posted June 1, 2009 Also forgot to add, but I need to take a gym class too. Would like Yoga for example be a class I'd see a lot of girls in? Plus if you work with partners! Link to post Share on other sites
Author one goal Posted June 2, 2009 Author Share Posted June 2, 2009 But just thinking about it wouldn't it be pretty obvious though if you take a yoga class? I mean the girls would have their B*tch radar up. What are some non gym classes I can take that girls would typically take? Link to post Share on other sites
kostoronto Posted June 2, 2009 Share Posted June 2, 2009 no, if you take a yoga class and are cool about it, the girls will appreciate that. Just take it seriously. You don't want to get in between a girl and her yoga! I wouldn't know, I'm only in high school, but I'm guessing it's different for each class. Link to post Share on other sites
xpaperxcutx Posted June 2, 2009 Share Posted June 2, 2009 no, if you take a yoga class and are cool about it, the girls will appreciate that. Just take it seriously. You don't want to get in between a girl and her yoga! I wouldn't know, I'm only in high school, but I'm guessing it's different for each class. See that's just silly going to yoga just to get girls. That's one of the reasons why I go to a women's gym. Link to post Share on other sites
kostoronto Posted June 2, 2009 Share Posted June 2, 2009 it's not wrong to go to events to meet women or just meet new people. that's why I go to leadership seminars. to meet like-minded people. there's nothing wrong with networking and making friends through common interests. Link to post Share on other sites
Author one goal Posted June 2, 2009 Author Share Posted June 2, 2009 See that's just silly going to yoga just to get girls. That's one of the reasons why I go to a women's gym. So you mean it's not a good idea to meet girls that way? It would seem too obvious? What classes to take are good to meet girls at besides gym class? Link to post Share on other sites
xpaperxcutx Posted June 2, 2009 Share Posted June 2, 2009 So you mean it's not a good idea to meet girls that way? It would seem too obvious? What classes to take are good to meet girls at besides gym class? How about taking classes to get an education rather than going to classes just to meet girls? Most girls don't appreciate a guy hitting on them when they're sweaty, and they definitely won't like it if they sense you have ulterior motives. The best you can do is try to get college girl at coffee shops. If that doesn't work you can always make friends in a study group. Link to post Share on other sites
BobSacamento Posted June 2, 2009 Share Posted June 2, 2009 How about taking classes to get an education rather than going to classes just to meet girls? Most girls don't appreciate a guy hitting on them when they're sweaty, and they definitely won't like it if they sense you have ulterior motives. The best you can do is try to get college girl at coffee shops. If that doesn't work you can always make friends in a study group. So your saying people don't meet people at the gym? He has a very legitimate strategy that has worked for many people. Link to post Share on other sites
Author one goal Posted June 2, 2009 Author Share Posted June 2, 2009 How about taking classes to get an education rather than going to classes just to meet girls? Most girls don't appreciate a guy hitting on them when they're sweaty, and they definitely won't like it if they sense you have ulterior motives. The best you can do is try to get college girl at coffee shops. If that doesn't work you can always make friends in a study group. Why dont they want a guy hitting on them while they're sweaty? Link to post Share on other sites
start-fresh Posted June 2, 2009 Share Posted June 2, 2009 So your saying people don't meet people at the gym? He has a very legitimate strategy that has worked for many people. Has it really? I'm not being sarcastic but it seems like women always say what paper has that they don't like to get hit on at the gym. When is it a good idea and when isn't it? Link to post Share on other sites
BobSacamento Posted June 2, 2009 Share Posted June 2, 2009 Has it really? I'm not being sarcastic but it seems like women always say what paper has that they don't like to get hit on at the gym. When is it a good idea and when isn't it? Those women who say they don't like to get hit on go to Curves. But really if there's an attraction does it really matter where you are? Link to post Share on other sites
Author one goal Posted June 2, 2009 Author Share Posted June 2, 2009 So is it a good idea to take a Yoga or Pilates class? Link to post Share on other sites
BobSacamento Posted June 2, 2009 Share Posted June 2, 2009 Excellent idea. Link to post Share on other sites
xpaperxcutx Posted June 2, 2009 Share Posted June 2, 2009 Why dont they want a guy hitting on them while they're sweaty? :: smack :: Then why the hell should we make up ourselves for more than two hours just to look pretty for you guys? So you guys could just stare at us? Leave us alone at the gym, that's our sacred time. You can always hit on us at the bar and buy us a drink. Link to post Share on other sites
spiracles Posted June 2, 2009 Share Posted June 2, 2009 don't hit on people at the gym. seriously. it is the most ****ing annoying thing in the world. and i know of no straight men who take pilates, although i can't say i know any gay guys who do either...so i don't really know where i was going with that. but the point is, don't flirt with people at the gym, people aren't there to get hit on. and if you're going to take yoga, do it to learn yoga. i hear it is actually quite nice, but if you go there to leer at women, i imagine you will be asked to leave. Link to post Share on other sites
mogul Posted June 2, 2009 Share Posted June 2, 2009 Taking a yoga or gym class to meet girls is pure stupidity. It will be an utter waste of your time. I suggest to meet girls in your class, you strategically walk out the same time as them or ask how they did on an assignment/test/upcoming test. Make them laugh, talk about classes, exchange names and what not. Be sure you get to class early, and see if she sits by you. If not, for future reference do so and go from there or "study together" or "ask for help". this method has worked countless wonders. -it would be easier if you went to a university and suggested you study back at dorm/apartment and get off topic to watching tv/internet and go from there to close. Link to post Share on other sites
robinincarolina Posted June 2, 2009 Share Posted June 2, 2009 Someone posted above about confidence. I agree. If you are confident, happy, and just upbeat and fun, the girls will come to you. Thats the real secret, unfortunalely, its a skill that usually comes with age. My motto is fake it til you make it though. Link to post Share on other sites
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