Touche Posted June 5, 2009 Share Posted June 5, 2009 I know, that's what I don't understand about the "theory." Some families are HUGE, some are teeny tiny. But look, even TBF said she hardly sees most of those people, family or not. And so many others said the same thing. I just find inviting them weird in a way. SG, you little liar! You would want an ostentatious huge rock! don't lie to us!:laugh: I can certainly appreciate it but it's just not me. And yes, what you said to LB was right. I'm not sure why she's so offended especially since I said MY stone size of choice is a ONE carat. JUST like hers! And trust me, we can afford the "real thing" AND bigger...not to brag. But I have no interest. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted June 5, 2009 Share Posted June 5, 2009 I know, that's what I don't understand about the "theory." Some families are HUGE, some are teeny tiny.Yes, so the theory needs to be modified to accommodate for family size differences! I think that people should do whatever they want to do. In my situation, the moms want something larger, so they're taking the more traditional route of paying for it. That's fine, all things considered. As long as they're willing to do all the work, who am I to complain or insist, since it's not stressing either one of us out. If anything, it's causing more laughter, than anything else, since it's an endless opportunity for the family to tease the two Momzillas. Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted June 5, 2009 Share Posted June 5, 2009 If anything, it's causing more laughter, than anything else, since it's an endless opportunity for the family to tease the two Momzillas. Oh lordy TBF. Just think when you guys give them a grandbaby! You will need multiple walk-in closets for that child. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted June 5, 2009 Share Posted June 5, 2009 Oh lordy TBF. Just think when you guys give them a grandbaby! You will need multiple walk-in closets for that child. Both already have grandbabies and yes, you're not far off the mark!! They're both insane about kids, so both of us, come by it honestly. Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted June 5, 2009 Share Posted June 5, 2009 Yes, so the theory needs to be modified to accommodate for family size differences! Immediate family size differences only...sorry. I think that people should do whatever they want to do. In my situation, the moms want something larger, so they're taking the more traditional route of paying for it. That's fine, all things considered. As long as they're willing to do all the work, who am I to complain or insist, since it's not stressing either one of us out. If anything, it's causing more laughter, than anything else, since it's an endless opportunity for the family to tease the two Momzillas. Yes, I guess as long as you are BOTH fine with that. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Star Gazer Posted June 5, 2009 Author Share Posted June 5, 2009 SG, you little liar! You would want an ostentatious huge rock! don't lie to us!:laugh: I can certainly appreciate it but it's just not me. Okay, okay. I do. But in all fairness, I want just around or under 2 carats. Enough to say, "Wowwww..." but not so big that anyone would ever think, "That's got to be fake." When BF saw the ring his brother chose (the 1.64 one), he thought it was small. (crossing fingers! ) And yes, what you said to LB was right. I'm not sure why she's so offended especially since I said MY stone size of choice is a ONE carat. JUST like hers! Meh. Some people are easily offended. Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted June 5, 2009 Share Posted June 5, 2009 Both already have grandbabies and yes, you're not far off the mark!! They're both insane about kids, so both of us, come by it honestly. Oh but just think of all those weekends free you will have with your honey. That's awesome. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted June 5, 2009 Share Posted June 5, 2009 Yes, I guess as long as you are BOTH fine with that.If we were to do this wedding on our own, it would be less than half the size, with the possibility and even pretty good probability of eloping, instead. But...with how important it's become, as a project for our moms, it's fine with both of us. He's not stressed. Kind of bemused, amused and tolerant, which is how I feel. We're both pretty quick to shut things down, if they get too insane. Even with our wedding invitations. We laid down the law to the moms. Very traditional, very plain. This was both his and my choice, so they listened and have been ordered. No big deal. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted June 5, 2009 Share Posted June 5, 2009 Oh but just think of all those weekends free you will have with your honey. That's awesome. Haha...now you've got me thinking babies and we're not married yet. Our timeline is somewhere between two to five years after we get married, to start a family. Who knows, it might be sooner! In the interim, we'll keep practicing! Link to post Share on other sites
sb129 Posted June 5, 2009 Share Posted June 5, 2009 You're pre-supposing that most grooms are happy to "stay out of it", as you say. I beg to differ. If they're given the chance, they LOVE being made part of the decision making process in planning what is also THEIR wedding.. I agree with this. Most of the recent grooms I know were really involved in the wedding planning. Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted June 5, 2009 Share Posted June 5, 2009 Okay, okay. I do. But in all fairness, I want just around or under 2 carats. Enough to say, "Wowwww..." but not so big that anyone would ever think, "That's got to be fake." I hear you. I guess that's what I didn't want anything bigger especially since mine IS fake. Plus my small hands...anything larger looks silly on me. I actually have some gemstone rings that ARE bigger than a carat, and I always feel self-conscious when I wear them. When BF saw the ring his brother chose (the 1.64 one), he thought it was small. (crossing fingers! ) Yep, you're getting a rock! Meh. Some people are easily offended. I guess so...go figure? LB, little tip for ya...if you really want to have a good marriage you better develop a sense of humor and FAST! Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted June 5, 2009 Share Posted June 5, 2009 I agree with this. Most of the recent grooms I know were really involved in the wedding planning. Were they straight?:lmao::laugh: Ok, I kid, I kid. But yeah, that's been my experience too. Link to post Share on other sites
sb129 Posted June 5, 2009 Share Posted June 5, 2009 Aw, leave off LB. She will learn to laugh at herself- she's getting better. Shes excited, shes engaged, she has her dream engagement ring on her finger and she's planning the wedding that many people on LS said would never eventuate. Let her enjoy it.... Please? Link to post Share on other sites
sb129 Posted June 5, 2009 Share Posted June 5, 2009 Were they straight?:lmao::laugh: Ok, I kid, I kid. But yeah, that's been my experience too. Well- all the brides have either got babies or are knocked up now, so something must be happening in the marital bed! (Not that that always means anything, but lets not go there!) Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted June 5, 2009 Share Posted June 5, 2009 Well- all the brides have either got babies or are knocked up now, so something must be happening in the marital bed! (Not that that always means anything, but lets not go there!) But you're right...I think nowadays men feel like they can have more of a say in their weddings without being thought of as being effeminate in some way. Mr. T chose the wedding cake. Not my favorite by the way, but I got to choose other things..we had to do some compromising. But then it became OUR wedding. And not much has changed since then...we still do things the same way. I wouldn't have changed a thing. I liked that we both planned it together. Link to post Share on other sites
sb129 Posted June 5, 2009 Share Posted June 5, 2009 Wonderboy chose our wedding cake too. After months of him going on and on about how overpriced and ridiculous wedding cakes were, and how a "normal" cake costs $5 to make, and just because its a wedding cake with a few flowers on the top people seem to think its OK to just add 000s to the price blah blah... Wouldn't you know, he picked a three tier chocolate mud cake finished with white chocolate icing and "shards" (yes, "shards", not "panels" or "slabs" ) of white chocolate that cost $450. (Conversion $1NZD= $0.58USD) We DID end up using the cake as the dessert for the reception and it was the most divine cake I had ever eaten, but still..... It was fun to plan things together though. Especially the music- that was fun. And practising our dance. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Star Gazer Posted June 5, 2009 Author Share Posted June 5, 2009 LB, little tip for ya...if you really want to have a good marriage you better develop a sense of humor and FAST! :lmao: So true! Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted June 5, 2009 Share Posted June 5, 2009 We DID end up using the cake as the dessert for the reception and it was the most divine cake I had ever eaten, but still..... So did you save the top tier in your freezer and eat it on your One Year Anniversary? Grossest American tradition EVER. Who really wants to eat food that's been in the freezer for a year?! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Star Gazer Posted June 5, 2009 Author Share Posted June 5, 2009 Wonderboy chose our wedding cake too. Wouldn't you know, he picked a three tier chocolate mud cake finished with white chocolate icing and "shards" (yes, "shards", not "panels" or "slabs" ) of white chocolate that cost $450. (Conversion $1NZD= $0.58USD) Why am I not surprised? For some reason, looking at him, I imagine he'd be very good at interior decorating. Must've been the cut of his pants at the wedding. They looked so stylish. I heart Mr. SB aka Wonderboy. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted June 5, 2009 Share Posted June 5, 2009 Have any of you tried whole wheat or cracked wheat wedding cakes? It's to die for. Ours will be with whole wheat, fresh blueberries, with whipped cream icing. All natural, great taste and great texture! *waits for the eewwwww* Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted June 5, 2009 Share Posted June 5, 2009 *waits for the eewwwww* You will only get one from me if you freeze it and eat it a year later. Because that's pretty eewwwww. Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted June 5, 2009 Share Posted June 5, 2009 Wonderboy chose our wedding cake too. After months of him going on and on about how overpriced and ridiculous wedding cakes were, and how a "normal" cake costs $5 to make, and just because its a wedding cake with a few flowers on the top people seem to think its OK to just add 000s to the price blah blah... Wouldn't you know, he picked a three tier chocolate mud cake finished with white chocolate icing and "shards" (yes, "shards", not "panels" or "slabs" ) of white chocolate that cost $450. (Conversion $1NZD= $0.58USD) We DID end up using the cake as the dessert for the reception and it was the most divine cake I had ever eaten, but still..... It was fun to plan things together though. Especially the music- that was fun. And practising our dance. YIKES, on the cake! OMG...but as long as you enjoyed it. So don't laugh...guess what kind of cake Mr. T wanted? Carrot cake! WTF? Who has carrot cake as a wedding cake? But I agreed and went along with it. Funny but it's never been my favorite but ever since then, I've loved it. It was the BEST carrot cake ever. I'm not kidding. Yes, we picked the music together too and had a lot of fun before the wedding also. Do you have video of it? Even though we got married in the dark ages...1995, we have video. I treasure it. Hey, maybe I'll post ours on youtube. :lmao: So true! I wasn't kidding. It's the best advice I can give her. LB, you need to chill out. You said I did (when I already am/was) but perhaps you should take your own advice...just sayin'. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted June 5, 2009 Share Posted June 5, 2009 You will only get one from me if you freeze it and eat it a year later. Because that's pretty eewwwww.That is one disgusting tradition, one I never knew about or if ever knew about, blanked it from my mind! Link to post Share on other sites
sb129 Posted June 5, 2009 Share Posted June 5, 2009 So did you save the top tier in your freezer and eat it on your One Year Anniversary? ! No- we only got married this January and we needed to cake to feed the guests at the reception! we saved one piece and its still in my mums freezer. I thought some couples saved the top tier to be used as a christening cake for their first child? () Although even then, by the time our first baby is born we STILL won't have been married for a year. (and no its wasn't shotgun! ) Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted June 5, 2009 Share Posted June 5, 2009 That is one disgusting tradition, one I never knew about or if ever knew about, blanked it from my mind! It's horrible. It becomes half the size due to shrinkage and the taste...OMG. Link to post Share on other sites
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