hisprincess4eva Posted June 2, 2009 Share Posted June 2, 2009 My Bf and i have been together for more than a year now. and we have been in a LDR for one year. Currently he is away finishing off his 2nd year of med school. I have an issue that seems to bother me so much and i jus wanted to know if i am overreacting or overthinking it. My bf and i have met online on rating website. Where u rate people and make new friends. Naturally my bf and i are very flirty people. We love to make new friends where ever we go. I've talked to my bf about this issue of him flirting with other girls and he assured me how he is just being friendly and nothing else is going on there. But recently whenever i go to check his profile at the website we met, i see all these girls flirting with him and as usual he is being generous and replying back. But in particular there is this one girl who tends to irritate me so much, she keeps leaving comments on my bf's profile. Last night my bf left a comment on her profile saying "can i spank that ass? ;)". I did not let it get to me because i know how he is jus teasing her. but at the same time my heart has been so num, thinking why did he say that to her. She is no way near him, infact she is another country away. I do not want to bring this issue up right now because we are distance from each other. But honestly do you guys think that my bf was innocently emotional flirting? or it was way too much this time? I know he loves me deep down inside, because he says this to me every single time. Actions speak louder than words and he has proved to me many times how much he truly loves me. I dunno what to do, to make myself feel better. I mean yes i know he loves me, and wants to be with me. But i do not want to be insecure or feel insecure jus because of a girl who does not know my bf as much as i know him for. Any advice or suggestions will be truly appreciated. Thank u for readin my long post Link to post Share on other sites
SophieA Posted June 2, 2009 Share Posted June 2, 2009 To me, him saying "can I spank that ass?" to another woman is TOTALLY unacceptable...I'd say your ass is the only ass he should be talking about spanking. I suppose it's up to YOU what is acceptable to YOU. Link to post Share on other sites
lora22 Posted June 2, 2009 Share Posted June 2, 2009 Unacceptable. Don't think it's emotional cheating, I just think it's inappropriate flirting/hitting on some other girl. Link to post Share on other sites
DL3 Posted June 3, 2009 Share Posted June 3, 2009 I agree with lora, its unacceptable. Moreover, I don't think there's anything "innocent" about how he's flirting with that language, that's flat out player flirt. You shouldn't be tolerating this. Link to post Share on other sites
hoping2heal Posted June 5, 2009 Share Posted June 5, 2009 He knows you are not comfortable with what he's doing, you have told him. Telling you he loves you over and over on a daily basis, does not mean very much in the wake of continuing to repeatedly take part in something that bothers you, and very validly so might I add. Bf and I are LDR and I do not flirt whatsoever, and not because he asks me not too; he has never once asked me not to flirt with others, he doesn't need too. I know it would hurt him, so I just don't do it period. Link to post Share on other sites
Shock Me Sane Posted June 5, 2009 Share Posted June 5, 2009 I don't think he meant anything by it. He's just being flirtatious, and that's fine, to some degree. However, "Can I spank that ass?" is not acceptable. He probably didn't think about it at the time though. So, I would just let him know that "Can I spank that ass?" is where you draw the line as far as flirtatious comments go. If he does it again after you ask him not to, then I would be worried. If he's apologetic and never does it again, I would just forgive him. Link to post Share on other sites
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