I know I'm kind of grasping at straws, here...

[Inflikted]

I'm in sort of a bad situation; see, there's a girl I've know since we were little kids, and ever since then I was totally crazy about her (but at the time, too shy). We had to go our separate ways after grade school, though, and I haven't seen her in over five years. About a year ago, we got back in touch via MySpace, and getting to chat with her again and get to know her a little better online, I found that all those feelings just came rushing back. I played it cool, though; I knew it had been a while since we had seen each other, and I wasn't exactly expecting to immediately jump into some passionate whirlwind romantic relationship. We chatted for months, but I wasn't quite sure how to delicately take our talks to the next level (I'm relatively inexperienced with girls in that kind of way).

 

One thing that's worth noting is the distance; now, normally, she lives in a city that's only a mere 15-20 minutes tops, but when she's away at school, she's in a city about 1.5-2 hours away. Not THAT big of a distance, but enough to make it difficult to really take things off the ground with her, yanno? Last year, she came home for the summer, but I stupidly waited to ask her about meeting up until right around the time she was leaving for school, and she never actually answered me on that one. Things got a little awkward for us after that, and I was too embarrassed to write to her again for a while. Then, a little after this past Christmas, I tried getting back in touch with her, and she kinda seemed willing to write with me again, but still a bit awkward with me. I decided to try one more time to write her about meeting up (this time, I was a little more wordy, and expressed a tiny bit more interest "romantically"), and again, no answer from her (although, she WAS still in school at the time). Thing is with that last message, there's a good chance she didn't even get that message... That's not to give myself false hope, or anything, but for some reason, I seem to have trouble with MySpace's private messaging system; there have been a number of times I wrote messages to friends that they never even received. I can't help but wonder whether she really ignored that last message, or whether she never even got it and is not directly brushing me off. :/

 

Anyway, that's not the point of this topic; that was just the background info, here. Now, I know, I'm probably not exactly at the best standing with her, here, and some might even say this is more trouble than it's worth, but I can't help but be curious about seeing her again, and seeing what, if anything, could be there. I'm not being unrealistic, here; I'm not expecting to meet up with her, find out that we're absolutely perfect for each other, fall madly in love, live happily ever after, etc. But I just wanna see what if, yanno? This girl has always been such a big part of my life, and at the very least, even if there's no potential for a relationship, seeing her again might give me more closure if nothing else.

 

So now here's where things get interesting. About a month from now, I'll be taking a trip out of state; and it happens that I'll be passing through her city on the way there (it seems she's staying there for the summer, rather than coming home like she did last year). Again, I know I'm not at the best standing with her, and heck, we haven't even written each other in a few months, but... would it really be that bad of an idea to try to talk her into meeting up while I'm passing through her city? Seems like such a good opportunity, to me, and I'd hate to let such an opportunity just pass by, but I dunno how well-received such an idea would be to her. :/ Heck, I don't even know how I'd word such a message to her (I'm pretty inexperienced when it comes to girls in that sense). Ideas? Advice? Anything?

[brown_cow_eyez]

I duno.. Tell her that you are going to be driving through that way and youd like to meet up. All she can do is say no right? Then you havent lost anything because you arent really that invested but she could say yea. I dont know if anyone else agrees with me on that one but I think if you want it take the chance and ask one more time.