carhill Posted June 4, 2009 Share Posted June 4, 2009 If you can drive a tractor, I need some ditches dug. 10 bucks an hour and all the water you can drink silence OK, I guess I'll go do it myself. Enjoy your day Actually, it will be mowing brush, but whatever Link to post Share on other sites
Author 2sure Posted June 4, 2009 Author Share Posted June 4, 2009 SG - 1st. A gold digger is someone who looks for a man solely based on what's in his bank account and what material possessions, trips, shopping sprees, mansions, etc. (or any variation thereof) that he can provide her. 2. She does not care about his character, or passion, or compatibility beyond whether his bank account is compatible with her desires for material excess. Star Gazer, oh yes I can see where most would think the 2 points go hand and hand. Thats really what I'm questioning. I would not say that even at the height of my excavations that character did not matter. That was important. Compatibility? Eh, I could be whoever you want if you were out of town enough. Passion? I would say that was probably not a priority at that time. Ultimately I ended up with a couple of options (engaged) , but was hesitant to pull the trigger. I remember talking to God and saying that I hoped if "true love" was put in front of me, I would still be able to recognize it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author 2sure Posted June 4, 2009 Author Share Posted June 4, 2009 Boldjack - its true , I will probably never have to dig a ditch. But I could, I could figure it out. I'm resourceful like that. And not above it either. I work. A real job. Always have. Probably always will. I have a blue collar work ethic that has taken me further than any of my charms, thats for sure. Link to post Share on other sites
Author 2sure Posted June 4, 2009 Author Share Posted June 4, 2009 She'll marry a man and accept his money and gifts and yet never gives anything back. little if that. THATS what the Crux of it is . Right here. Some men with a certain degree of success dig for a woman who is pretty, socially connected, speaks French, has an education, some professional success and networks,a woman with her own accomplishments... .someone who can either accompany him or gain him entrance to whatever places are on his personal ladder of success or happiness....A Trophy Wife. Then they want her to drop all of that and focus on them, or family, or their career, etc. Never gives anything back?? To me this seems like an agreeable relationship as long as both partners are content with the life that follows. Its a give and take. Sincerely, why is this distasteful? Link to post Share on other sites
boldjack Posted June 4, 2009 Share Posted June 4, 2009 2sure, I'm not questioning your work ethic, and your opinion is just that, your opinion. I am well-to-do. The point is that back when I wasn't, you (or someone like you) may have slept with me but wouldn't have married me. Now , because of my bank acct. I'm "acceptable", no thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
Author 2sure Posted June 4, 2009 Author Share Posted June 4, 2009 You know, like a lot of other people on LS...I came here because I have questions about my life and myself that I have been unable to answer or am uncomfortable with. I'm a work in progress. Honestly, BJ. You have hurt my feelings. Link to post Share on other sites
Taramere Posted June 4, 2009 Share Posted June 4, 2009 Some men with a certain degree of success dig for a woman who is pretty, socially connected, speaks French, has an education, some professional success and networks,a woman with her own accomplishments... .someone who can either accompany him or gain him entrance to whatever places are on his personal ladder of success or happiness....A Trophy Wife. Then they want her to drop all of that and focus on them, or family, or their career, etc. Never gives anything back?? To me this seems like an agreeable relationship as long as both partners are content with the life that follows. Its a give and take. Sincerely, why is this distasteful? As long as that's an arrangement that both parties are happy with, I don't see anything wrong with it. To my mind, a gold-digger would be a woman who married a wealthy man with a view to getting a hefty settlement when she divorces him. A lack of genuine intent to remain married long term, or to promote a happy and healthy relationship. Nothing you've said would put you in that category as far as I can see. It sounds as though you think in terms of what's good for your family, including your husband, rather than simply what's good for you. Link to post Share on other sites
boldjack Posted June 4, 2009 Share Posted June 4, 2009 I apologize for my remarks, for which I make no excuse. I may be a "hillbilly", but I'm usually a well-mannered one. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted June 4, 2009 Share Posted June 4, 2009 IMO, what happens during the selection process (on both sides) is each person's prerogative. If a woman/man prefers a wealthy/powerful partner, good on them It's what happens after a commitment is made, IMO, which truly defines the gold-digger. S/he may have always been so, but it truly is defined when the psychology affects another person (or people). Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted June 4, 2009 Share Posted June 4, 2009 I would not say that even at the height of my excavations that character did not matter. That was important. Compatibility? Eh, I could be whoever you want if you were out of town enough. Passion? I would say that was probably not a priority at that time. See, that sounds like a GD to me. Ultimately I ended up with a couple of options (engaged) , but was hesitant to pull the trigger. I remember talking to God and saying that I hoped if "true love" was put in front of me, I would still be able to recognize it. That makes me sad. Link to post Share on other sites
Author 2sure Posted June 4, 2009 Author Share Posted June 4, 2009 I was digging for gold for years before I met my current husband. Like I said, I had given up on love and relationships and decided to just get as much as I could otherwise. In fact, I would say that many of things I did to improve myself and my life were initially primarily motivated by my desire to put myself in a position to attract the kind of man that could give me things. Regardless of my motivation, the results were that I did improve myself and my life. I was achieving much on my own at the same time I was dating men who I had previously thought out of my league. I had a "big fish" on the line when I met my H. I wanted a rich husband, he wanted a trophy wife - I dont think the word love was mentioned when he proposed. I put off the engagement (over a summer) and was honest to God when I said that after all was said what I really wanted was a partner to share my life with. Just someone average and normal who loved me. I wanted to show someone I had more to offer than banter and tits. I am positive part of my H's attraction to me was that I was swimming in that particular pond. I am not positive I would have even met my H if he had not had aspirations to swim with the big fish. I dont know, and that bothers me about myself. I adore my H. I love him with all my heart. We have suffered and recovered from infidelity. Sometimes, when I am really really angry at him (like I was on D-Day) I have thought to myself: If I was knew I was going to have to deal with this ****, I should have held out for more. I mean, the thought passes. I dont mean it. But it's there you know? Link to post Share on other sites
Author 2sure Posted June 4, 2009 Author Share Posted June 4, 2009 Hmmm. Yep just when I think I have myself figured out...I pull out a whole new bag of tricks. Link to post Share on other sites
Mimolicious Posted June 4, 2009 Share Posted June 4, 2009 Gold digger- gets lipo with your money! I want to say, that if you have not contributed to that man's wealth and you all about the $$$, then you are a gold-digger! If you happen to marry a man that is wealthy and yet you can keep it humble and in fact you do love him then no. Ask yourself the question... if your H didnt have a penny, would you still love him and be with him? Link to post Share on other sites
Author 2sure Posted June 4, 2009 Author Share Posted June 4, 2009 I do love him. And I thank God everyday for putting us in front of each other. I think that sometimes when I am feeling down or when we are having some stress....I question both him and myself. I am an idiot with money, so its a good thing he isnt. He wants someone who doesnt call him names and I dont. I guess there is someone for everyone. Link to post Share on other sites
Mimolicious Posted June 4, 2009 Share Posted June 4, 2009 But in all honesty... What do YOU want? You are saying that you love your husband and all that come$ with him, but I get a feeling that if the pool-boy can offer you some REAL LOVE, companionship and understanding you'll pack the Louis in a heart beat. Don't know... you should go to therapy if you already dont. Link to post Share on other sites
Author 2sure Posted June 4, 2009 Author Share Posted June 4, 2009 No, I have no doubts about the sincerity of my love for my husband or his for me. Sometimes, you know, I just have questions that cant be asked asked at lunch. Sometimes there are no answers. Would I have met him if I had not been digging for gold? Maybe. Maybe I would have. Whats the difference now anyway. Bottom line: My SIL is a bit*h. Thats the end of that. No therapy required. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted June 4, 2009 Share Posted June 4, 2009 gold digger 1. a person who goes out with you fo yo money 2. see anna nicole smith - a lot of people say she was a gold digger, but I think she really loved that 90-year old decrepit penis 3. girl that is only with a man because she wants his money; she'll spend it on jewelery, clothes, psa treatments, etc. Once he goes broke she'll go for another man that is rich or just plain financialy stable. p1: rass dis gyal mek me buy she wun expensive necklace and wun fancy meal p2: oh skunt, den she wun gold digger Link to post Share on other sites
Author 2sure Posted June 4, 2009 Author Share Posted June 4, 2009 LOLOLOLOLOL And I have no idea what you said but have had lipo with his money Link to post Share on other sites
Mimolicious Posted June 4, 2009 Share Posted June 4, 2009 LOLOLOLOLOL And I have no idea what you said but have had lipo with his money LOL! That's from the song GOLD-DIGGER by Kanye West and Jamie Foxx. LOL! Link to post Share on other sites
Mimolicious Posted June 4, 2009 Share Posted June 4, 2009 About your SIL... is her H rich also? or she is just straight up a "hater"? Link to post Share on other sites
Author 2sure Posted June 4, 2009 Author Share Posted June 4, 2009 Just playing it. SCREAMING WITH LAUGHTER. I will sing it for my H when I get home. He'll like that. Link to post Share on other sites
Author 2sure Posted June 4, 2009 Author Share Posted June 4, 2009 About your SIL... is her H rich also? or she is just straight up a "hater"? Ironically, she is married to my brother who has more $ than any of us. Link to post Share on other sites
Toodamnpragmatic Posted June 4, 2009 Share Posted June 4, 2009 and 95% of gold diggers will tell you how much they love their spouse money or not. Very few cut and dry situations like Anna Nicole Smith. Should we do a list of obvious signs of a gold digger??? First spouse is rich/successful. 1. Huge age difference (Age/2 + 7 rule thrown out the window). 2. Multiple marriages/affairs all the time trading up 3. Attractiveness gap 4. Huge career/Job discrepency 5. Education disparity There are plenty of hollywood examples. I'll use as the example Howard Stern/Beth Ostrosky. If you listen to his show and when she is on, they are crazy in love, never fight and are perfect for each other. He is very, very successful (worth probably in the hundred's of millions). There is a 20 year age difference. She is a bikini model, part time actress, who also does talk shows, spokemodel..... She if any one has heard her, seems like a very sweet woman very much in love. If you believe what people who know Howard Stern, is that he too is a very generous person far removed from his radio persona. He is an eclectic looking 54 yo. Is she a gold digger???? Yes she is.... But she also loves him and they are an endearing couple and I will not be surprised should they grow old and happy together. This sort of juxtaposes Michael Douglas and Catherine Zeta Jones, where, no matter when you see them, they just seem odd together and regardless to the contrary it seems she married him for the power. Simple example would be Rupert Murdoch and his wife. BTW anyone watch that show millionaire matchmaker and not think each and every woman, regardless of what they say is a gold digger???? This is a loaded question. Hope I offended no one..... Link to post Share on other sites
sb129 Posted June 4, 2009 Share Posted June 4, 2009 I work. A real job. Always have. Probably always will. I have a blue collar work ethic that has taken me further than any of my charms, thats for sure. I always thought TRUE gold diggers were ones who wanted to marry money so they didn't have to work. Gold digger- gets lipo with your money! 1. a person who goes out with you fo yo money 2. see anna nicole smith - a lot of people say she was a gold digger, but I think she really loved that 90-year old decrepit penis 3. girl that is only with a man because she wants his money; she'll spend it on jewelery, clothes, psa treatments, etc. Once he goes broke she'll go for another man that is rich or just plain financialy stable. p1: rass dis gyal mek me buy she wun expensive necklace and wun fancy meal p2: oh skunt, den she wun gold digger :lmao: I was hoping that the thread wasn't going to go for 4 pages without SOMEONE quoting Kanye! Link to post Share on other sites
Toodamnpragmatic Posted June 4, 2009 Share Posted June 4, 2009 and 95% of gold diggers will tell you how much they love their spouse money or not. Very few cut and dry situations like Anna Nicole Smith. Should we do a list of obvious signs of a gold digger??? First spouse is rich/successful. 1. Huge age difference (Age/2 + 7 rule thrown out the window). 2. Multiple marriages/affairs all the time trading up 3. Attractiveness gap 4. Huge career/Job discrepency 5. Education disparity There are plenty of hollywood examples. I'll use as the example Howard Stern/Beth Ostrosky. If you listen to his show and when she is on, they are crazy in love, never fight and are perfect for each other. He is very, very successful (worth probably in the hundred's of millions). There is a 20 year age difference. She is a bikini model, part time actress, who also does talk shows, spokemodel..... She if any one has heard her, seems like a very sweet woman very much in love. If you believe what people who know Howard Stern, is that he too is a very generous person far removed from his radio persona. He is an eclectic looking 54 yo. Is she a gold digger???? Yes she is.... But she also loves him and they are an endearing couple and I will not be surprised should they grow old and happy together. This sort of juxtaposes Michael Douglas and Catherine Zeta Jones, where, no matter when you see them, they just seem odd together and regardless to the contrary it seems she married him for the power. Simple example would be Rupert Murdoch and his wife. BTW anyone watch that show millionaire matchmaker and not think each and every woman, regardless of what they say is a gold digger???? This is a loaded question. Hope I offended no one..... Oops forgot 6. Uses spouse's celebrity/power/connections for career advancement And classic gold diggers: Jerry Seinfeld's spouse who dumped husband after the honeymoon upon meeting Jerry. Link to post Share on other sites
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