crackerjax9 Posted June 4, 2009 Share Posted June 4, 2009 okay so me and my ex split about a month ago but ive been holding on and trying to get him back....hes told me twice he doesnt know if he wants to be with me anymore so i finally just decided to respect myself and block his number so that i can no longer text or call him. i still love him and want him back but he clearly doesnt seem to want me or show that he cares ne more.. was this a good idea? for people that have blocked an exs number or for people that have been blocked.what were ur results? Link to post Share on other sites
Author crackerjax9 Posted June 5, 2009 Author Share Posted June 5, 2009 im sorry i havent gotten any opinions and am second guessing myself...am i doing the right thing? i want this kid back but he doesnt seem to want me .. so i blocked his number so i cant text or call him and cant see what he says either... i want him back but he doesnt want me so i should stick with this and move on right? Link to post Share on other sites
Marina09 Posted June 5, 2009 Share Posted June 5, 2009 That's the best thing you could have done!!! If he's not sure if he wants you in his life, then you shouldn't want him in yours either. I know it's painful to do so, but you have to move on with your life without him being involved in it at all. At the end that's gonna make the healing process a lot faster... Good luck to you!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author crackerjax9 Posted June 5, 2009 Author Share Posted June 5, 2009 well i didnt get any opinions soon enough and in another thread some guy said it was a dumbt hing to do if i wanted to be with him.. i went ahead and unblocked him.. called him... got no answer..left him a voicemail saying i blocked him and if he needed me he knew my house number etc... i started to cry.. and now im being the psycho ex again this sucks Link to post Share on other sites
TheBigCow Posted June 5, 2009 Share Posted June 5, 2009 In a lot of (I've got no figures, but I bet its >50%) breakups that are entirely non mutual the dumped acts in a very toxic and self destructive way for quite some time.. but most people don't notice it until they've passed the period. Don't beat yourself up over this, people make mistakes especially when going through emotionally trying times like these. The pain and desperation you feel are all valid and you shouldn't feel bad about having these feelings. You've got plenty of time to act rationally when your past this Link to post Share on other sites
LadyV Posted June 5, 2009 Share Posted June 5, 2009 okay so me and my ex split about a month ago but ive been holding on and trying to get him back....hes told me twice he doesnt know if he wants to be with me anymore so i finally just decided to respect myself and block his number so that i can no longer text or call him. i still love him and want him back but he clearly doesnt seem to want me or show that he cares ne more.. was this a good idea? for people that have blocked an exs number or for people that have been blocked.what were ur results? I am sorry I didn't respond to you yesterday on my other thread... YES!!! It is the very best thing you can do. I did it too with my XBF. My XBF and I had a on again, off again relationship...started off so intense, but in the end, he just couldn't give me what I desereved. I initiated NC 33 Days ago...as soon as I got off the phone with him, I blocked his number. There has been no contact on my end. I don't know if he has tried to contact me because of the blocking. I also blocked him from my email. 2 weeks ago, I graduated from college. It has been a very long road for me; I'm 36 and the single mother of a 13 and 9 year old. It was a very big accomplishment for me. Graduation weekend was supposed to be the weekend that he met my family...he was so excited for me to graduate. Well, I got home after the ceremony and lunch with my family, to find a graduation card wedged in my door. It was from him, and I knew as soon as I saw it. I was actually angry that he left it. I mean, he came all the way to my apartment, knowing my family is here, and left it at my door. The gesture was nice, but it left me questioning and feeling horrible!! That is the only contact that has happend. I haven't even awknowleged the card. I sent thank you card out to everyone, but him. I just can't go there... Yesterday I was so tempted to unblock him, thinking..."I think I'm strong enough!" But yeah...I'm not going there.... Blocking him gave me peace of mind. Every time my phone alerts me of a text or email, I don't worry or wonder if it is him. If my phone is silent, I don't sit there thinking..."Why haven't I heard from him???" It has helped me get through it. Remember, you doing this to help you, not as a game to keep him wondering. If you are really wanting to let go, heal and move on, this is the very best thing you can do....I was ready to be done with him....33 days later, I am finally feeling the best I've felt in a long while! Good luck to you! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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