LikeCharlotte Posted June 5, 2009 Share Posted June 5, 2009 Hi LS-LDR's! I haven't posted much for some time and I have reached a point where I really need advice. If you don't know my backstory feel free to read but suffice to say I am in an LDR that is as difficult as any but makes me very happy. I have been going through a lot since a year ago when we met and I have no idea how we have managed to maintain any sort of relationship through it all. He has moved from England to NZ and I've moved 3 or 4 times in the US. We have both changed jobs and addresses but managed to visit 2 times and keep daily contact. I have a long commute to work as does he and we have to keep strange hours just to talk - and with my moving so often it has been near impossible to keep the schedule. This is my problem. I feel like we are both 'spinning our wheels' and going nowhere and I want to make a plan to spend a significant time together or to move. It is not easy for either one of us to move to the other and I am not making enough money to plan a big move. I have been looking for a better job but with recent circumstances I haven't been able to dedicate my time to it. It may be awhile before I can afford to visit, let alone move. He is in a similar situation. I feel like I want to sell everything I own, quit my job and go but I have no plan. When I look at the options for working in England it doesn't seem like I will be able to do it. I am skilled in what I do but I am quite sure that my skill set is not one that is particularly in demand. As for him moving or staying here, I would need to have a better job and be able to support us both because there is no way he could get a temporary work visa here. I also just lost my apartment because I had roommates that refused to pay rent. (long awful story) I feel like I am in a constant downward spiral and the only thing keeping me up is my LDR yet there seems to be no viable option to make it work. I need suggestions, comments, anything to help the process. I miss him very much and I want the chance to make it work. Link to post Share on other sites
Author LikeCharlotte Posted June 8, 2009 Author Share Posted June 8, 2009 Does anyone have any ideas? Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted June 8, 2009 Share Posted June 8, 2009 Oh, I'm so so sorry to hear that. It must feel so hopeless, I know, everything going wrong at the same time. My case is rather similar as well. Have you tried applying to the companies there to see if any will take you? Even if you think your skills are not much in demand there surely it wouldn't hurt to try? You might be surprised. What's his opinion on your future together? Link to post Share on other sites
Graduate Posted June 8, 2009 Share Posted June 8, 2009 Hi Charlotte, unfortunately I got no advice, because my LDR broke up last year mostly because he was not willing to keep making an effort, but it sounds like your guy cares about you and your relationship a lot more. So I got no advice, but I wish you all the best! Graduate Link to post Share on other sites
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