donnab5 Posted June 5, 2009 Share Posted June 5, 2009 I don't know what is wrong with me but I am married, but it seems like everytime a guy shows a little attention to me we always end up having an affair. My husband is a good guy but in the bedroom it is kinda boring. Is that what I'm looking for excitement or what. I feel stupid. Dont know!! Link to post Share on other sites
Dexter Morgan Posted June 5, 2009 Share Posted June 5, 2009 divorce your husband and let him find a decent woman. Link to post Share on other sites
Not the love ace Posted June 5, 2009 Share Posted June 5, 2009 Well if you're not content, the only thing you can do is divorce him. Why hurt his feelings if he is a good guy and you love him but want more sexually? If anything tell him how you feel and do things to spark up your sex life. Honestly if the best policy. If you really aren't content end it. End of discussion. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted June 5, 2009 Share Posted June 5, 2009 Knowing her age would help, noting the topics of the other threads the OP started. OP, my guess is you seek validation externally, and the easiest pathway for a woman is through sex or sexual validation from a man. When a man gives you attention, whether sexual or not, it fills a void within you that you cannot figure out how to fill yourself or within your M. If you're older, there's likely repression at work. Long-repressed feelings which are acted out during your sexual dalliances. If young, your independent adult psyche has not yet fully developed and you may be unconsciously re-visiting or reacting to events of your childhood. I'm always suspect of these new posters who include very little information but on a volatile subject. Many turn out to be trolls or old members stirring the pot with a new ID. If you're authentic, the time you spend including specific details will convince me. Time is too valuable a thing to waste How many affairs have you had? How old are you? Any children? How long have you been married? Link to post Share on other sites
Ronni_W Posted June 5, 2009 Share Posted June 5, 2009 Is that what I'm looking for excitement or what. Maybe you are just bored with your life. Or maybe you abuse sex the way others abuse alcohol: to ignore/deny your deeper emotional "issues" and/or to self-sabotage your genuine happiness and fulfillment? Whatever it is, it's not "stupid"...it is just where you are in your life. How you've phrased your post is, however, pointing to a lack of self-awareness, and/or unhealed emotional wounds, and/or fears, unworthiness, low self-esteem, etc. Have you considered working with a psychotherapist to help you get to the bottom of your choices and habits that you don't seem particularly happy with? Link to post Share on other sites
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