What do I Do WHen Iam THe Bad Guy ?

[Sixthcard]

Wzup Yo

 

To anyone that can help I don’t know what do to myself

 

Me and my wify (GF) Have been together for 4 years and out of the those years we have a one year old son. When we got together I told her “I am not other guys “. And she believed me until recently.

 

About maybe 5 months ago Wify found a text message that made her realize I’m not the man she thought I was. And then just like a lot of men in the world to cover my stupid ass I LIED LIED LIED. Even as she cried in my face I was still ****ing lying.

 

I even got one of my close female friends to act like the girl so my wify could talk to her and she found out about that I just keep lying and lying. After so much lying I came clean but not all the way I only told her part of what happened. And her being the most alsome women she is knew it had to be more as she says there is now way in hell you can talk to another woman for 9months and nothing happen. I keep telling her nothing happened and I didn’t the most we did was touch on each other at a party and I told her that.

 

Now I know it takes women time to recover. But what should I do?

I try to answer every question she has for me some I just don’t know the answer to like " What made her so Special?” I never know the answer.

 

I love the hell Out of this woman, the mother of my child, the best person in my life, the second most important women in my entire life.

 

But I just don’t know what to do after this happened she is willing to give me another chance and I’m grateful for it but certain time it feel like I will never have me time don’t get me wrong the best way to let your wife trust you again is to let her know you are not hiding anything so I let her look in my phone when she want, I don’t go out as much, and I’m trying to invite her to thing I do with my friends.

 

Am I allowed to have a personal life at all or should I just keep doing what I’m doing I want her to trust me again and I know the going to take years and I m willing to wait.

 

Can anyone tell me to I get to have 2 lives after this incident or No.

the way I act around her and the way i act around my friends is way different and I don’t want to bring them together. I am a bad guy for what I did and I regret everything waking min. I don’t want to leave my family but by here doing what she’s doing makes me feel like she doesn’t want me to stay sometimes.

 

 

Please someone please tell me what can I do I know I’m the bad guy I am but this is the first and last time something like this will ever happen I our relationship. I love my "FAMLIY"

 

 

 

Help If you Can Think

[Bejita463]

You should try acquainting yourself with the truth. That'll help convince the wife to trust you. Beyond that, I am unsure why you WANT "2 lives." You get married to share the one you have, not compartmentalize it.

[amaysngrace]

The only thing you could maybe try is to marry her and then maybe it'll change how she thinks about you. But it probably won't.

 

You're screwed.

[surgngnl]

how old are you?

[mark982]

as you say you're 2 different people.1 person w/ friend,and another w/ your girl. why? the only think you should think about is your child and gf. not about how to be cool in front of the bros.you said you truely love her. so man--up,quit lying to her cause you've lost her trust,and that's extremely hard to get back. basically i'm saying grow up.

[CandiceIsMe]

Without being truthful, there's not much to base the relationship on unfortunately.

[norajane]

Can anyone tell me to I get to have 2 lives after this incident or No.

the way I act around her and the way i act around my friends is way different and I don’t want to bring them together. I am a bad guy for what I did and I regret everything waking min. I don’t want to leave my family but by here doing what she’s doing makes me feel like she doesn’t want me to stay sometimes.

 

It's time to grow up. You can't have two totally separate lives when you are a father and husband/bf.

 

If you're choosing to be with her and be a good father, then you have to be all-in. You're a man with responsibilities and your family comes first - you have to blend your play-time to include your family. If you weren't ready for that, you shouldn't have signed up for the family life.

 

You can't straddle the fence because that leaves your balls hanging on the fence posts.

 

Man up and show her that she and your child mean more to you than playing around and other women. You're lucky she's giving you a second chance to prove that you're more than an assh*le - don't make her regret that choice.