choice of partner for girl-on-girl experience

[m-j]

I'm straight - I am desperately in love with my boyfriend and he and I have incredible sexual chemistry. I would never even consider dating a woman. Yet, I sexually fantasise about them alot. Porn where girls are massaging each other and one thing leads to another really excites me. I have never had a lesbian experience but I have a feeling I should just to see what it's actually like.

 

Of course, my boyfriend is all for it, but he wants to be included as well. Otherwise he considers it cheating. My female housemate is leaning towards being bisexual and has commented on a number of occassions that she would hook up with me. I'm attracted to her and we have kissed a number of times but I dont think I want to go the whole way. I dont want to ruin any relationships (she is my housemate, my boyfriend's best friend, we all live together so I dont think its a good idea to have a threesome!!!!). Plus threesomes are kind of out of the question for me anyway. I dont want my boyfriend touching another girl. Probably because he cheated on me a while ago.... Maybe not - i just dont want to share

 

Have any straight girls out there experimented with girls and how did you pick the right one to do it with? I don't want to pick a random dirty girl in a club but I also am not in favour of doing it with someone I am friends with. Is it better to just stick to the fantasies?

[taknightta]

You might want to read this book - I thought it was terrific.

 

The Threesome Handbook: A Practical Guide to SLEEPING WITH THREE

 

http://www.amazon.com/Threesome-Handbook-Practical-Guide-SLEEPING/dp/1568583338/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1244477490&sr=1-1

 

From Amazon:

 

Product Description

A step-by-step guide to realizing the American dream, The Threesome Handbook: A Practical Guide to Sleeping with Three is the first book to give tri-curious men and women the inside scoop on threesomes. Having finally slipped into the mainstream — on MTV, Boston Legal, Entourage, magazines, movies, and just about every respectable blog — sexuality historian and threesome dabbler Victoria Vantoch offers practical and humorous advice on our most popular fantasy. Featured in The Threesome Handbook: - The perks of three: hotter sex, more love - Strategies to prevent freak-outs, jealousy, and general messiness - How to find the perfect third - Discovering your inner queer - When a ménage turns into love—how to create a successful triad relationship - Communication skills for couples - Knowing when to break it off - And much, much more. Drawing on personal experience, historical research, advice from pros, and hundreds of interviews with veteran and novice threesome adventurers, Vantoch covers the gamut of possibilities in threesome sex and triad relationships. The Threesome Handbook is the essential road map for couples and singles to explore new territory or just spice things up in the sack.

 

 

About the Author

Victoria Vantoch is an award-winning sex historian and journalist. Her writing has appeared in The Washington Post, U.S. News & World Report, the Los Angeles Times, and many other newspapers and magazines. She is currently a Fellow at NASA, where she is researching the sex lives and gender roles of airline stewardesses in the 1950s and ’60s. She's currently living in a threesome.

[TaraMaiden]

I'm straight - I am desperately in love with my boyfriend and he and I have incredible sexual chemistry. I would never even consider dating a woman. Yet, I sexually fantasise about them alot. Porn where girls are massaging each other and one thing leads to another really excites me. I have never had a lesbian experience but I have a feeling I should just to see what it's actually like.

 

Of course, my boyfriend is all for it, but he wants to be included as well. Otherwise he considers it cheating. My female housemate is leaning towards being bisexual and has commented on a number of occassions that she would hook up with me. I'm attracted to her and we have kissed a number of times but I dont think I want to go the whole way. I dont want to ruin any relationships (she is my housemate, my boyfriend's best friend, we all live together so I dont think its a good idea to have a threesome!!!!). Plus threesomes are kind of out of the question for me anyway. I dont want my boyfriend touching another girl. Probably because he cheated on me a while ago.... Maybe not - i just dont want to share

 

Have any straight girls out there experimented with girls and how did you pick the right one to do it with? I don't want to pick a random dirty girl in a club but I also am not in favour of doing it with someone I am friends with. Is it better to just stick to the fantasies?

 

Yes.

Really, all you want is a whole lot of graphic descriptions and input from us because -

ONE:

You can't have a fling with your housemate (or anyone else for that matter) because it your BF would consider it to be cheating unless he takes part -

TWO:

Threesomes are out of the question for you -

THREE:

You don't want to go the whole way (What the heck is that? )

FOUR:

You don't want your BF touching another girl -

 

Apart from some descriptive experiences from others - what is it you want to resolve, exactly?

 

Does your BF know you have kissed this girl a number of times?

That IS already cheating, by the way, if he doesn't....

[2sure]

Plenty of experience here, although that would probably make me more bi-sexual than straight.

 

No, you cannot have an encounter with your roommate. Period.

 

Next, you cant have a threesome at all. A threesome ideally is a shared experience between three people. Shared equally. Your bf wants to be there - OK. But the other girl cant touch him. So....that leaves you and her and you & him. OK, but also you dont know if you're really that interested in girls....so that means basically she can do stuff to you while your bf watches ...but there wont be reciprocation. Thats not a threesome, thats a sex slave.

 

Bi girls arent hard to come by, sex slaves probably harder.

[GorillaTheater]

I have at times wondered if Tara Maiden and 2sure are the same poster. Like now, for instance.

 

It's a big compliment to both of you, in case there's any doubt.

[2sure]

I secretly aspire to be her. I have the same ideas - but lack the grace.

I am the zen equivalent of a bull in a china shop.

[Girlygal]

I think all women that are honest with themselves find other women to be sexually attractive. Hell women are hot and sexy, and i have had my moments of wonder and adornment. Never actaully went down the road (i fear i may be a prude )

 

I am a bit (like the others) curious as to wht you are questioning? Do you need someone to tell you its ok? Because if thats all you need then by all means, ITS OK. But i agree with 2sure, not with your flatmate.

 

Maybe try a monogomous relationship with a girl, becaus you dont sound like the sharing type. Otherwise quit worrying about persuing it and get off on porn. Nothing wrong with that either.

[TaraMaiden]

Girlygal, whilst I will agree that I do find many women attractive - and have at times told them I think they look very elegant/smart/pretty/that colour suits them, I can honestly say, hand on heart, there is nothing remotely sexually alluring to me about other women.

Been there, done that, tried it - and decided there and then it is definitely not for me.

Kudos to those who are happy doing stuff with same sex. I neither judge nor criticise, each to their own and if all are happy, that's absolutely great.

But me?

give me a testosterone-fuelled guy any time.

 

GorrillaTheater and 2Sure - you guys are too much.

 

You know I love you both, right?

 

(no, 2sure, not in that way......)