katie4ever Posted October 29, 2003 Share Posted October 29, 2003 I am 19 and i have never had a boyfriend or went out on a date before...(is that pathetic or what?) Anyways, my question is...is it too much for me to start dating (and everntually have a boyfriend) of someone who is very older than me? say....in their early 30s? Because i feel like its time for me to date...(i'm 19 for goodness sake) and right now, i am really into this guy who is..31. will turn 32 real soon..What do you think? If he says he likes me too, (and i think he does), should i start a relationship with him/date him...what should i do? is a 30 year old too much for a first-time-never-had-boyfriend- 19 year old? although i think i am very mature for my age...anyways..thanks.. katie Link to post Share on other sites
Purrrfection8 Posted October 29, 2003 Share Posted October 29, 2003 Hi Katie, how r u? I don't feel age should really make a difference - however, I now contradict myself when I say that it's possible that two ppl of different age groups and in a relationship MAY have different ideas, expectations for the relationship. Keep in mind that he is 30 and may b ready to settle down (that's just a generalisation). If he is ready to settle down, would that b what you'd want too? You are only 19 (I do not say that in a patronising way), I just recall having my first relationship at 19 and having absolutely no idea what love was really like. In my naivety I pictured him as my future husband without getting to know him first (stupid i know but I was inexperienced). He ended up shattering me completely because he just used me. On the other hand, some ppl end up marrying their first love, some don't tho and have many relationships after to experience. Dating is really just a learning experience for us in this life (learning about us, what we want and desire and need to experience in order to grow as ppl). Give the relationship a shot, if that is what your heart desires today and what your higher self feels is necessary for your growth. But keep in mind that it is a learning experience, even if it may not last you have not lost, just enjoy the everyday experiences if they are good for your wellbeing. I say go for it, what have u to lose? Think it thru or go with the flow. Love and light, Purrrfection8. Link to post Share on other sites
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