Looks really DO matter a whole lot

[MeaganRaye]

She won't reply to this. I don't think she even wants to be helped. I'm not sure why she started this thread.

 

I am currently trying to do this

[clv0116]

Most gorgeous men do not fawn over plain women...some do, I wouldn't say most. I would say most people try to date people with comparable looks to theirs.

 

I've never seen a study to back that up. I have seen several studies that found a positive correlation between a mans income and the attractiveness of his mate and offspring.

[amaysngrace]

She won't reply to this. I don't think she even wants to be helped. I'm not sure why she started this thread.

 

Hopefully she is working on herself as a person.

 

But it's my observation that some people like to talk talk talk because it helps them avoid doing.

 

Imagine if all this energy Meagan put into complaining she used to better herself instead? People would stop and notice her by now I would think.

[lovestruck818]

I've never seen a study to back that up. I have seen several studies that found a positive correlation between a mans income and the attractiveness of his mate and offspring.

 

Well...what I said kind of makes sense, though...why would any attractive person want to date someone who wasn't?...unless of course, perhaps the other person was rich.

[clv0116]

Well...what I said kind of makes sense, though...why would any attractive person want to date someone who wasn't?

 

I've seen studies that indicate womens dating interests are much more complex and less based on visual cues than those of men. Look at some interesting 'speed dating' studies for some real eye opening information.

[proton]

i think you're a troll. i'm seeing the replies getting more and more insane. you're a pity troll. i'm wondering if your laughing while you get all these people to seriously engage with you. :rollseyes:

[mental_traveller]

Men don't want one with me b/c I am pretty and there is too much outside temptation and too many opportunities to cheat...but I don't cheat. Men just always seem to think attractive women are not faithful.

 

Then you should stop dating insecure boys and try to meet some real men, generally they don't suffer from this problem.

[mental_traveller]

I know what its like to not be pretty. In middle/high school I was ugly. When I see pictures of myself from that time period I get angry, and rip them apart. I am still mad that I took my graduation photo, I looked so dark and ugly

 

Anyway, I worked on myself and became pretty but I still don't feel pretty enough. When I look good, men are nicer to me, I have more value, I feel respected and like I mean something to the world. They smile at me, ask me how I am doing, open doors for me, etc

 

Back when I was ugly, guys would ignore me, it was like I didn't even exist. If they could they would walk right through me. They don't speak, don't make eye contact, a lot of men are like this to women who are not very attractive. I think they are programmed to be this way. They are only gentleman, and show respect to women they think are good looking. I know this is the case

 

So to all of those saying that looks don't matter don't know what they are talkinga bout. Maybe they have never been ugly at a point in their life.

 

Even women who are incredibly beautiful but bitchy (bad personalities) dont have it as bad as people say they do. Why do you think so many pretty girls are stuck up? Because as long as they are pretty men will bend over backwards for them. Once their looks fade (get old and ugly) they'll change.

 

Men have it the same except its confidence, success, and status/power that make the difference. Imagine being a smart, decent, hard-working guy who can't get laid because he's poor or shy.

 

I'm willing to make a sporting bet that you haven't approached any shy, poor guys and tried to set up a date with them? Would you flirt with a guy working behind the counter at McDonalds, or the pizza delivery boy?

[mental_traveller]

I agree with you...but when it comes down to it, better looking people do better in the long-run...they are paid more, treated better and more respected.

 

The richest people in the world are Bill Gates, Warren Buffett, Carlos Slim, and Ingvar Kamprad - not exactly Hollywood leading-man material.

 

The most powerful woman in the world is probably Andrea Merkel, who isn't going to be appearing on People magazine's 100 most beautiful list any time soon.

[IcemanJB]

Most gorgeous men do not fawn over plain women...some do, I wouldn't say most. I would say most people try to date people with comparable looks to theirs.

 

Says who? I'm the complete opposite of tall, dark and handsome, yet I've dated some very good looking women, who where "out of my league" - haha, whatever. One of my best friends, a goofy looking guy, is in the same boat.

 

It goes the other way too, I'm sure. Everyone knows that girl that always seems to date the smartest, funniest, best looking guys, who are "out of her league".

 

Looks mean a little bit, but not nearly as much as most people emphasize.

[Mahatma]

Says who?

 

Says him... he even stated that.

 

I would have to agree for the most part, but it's not just looks that are taken into consideration.

 

I would say people date people with the same "value." In high school, popularity plays a large roll. Later in life it could be status or money. Looks also play in. How good of a personality you have is extremely valuable. My girlfriend has great looks, but what I cherish most is her relaxed (most of the time.. ) personality.

[SincereOnlineGuy]

I know what its like to not be pretty. In middle/high school I was ugly. When I see pictures of myself from that time period I get angry, and rip them apart. I am still mad that I took my graduation photo, I looked so dark and ugly

 

Anyway, I worked on myself and became pretty but I still don't feel pretty enough. When I look good, men are nicer to me, I have more value, I feel respected and like I mean something to the world. They smile at me, ask me how I am doing, open doors for me, etc

 

Back when I was ugly, guys would ignore me, it was like I didn't even exist. If they could they would walk right through me. They don't speak, don't make eye contact, a lot of men are like this to women who are not very attractive. I think they are programmed to be this way. They are only gentleman, and show respect to women they think are good looking. I know this is the case

 

So to all of those saying that looks don't matter don't know what they are talkinga bout. Maybe they have never been ugly at a point in their life.

 

Even women who are incredibly beautiful but bitchy (bad personalities) dont have it as bad as people say they do. Why do you think so many pretty girls are stuck up? Because as long as they are pretty men will bend over backwards for them. Once their looks fade (get old and ugly) they'll change.

 

Well, your testimony tops that of Tyra Banks wearing a "fat suit", but that's about it.

[D-Lish]

I've seen studies that indicate womens dating interests are much more complex and less based on visual cues than those of men. Look at some interesting 'speed dating' studies for some real eye opening information.

 

I'm attracted visually first and foremost.

 

I could never imagine dating a man for his money or status alone.

[tinklebell]

I don't think looks are top of the list. Not tooting my horns but I'm better looking than some of my friends but I've noticed that the guys talk to them more. One of them even has dates dropping from the sky. I still don't know what her secret is but I'd think one of it is attitude. So who says looks are that important?

[The Blue Pill]

I guess for me, I am obviously instantly attracted to beautiful women. Really, anything I rate between an 8 and 10 I say to myself, "Wow!".

 

But, when I get to know someone after a while, though they may be a 6 or 7 to everyone else, they seem like an 8 and maybe even 9 to me. So I think personality plays a huge role in overall attraction. I doubt I'm the only one who thinks this.