alvinpls Posted June 10, 2009 Share Posted June 10, 2009 I am currently in frequent online contact with a lady from another country. Our topics currently are not about the weather or basic greetings. I always keep her up to date on what I am doing or my latest plans, where I am going, etc...Occasionally I will throw in some "close" words to her in our online chat or emails. She knows of my feelings for her. B'cos I hv told her so earlier. We hv been in this for about 6 months already. Normal friends does not do like I do now, I guessed she knows this. I am showing my concern for her beyond what normal friends do. But inspite of this, she seldom response to me. Nor she reject me. Sometimes I wonder if she is really interested in getting real with me. Once she was telling me that she knows how my heart is for her. She also said, she knows in her heart what is going on. I mean, she seldom shows any expression. I can feel that she is of the traditional type of person. She is an Asian lady. There may be some kind of shyness or always keeping things in heart. Any good advice and opinions from my friends out there? I hv got advice from Island Girl here in this site. I hope to hear from others. Link to post Share on other sites
violaaa Posted June 12, 2009 Share Posted June 12, 2009 I have known many chinese in my encounters. They are not really so shy. My female intuition tells that this girl has more local choices, or has already engaged with a bf closely that she does not want to tell you. Ladies sometimes enjoy being flirted, being pursued and chased after. I see so far she has not expressed her love to you. It is only you who is paying effort and trying to keep the linkage. I think you cannot be too optimistic about the possible development of this relationship in real:bunny:. Link to post Share on other sites
Author alvinpls Posted June 12, 2009 Author Share Posted June 12, 2009 Hello Viola, thanks for yr advices & reminder about how Chinese girls are like. I hope to find out from her if she is still keen for us to develop further in this. Is it right for me to do so? How should I bring up this subject? Link to post Share on other sites
violaaa Posted June 12, 2009 Share Posted June 12, 2009 It has been some time you are hanging in some unknown threads with her. Please ask her direct some critical questions. If she appears evasive or giving indirect answer, you should have some hesistation on the prospect. Questions can be like: How much do you feel for me or How much you love me? Do you want me be your lover and future soulmate? Do you want a real touch as soon as possible and then we work on the time schedule? Hope you receive positive answers:) Link to post Share on other sites
Author alvinpls Posted June 15, 2009 Author Share Posted June 15, 2009 In normal LDR, is it true that both parties have to inform each other of their whereabouts or going where? Link to post Share on other sites
Island Girl Posted June 15, 2009 Share Posted June 15, 2009 In normal LDR, is it true that both parties have to inform each other of their whereabouts or going where? Generally it is the same as any relationship. I definitely expect disclosure of whereabouts and goings on -- as does he. Link to post Share on other sites
Joyvke Posted June 15, 2009 Share Posted June 15, 2009 You know, I was falling for a guy online myself as well. He did things, said things other friends of mine simply wouldn't say or do. In the end I turn out that when he liked me he wasn't "bright" in the head and rushed things and that I'm not his type. Sort of wasted like almost a year of liking him and keep having hope. He knew I felt like that, still do. If someone likes you they wanna meet asap to see if what they feel is for real, if they don't wanna meet or keep extending the meeting every single time, that just means they're not so much into you as you are into them. Link to post Share on other sites
Rollercoasterr Posted June 15, 2009 Share Posted June 15, 2009 I know every move my fiance makes, and he knows mine. Not in that weird stalker way, either. Just in the "Hey, I'm going so-and-so place. I'll be back in 15 minutes". He gives me days advance notice of outings with friends(usually because he doesn't want to go and wants me to say I don't want him to either). I give him the same. We're equals in everything. Link to post Share on other sites
Author alvinpls Posted June 16, 2009 Author Share Posted June 16, 2009 It has been some time you are hanging in some unknown threads with her. Please ask her direct some critical questions. If she appears evasive or giving indirect answer, you should have some hesistation on the prospect. I am always the one texting messages to her first. Then she give her reply.Sometimes she replied quickly,sometimes hv to wait a bit longer. If she reply me late, she will apologise & tellme the reason for the delay. What I mean here is,I always the one making the move here. Does this means anything here,concerning her? Link to post Share on other sites
Rollercoasterr Posted June 16, 2009 Share Posted June 16, 2009 It means that you're chasing something that doesn't want to be caught. She doesn't feel the same about you as you do towards her. If she did, she'd make effort. She isn't. She might think of you as a friend, but I don't think it's anything more than that. And for the record, I have never known a chinese girl to be THAT shy. So I don't think her actions are because she's chinese. I think it's because she's just not that into you. Sorry if that's harsh, but since all of your threads seem to be about how you are chasing this girl, and nothing has changed, that's just the idea that I get from it all. If she showed just the slightest bit of interest in you romantically(i.e. her contacting YOU first for example),then I think my response might be different. Link to post Share on other sites
violaaa Posted June 16, 2009 Share Posted June 16, 2009 Rollercoasterr has rightly pointed out the core issue of your relationship. Your relationship with her is apparently friends only, very far away from being lovers. Did you try to ask her the questions I have raised formerly? What were her reponses? Please dont give her excuses. I am sorry to say that she has indeed lacked real interest in your for a further development. Link to post Share on other sites
Author alvinpls Posted June 16, 2009 Author Share Posted June 16, 2009 To really know the status of my LDR thing, I have to ask her seriously about it. Until now, it is just a guessing game. Link to post Share on other sites
Rollercoasterr Posted June 16, 2009 Share Posted June 16, 2009 It's not a guessing game, dear. If you use common sense you'd know that this is not a relationship, but more of a friendship. There's is NOTHING about what you've described in any of your threads that make anyone think it's a relationship. She doesn't feel the same about you as you do about her. But to each their own. Link to post Share on other sites
alvin08 Posted June 18, 2009 Share Posted June 18, 2009 Actuatlly Guys, LDR is not worked for me because now i realized that LDR is not easy to handle. Link to post Share on other sites
Author alvinpls Posted June 19, 2009 Author Share Posted June 19, 2009 Actuatlly Guys, LDR is not worked for me because now i realized that LDR is not easy to handle. Hi Alvin08, you hv been through LDR? What happened? Failed? Please share with me, if you don't mind. Thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
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