help getting her back, please help

[suggy]

me and my girlfriend were together for 2 years and it was something special. i was really happy and nothing could change that. then i was possesive and she broke it off with me. i changed that and we got back together and it was brilliant. we loved each other loads.

 

then she broke up with me 2 more times for no reason at all, however after a few days she came back and we patched things up. recently our relationship has been dull and we drifted apart from each other and it was not as good as before i will admit that but i wanted to work at things to make them better. the other night we were about to go to bed and had a silly fight, she got up and got dressed and said its over.

 

i asked why she said she didnt love me as she used to and the spark had gone. i was propper cut up about this because i love her to bits. and not been able to be friends just killed me. i tried ringing her constanly the next day and she kept hanging up on me wouldnt speak, then finally i got through and asked if time would help she said no. i really want this girl back because i know she is the best thing ever and even if its just friends it will make me very ahppy.

 

its been 6 days since she broke up with me and i saw her drive past me today as she had just passed her driving test, when i got home i rang her to congratulate her she said thanks, i said you dont mind me ringing do you she said she siint going to ignore me. i know i shouldnt have rang her and left it for a bit but i thought id be nice and say well done. she has a bit of an attitude problem and gets upset very easy, she also gets sick of going out clubbing with her mates when she does it every week. basically i just want some advice.

 

is there a chance we can get back as friends or lovers and what to do to make that happen. any advice really as i am going spare just been unhappy about things. she really made it seem like she didnt want nowt to do with me today when i rang and its killin me i honestly dont know what i will do with myself

[IRULE]

you need to give her time,sounds like she needs to grow up and figure out what she wants. If you do not you might just push her away. If she really loves you she will figure it out. absence makes the heart grow fonder, If she does not then it probably would not have worked out. better to find out now.don't push her she probably is confused, it happens when your young.and even sometimes when your old if not given time to figure it out.

[shoregirl108]

[color=red] the other night we were about to go to bed and had a silly fight, she got up and got dressed and said its over. [/color]

 

[color=black]what may have been a silly fight to you - may have been much deeper to her - that as this point - she doesn't know how to express what exactly is bothering her. I agree with Irule, don't do something that may push her away or over the edge. When you say that if you can't be lovers - you'd like to be friends....I speak from experience who is trying to stay friends with an ex...it is extremely difficult. Every time I think I can do it - it kills me to speak to him or to look at him. Maybe in time the two of you can associate on a friendly level.

 

Something is bothering her, that's for sure. Let her have her space and try and figure it out. Maybe she'll realize that it was something stupid in her head and she'll want to come and talk to you. Be patient....I know it's hard. [/color]