My girlfriend is away for 2 more months and it seems like I'm slipping.

[Samari]

Hey so my girlfriend is away for the entire summer. We met on February 3rd (we attend the same university) and on Valentine's Day I think we were "official". A month later we were having sex. It was pretty much an instant attraction. And since then everything has been perfect. We haven't argued yet and we are always having fun together. We share a lot of the same interests too since we are both of the same major. I think I really hit the jackpot with this girl. Is it love? Certainly seems like it.

 

But before we met she already had plans to go back to her country for the summer to see her family. She is all the way from Macau, which is a little east of Hong Kong. So basically I have to spend a quiet summer in San Francisco working and preparing for the Fall semester.

 

Something has been troubling me though lately. I live and go to school in San Francisco, where there is an ABUNDANCE of young attractive women around my age. Some are my neighbors...and I live in a remote area. And even where I work (a retail store) there are beautifully dressed and good looking women that walk in the store every few minutes.

 

I do a lot of figure drawing so I have to look at a lot of people. And even before I met my girlfriend my favorite thing to draw was gorgeous women. And I still do that. That I don't really feel too guilty about that since I'm improving my skills on anatomy and I have to concentrate, but there are times when I'm not drawing...perhaps I'm walking down the street or so and I catch a glance of a pretty girl walking towards me or one is around me and I glance for a few moments and then go about my business. And I feel very guilty. It is like there are two sides of me. One is telling me that you are being unfair to your girlfriend and what you are doing is wrong. And the other part is telling me that it isn't that big of a deal, it's natural, keep staring at that chick's ass/legs/boobs, etc., it's just a quick glance or two. Just for the record I certainly don't do this when I'm with my girlfriend. She always has my undivided attention. If a pretty girl gets in the way I try not to pay attention.

 

But it just seems wrong. I hope I'm not a sex addict or something. Would you consider this cheating or not? Is it natural?

[Island Girl]

It isn't cheating.

 

It is natural.

 

It won't be a problem as long as you keep your girlfriend and your relationship as the priority --- and remember most of all:

 

A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush.

(Especially when it seems like you could have forever love with that little bird in your hand...)

 

The grass usually ISN'T greener.

 

And a lot of those beautiful women are Bat Shyte Crazy.

 

 

Your girlfriend will be back soon. Just remember everything you have with her and how it was not so easy to find her.

If you do, you'll be fine.

[TwoTattoos]

Wow dude. It seems like we have identical situations going on.

 

I'd been friends with my girlfriend for about year before we started hooking up. We were official by mid-January. I had to enter into the relationship knowing she'd be going away for ten weeks this summer. I'll have no way of getting in contact with her all summer besides email. No phone, no skype, nothing.

 

I think we're in love and we've both made promises to each other like I'm sure you and yours have.

 

She left yesterday. I'm looking at my bereavement in a sort of karmic way. Even though opportunities are sure to present themselves for both of us, I've decided that I have to be good here because it's my cosmic (and decidedly not naive) way of knowing she'll be good over there.

 

Just remember the good times and resolve yourself to make more. That's what I'm trying.

[SophieA]

All I can say is if you guys can't make it through a summer (or 10 weeks or whatever) without boinking another girl, you're not as serious about your gf as you think you are...

[sunnyjohn]

Island girl...can u please help me...!!

my topic is "How to patch up with her ?"