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[dk_in_mn]

Hey everyone! I'm new here but have browsed this site quite frequently over the last few weeks, got a lot of helpful pointers just by reading what everyone seems to be going through.

 

Have a bit of a situation myself. I have been friends with this woman for around 10 months now. We met online, though we do have many mutual friends considering I used to live in the same small town that she lives in now. Anyway, we have met up a few times and have always had a lot of fun together when we go out. We have been getting together 2-3 times a month, whenever I make it to town. Well, we are going to a concert together in a few weeks in Minneapolis. I already got the tickets and booked the hotel room for when we are supposed to go.

 

Here is the thing, I asked her out, hoping we could make a date out of it when we are out of town. She knows I am interested in her and I had brought this up on two separate occasions, both times she said “maybe”. Now I'm a smart enough guy to know that by her saying maybe means “no, I just don't want to hurt your feelings by saying otherwise”. I get that, even though I was a pretty disappointed at first, it's alright. I have a lot of friends who are women. She is an amazing woman and would really hate to ruin what we do have as far as a friendship goes.

 

 

What I don't get is why she acts jealous on occasion then. We were out having some drinks and she introduced me to some people she knows. I started talking for about 10 minutes and went outside with one of them, simple as that, nothing more. She lost it, it was just two people going outside for a smoke. Now if we are going down as “friends” I can handle that, however, I will not let her rain on my parade when I'm down there. I wanna go down and have some fun, see the show and then hit a few clubs afterwards. I don't wanna deal with a jealous woman friend all evening just incase I decide to go out on the dance floor with someone. I would never disrespect her by hooking up with someone either when we are down there, I'm not that way at all. In fact, I think I might have been too nice to her, that's why I probably landed in the friend zone. Now she has done this a couple times already, even something as simple as one of my women friends coming up and giving me a hug.. She doesn't want to see me but she gets jealous when other women are around, I just don't get it, it makes no sense to me. Not any of the other women friends I have act this way, never have.

 

So, what I'm thinking on doing is just giving her the extra ticket to the concert and the hotel room since all of it's paid for, and make up an excuse last minute as to why I can't go.

 

Let's just say you were in my shoes, would you go or not? Have you been in a position like this with a friend before? Why do women even act this way?

 

I spent really good money on this and would hate to miss it, I just don't deal with drama all that well.

 

Thanx,

 

DK

[NiceGuy4Ever]

Well you're just staying at a concert and I can't see much drama happening but that's just me. I guess she's acting jealous because you were interested in her and she liked that but kinda exercised some like hanging you by the string idea. When you act warm with other women she may feel she might be losing that string, that small little bit that you were interested in her and can't stand it. This is all of course just speculation. I'd just go to the concert and enjoy myself if I had spent a good bit of money on it. Whether you bring her along is up to you. I would bring along a friend that would enjoy that concert with me. Hope this helps!