Ariadne Posted June 13, 2009 Share Posted June 13, 2009 One woman's trash is another woman's treasure. ............ Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted June 13, 2009 Share Posted June 13, 2009 ............ Hey it's true! And it's not only about these MMs. My H's ex crapped all over him for most of their marriage. She had a good man . Payback is a bytch though...she's never been able to find another one as good as he is that's for sure. Very stupid woman (and I'm friends with her!) Link to post Share on other sites
Ariadne Posted June 13, 2009 Share Posted June 13, 2009 Hey it's true! And it's not only about these MMs. My H's ex crapped all over him for most of their marriage. She had a good man . Payback is a bytch though...she's never been able to find another one as good as he is that's for sure. Very stupid woman (and I'm friends with her!) I know... I was thinking of my ex husband that I didn't want him (he was not trash though), and now his new wife is thrilled with him. (I'm friends with her also). I even told her one day without thinking how lucky she was to have found the love of her life! And she started laughing. Link to post Share on other sites
Ariadne Posted June 13, 2009 Share Posted June 13, 2009 Mayday, Mayday! We're off track. MM had a bad therapy session today and decided to make a move. This is scary. Yes, scary indeed. I have zero trust with those therapists, I find the great majority to be idiots. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
dobler33 Posted June 13, 2009 Share Posted June 13, 2009 Yes, scary indeed. I have zero trust with those therapists, I find the great majority to be idiots. Good luck. thanks, ariadne. Link to post Share on other sites
JMC Posted June 13, 2009 Share Posted June 13, 2009 I understand what Mino said about using drama as a distraction. The minute I read that he is really angry at his therapist, something familiar dinged in my head. That he might be using that as a stalling tactic. I don't want any of this for you, FOH. I want this to work out. And I'm not surprised I saw a "told ya so" already in this thread LOL. Did you do a little dance with it, Touche? You know, like on Will & Grace? "told ya so, told ya so, told ya-told ya-told ya so!" I don't mean that snarky...I know you care about FOH Link to post Share on other sites
NoIDidn't Posted June 13, 2009 Share Posted June 13, 2009 Again with this all knowing thing about what is going on in their home based on his word. Did you sit in the lobby of his therapist appointment with him to know that it went over by an hour? I doubt it. You are 2174 miles away. Did you go home with him to witness him talking to his W? I doubt it. The 2174 miles away thing again. I think he is manipulating your emotions because he knows that you thrive on it. That whole hotel movie moment gives the impression that you are always demanding that he SHOW you his love in some way, and when he delivers flowery words, you seem to calm down. This is just more of the same. Success Stories are not followed by May Days. Link to post Share on other sites
fooled once Posted June 14, 2009 Share Posted June 14, 2009 So - what happened? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Full Of Hope Posted June 14, 2009 Author Share Posted June 14, 2009 No word yet... Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted June 14, 2009 Share Posted June 14, 2009 Again with this all knowing thing about what is going on in their home based on his word. Did you sit in the lobby of his therapist appointment with him to know that it went over by an hour? I doubt it. You are 2174 miles away. Did you go home with him to witness him talking to his W? I doubt it. The 2174 miles away thing again. I think he is manipulating your emotions because he knows that you thrive on it. That whole hotel movie moment gives the impression that you are always demanding that he SHOW you his love in some way, and when he delivers flowery words, you seem to calm down. This is just more of the same. Success Stories are not followed by May Days. Well said. That's why I said "I told you so." And no, no dance here. I don't revel in someone else's pain. But obviously this was wrong from the beginning. Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted June 14, 2009 Share Posted June 14, 2009 He's talking to his wife as I write this. Talking to his wife about what? Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted June 14, 2009 Share Posted June 14, 2009 Talking to his wife about what? About divorce...right. Link to post Share on other sites
NoIDidn't Posted June 14, 2009 Share Posted June 14, 2009 Well said. That's why I said "I told you so." And no, no dance here. I don't revel in someone else's pain. But obviously this was wrong from the beginning. I see nothing wrong with saying "I told you so" to the deluded. I don't. How else are they going to learn to pay attention to the signs if someone doesn't "tell" them. Again and again. Link to post Share on other sites
NoIDidn't Posted June 14, 2009 Share Posted June 14, 2009 About divorce...right. Doubt it. Probably just to talk about his therapy session. Married folks do that. For all she knows, he just announced to her what he was planning on doing anyway. He was going to go home and talk to his W, the woman that lives with him. It doesn't have to be decoded ten different ways to Sunday. Link to post Share on other sites
xpaperxcutx Posted June 14, 2009 Share Posted June 14, 2009 People don't sit down and talk about their divorce ( at home) they act on the intentions of divorce and talk with attorneys present. This MM is not even doing anything. He goes off on the therapist but he can't even bring himself to move out. And what divorce couple actually seeks out therapy unless they're trying to work out their relationship and get back together? Link to post Share on other sites
NoIDidn't Posted June 14, 2009 Share Posted June 14, 2009 This MM is not even doing anything. He goes off on the therapist but he can't even bring himself to move out. Yep. According to the OP, this therapist is all for him leaving his W. But he's mad at her for suggesting it. Given this. What makes the OP even think the MM is going to follow the therapists advice? Providing he's even telling her the truth to begin with. Which I doubt, anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
Shygirl15 Posted June 14, 2009 Share Posted June 14, 2009 He's flying by the seat of his pants because his therapist pissed him off. He has issues. Personally, I think people who rely on therapists to make their lives easier are mentally unstable. Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted June 14, 2009 Share Posted June 14, 2009 Yep. According to the OP' date=' this therapist is all for him leaving his W. But he's mad at her for suggesting it. [/quote'] So he's mad at the therapist because she said he doesn't love FOH enough to leave his wife, and so he ran home to talk to his wife...about what? And FOH is calling Mayday because he's home talking to his wife about *something*, but talking to his wife *now* about *something* is not according to their Plan D? What is this thread about? I'm so confused. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted June 14, 2009 Share Posted June 14, 2009 But remember, this guy is scared of breaking up his family, hurting his children. BECAUSE of this, he and his wife could sit down and really talk this out, try to make things better between them for the kids sake. This therapist is pushing him to exit his marriage and leave his wife and kids behind, problem is, if he does this without really giving his marriage a real chance of working without FOH in the picture, he could easily REGRET throwing away a pretty good life with his wife, all because he couldn't keep his marriage vows and control his feelings and body parts. Seems he had an OK marriage, no problems, no real issues and he was happy. But, he's put himself IN a situation where now he has to choose between two women, one he loves, had children with, created a life with and was comfortable, happy, and FOH who he loves, brings excitement and passion into his life, making him feel alive again. Link to post Share on other sites
Mino Posted June 14, 2009 Share Posted June 14, 2009 But remember, this guy is scared of breaking up his family, hurting his children. BECAUSE of this, he and his wife could sit down and really talk this out, try to make things better between them for the kids sake. This therapist is pushing him to exit his marriage and leave his wife and kids behind, problem is, if he does this without really giving his marriage a real chance of working without FOH in the picture, he could easily REGRET throwing away a pretty good life with his wife, all because he couldn't keep his marriage vows and control his feelings and body parts. Seems he had an OK marriage, no problems, no real issues and he was happy. But, he's put himself IN a situation where now he has to choose between two women, one he loves, had children with, created a life with and was comfortable, happy, and FOH who he loves, brings excitement and passion into his life, making him feel alive again. wwisup, I dont think a therapist tells a couple that a m is dead unless they have been going for months. That would be insane, plus Theapist loses money! I know with my xmm and his w, the mc tried to get them to comunicate, my xmm was going just to show he tried, and hoped that the mc would do the dirty work for him. Only after months of mc, did he finally declare the m Dead, but I dont think he said that lightly, A week after he moved out. He could then blame it on the mc, saying "hey mc said the m is dead, Taking a cowards way out, and not taking responsibity. Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted June 14, 2009 Share Posted June 14, 2009 Are they in MC? It sounded like HE is seeing a therapist. That's why he ran straight home to talk to his wife. If she were there with him in MC, why would he need to run straight home, with time to call FOH to tell her that's what he's doing? Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted June 14, 2009 Share Posted June 14, 2009 Because she is not in any close distance to her MM, there's NO WAY she truly knows exactly what is going on. She is going ONLY by his word, what he tells her. I mean, other than calling his wife, or hiring a PI, how is she really to know if this MM is doing what he says he's doing? Link to post Share on other sites
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted June 14, 2009 Share Posted June 14, 2009 My MM has had one counselling session with the BS. He thinks the next one will be the one where he says he's done. He called me on his way home from the appt (they met there in separate vehicles). He tells me everything. I am skeptical, but he knows I have one wall up protecting my heart. He understands. Everything will be resolved by the end of summer. I'm not on hold, I am living my life, discovering 'me'. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted June 14, 2009 Share Posted June 14, 2009 Everything will be resolved by the end of summer. And if it isn't, do you have a plan? Will YOU put a time limit on this and walk away if he doesn't do what he says he's "going to do" by the end of the summer? In a way you are on hold. Sure, you're living your life, but your future remains in his and his wife's hands.. Link to post Share on other sites
NoIDidn't Posted June 14, 2009 Share Posted June 14, 2009 He thinks the next one will be the one where he says he's done. He 'thinks' so, huh? How many "thinks" are you going to hang around for? Link to post Share on other sites
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