trustydusty Posted June 15, 2009 Share Posted June 15, 2009 So my relationship ended about a month and a half ago, she broke up with me, and neither she nor i are with anyone else right now. I chose NC to heal, and it has definitely been helping. So on saturday night i go to see some bands play at a local venue, the thought crossed my mind that she might be there but i didn't think anything of it until i got there. When I get inside i see a mutual friend of ours and then see her immediately after, but she didn't yet see me. It was packed so I kinda went to a different side of the place and thought wether i should go up and say hi or not. So anyway, my friend goes up to the bar for a beer and runs into her, he talks with her for a minute and then i get a text from her saying simply "hi". I respond 10 mins. later with a message just as simple, she says she saw my friend and i replied that that's what he had told me. She then tells me she is over by the bar. This was the first time i had saw her/talked to her face to face in about a month and a half. It was awkward for about 20 seconds and then we were chatting like we had never split. Her girlfriend tried to pull her away from me one time unsuccessfully because she just kept talking to me, when her friend came over the second time i told her she better go with her friend and we'd catch up later. So the show ends and it was packed so my friend and i left, i didn't tell her bye. I get a phone call about 20 mins later saying, that "i saw you driving by and i was trying to catch you but you didnt see me" I ended the convo pretty quickly and politely with "yeah we should get together and catch up (in a humorous confident tone)" to which she agreed to. So yesterday we end up texting each other all day about various things, family, work, other harmless chit chat, and talked about getting lunch. So at this point i really don't know if i am going down a dangerous path, i am definitely gonna keep my guard up, however i could see in her eyes the other night that there was something still there between us. ADVICE ANYONE? not gonna let myself get hurt again... Link to post Share on other sites
NiceGuy4Ever Posted June 15, 2009 Share Posted June 15, 2009 Well it seems you're headed that way, to pain. Anyways there hasn't been much time so I don't think she has gotten over you yet. This is a risky situation and I would just say be careful. You've gotten youself into this and there will either be promise or heartbreak and the end of it. This is also going to prolong and interfere with the healing process. It's your choice as to what to do. I was in the same situation and in the end I regretted keeping contact with my ex. But that was just me. Like I said it's your call. Link to post Share on other sites
mark982 Posted June 16, 2009 Share Posted June 16, 2009 it's totally your call.if you feel things are ok go out. if not don't. again it's your call Link to post Share on other sites
Author trustydusty Posted June 16, 2009 Author Share Posted June 16, 2009 I mean i guess i feel like things are ok but i'm still a little unsure, i'm definitely gonna keep my guard up and just try to let things play out slowly, if they play out at all...has anyone ever delt with a similar situation? I'm sure plenty of people have. Link to post Share on other sites
sugarmomma Posted June 16, 2009 Share Posted June 16, 2009 What was her reason for breaking up with you? Link to post Share on other sites
Author trustydusty Posted June 16, 2009 Author Share Posted June 16, 2009 Basically it was because we were both under a lot of pressure and demand from school, she couldn't handle the stress and didn't feel like putting forth the effort for a relationship during the end. Neither of us are with anybody at this point i just am kinda iffy because i don't want to go down the same road again if things get hectic or stressful. She said she needed some space which i have given her for the past month. I did this mainly for myself so that i could heal and in the event that the relationship didn't work out in the end. I think the distance has really put the whole thing in perspective for me though. Link to post Share on other sites
sugarmomma Posted June 17, 2009 Share Posted June 17, 2009 That's good. I would not jump back into a r with her. Sounds like you need to put in place some boundaries for the relationship. Protect your Heart!!! Link to post Share on other sites
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