Where to meet women

[Confused]

I am recently single. I am new to the State I live in

 

and am wondering if anyone has any advice on how to meet

 

"quality women". Over the last several years I have dated women and all of them have still interested in the bar scene

 

and I am over it. Where and what can I do to attract a different type?

[DARCY]

Try a personal ad sight on the internet! Even post an ad yourself. My sister is getting married in September to a man she met through the computer & I have recently began seeing a man I wrote to for 3 weeks over the computer. He is a fabulous person & we get along great. You can find out a lot about someone by just writing back & forth first. Then you can decide if you want to take it to another level. Be careful, of course. Most people who post ads on an internet sight, however, are pretty serious about finding a mate the same as you. I don't think you have to worry too much about psychos by going this route. Try it out!

I am recently single. I am new to the State I live in and am wondering if anyone has any advice on how to meet "quality women". Over the last several years I have dated women and all of them have still interested in the bar scene and I am over it. Where and what can I do to attract a different type?

[Tony T]

The best way I know to attract a quality woman is to be a quality man. Do your best to be your best at all times and great things will follow.

 

To give you a few ideas about how people generally define quality men so you might find it easier being a quality man:

 

*** A qaulity man does not lie and does not tolerate being lied to.

 

*** A quality man always calls a lady when he says he will and does not tolerate a lady who does not call when she says.

 

*** A quality man treats a lady with kindness, respect and courtesy and does not tolerate being treated other than with kindness, respect and courtesy.

 

*** A quality man does not use ladies for his own selfish purposes and he does not tolerate ladies using him for their own selfish purposes.

 

*** A quality man is confident and feels good about himself and does not tolerate a lady who is not confident and who does not feel good about herself.

 

*** A quality man is honorable and does not flirt with other women or cheat when he makes a committment to a quality lady and he does not tolerate a woman he is committed to cheating or flirting with other men.

 

*** A quality man leaves graciously when a lady tells him she is no longer interested in dating him and he does not tolerate ladies who do not act graciously under the same circumstances.

 

*** A quality man treats all persons, no matter how rich or poor, no matter what their race, religion, educational level, etc., with the greatest of respect and listens always to what they have to say without interupting and insists that others give him the same courtesy.

 

*** A quality man does not judge others but he does not put others down because they feel they must judge him.

 

There are a lot more things about a quality man too numerous to mention here. But when you come anywhere close to the above, the most wonderful woman in the world will be by your side...or maybe several of them.

 

Good luck!!!

[D.]

There are many different functions where one can meet a lady who is not necessarily into the "bar scene".

 

Of course, you have probably heard of different churches and church functions.

 

There are also Volunteer type associations where one can meet a very nice lady. For example, those who devote time to visiting the elderly in nursing homes .... those who visit and entertain children in hospitals and those who devote time to helping the homeless in soup kitchens and such. These are all just to name a few.

 

There are also associations in many towns with different names where people can meet other single people in a meeting type atmosphere ... they are scheduled and can be found in the phone book .... along with Widowed with Children ... Divorsed looking for companionship. Where I live, there are such associations and many more.

 

If you have any trouble finding them in your book, feel free to call you local "Help line" as they are there to offer referals as well as listen to problems.

 

I hope I have helped. Best of luck! D.

[D. To Tony]

Tony, that was a fine speech and most wonderful advice.

 

But GEE WIZZ, the man just wants to know places other than bars where to meet women. Holy cow!

 

I will copy your post and put it in save for the next time I wish to tell a man how to treat a woman and how to be treated in return.

 

Tony, but could ya just tell the poor fella how he can go about meeting nice ladies in other places other than bars? GEEEESSSEEE! ROFLMAO!!!!!!!!!!!

 

Thanks for your great advice, even though it was out of context

[Tony T]

This man specifically asked for advice on how to meet quality women. I told him he could do that by being a quality man...and further felt an obligation to give him some ideas on what a quality man is...because I think there are many people who don't know.

 

I stand by my answer. This man can meet quality women by being a quality man!!! Simple as that. Unless he stays in his closet all day, he can't fail.

 

I feel this man has tried the bars and most other places and is attracting less than desireables. He is not having any trouble at all meeting women....he just can't seem to find quality women!!!

 

If you have been highly successful attracting QUALITY men in your life, you probably could give him additional pointers. I used to be an expert at meeting LESS THAN QUALITY women and over the years and therefore found a need to formulate various strategies to upgrade my encounters.

 

Perhaps I should have added to my reply that a quality man should frequent quality places...but, then again, I know a few guys who met real duds in church.

 

Perhaps I should have further added to find a quality woman you have to be a quality man, frequent quality places and pray for quality LUCK!!!

[D. To Tony]

Tony, You still insist, and I quote you, that the poster is asking:

 

"This man specifically asked for advice on how to meet quality women."

 

Now for a quote from his original post:

 

"Over the last several years I have dated women and all of them have still interested in the bar scene

 

and I am over it. Where and what can I do to attract a different type?

 

I repeat: "Where and what can I do to attract a different type?"

 

Tony, there is a vast difference between asking "HOW to find and asking "WHERE to find". Please pay attention. I guarantee my advice to him on WHERE to meet single, available ladies will be far more appreciated than your sermon on how to be a quality man looking for a quality woman and NOT telling him WHERE as that is what he asked.

 

Again, your talk was "real purty" but totally unnecessary and not replying to the question asked. Hey, you are always sooooooooooo good! You slipping or something? LMAO!

 

Best luck in the future telling the differecen between "where to" and "how to" Ya dweeb! LOL!

 

You know I love you!!!!! D.

[Nina]

Are there any hobbies you're interested in? I do Aikido, which is a martial art. I've met some great friends there who, if I wasn't already attached, I would be attracted to.

 

It's jsut an example. Find an activity that you're intersted in or could be interested in and go for it.

 

Also, I've heard personal ads are good. Mutual friends, that's the biggest connection-maker.

 

But I'd also have to say that if you're looking for love, it's hard to find. But when you're not looking for love, it usually splatters all over you. at the time I met my fiance, I had had a dry spell and had given up on men. Suddenly, there he was at a friend's party. Who knew?