sunnyjohn Posted June 18, 2009 Share Posted June 18, 2009 Hi, I am in LDR from last 2 years with a gal who is 3 years older than me. From last years we were chatting like freaks. Anytime we know exactly what we are doing at our respective places. Just 2 months back...she joined some coaching classes for GMAt...and they she met some new friends... those new friends include some guys also. AS the time progress...she reduced the time..she used to give me ...when i asked about the same..she told me that...she is too busy with work and exam preparation. We had a small fight and i agreed with her. she said sorry to me for that. After that...one day i found she has blocked me on msn.. when i asked her about the same..she told me that she needs to prepare for exam..and if she has unblocked me.. i wud have asked same questions again and again to her ..like why she did not sms me ..etc..! we had a big fight and i threaten her that i m going to break off...as i think there is some another guy in the picture...she tried her best to convince me and I got agree to her..! We were talking happily after that for few days. Then I told her that i m coming to china to meet her..she got agree to that..but when i was about to book my ticket she said.. dont come..come in September instead of July. I really got very angry and fought a lot with her. She tried to convince me initially and said..sunny u really need to cool down first...i think lets stop talking for a period of time..u will be OK by then..Then i sent her an email..saying that its OK..if u want a break but lets sort out our existing issue first..so that when we meet after one month...we have a smile on our face. Then she replied to my email...saying "I am not in a mood to talk and fix anything. Please have a good life. Good night"..! So she broke off... after 10 days..i sent her a sms yesterday... Hi...long time no communication..lots of H1N1 going on...just want to check ur health..are u all right? She replied.. "Yeah. I am still alive. Thanks.." I am confuse ..what to do..? I know i really irritated her a lot..but is there any way to patch up..!! Link to post Share on other sites
hoping2heal Posted June 18, 2009 Share Posted June 18, 2009 It sounds like you're getting jerked around. You have talked for two years, haven't met in person, and now when there is a chance for that to happen she tells you no? I think you should consider letting this go altogether, it's incredibly shady behavior that a person would tell you not to come, after you've talked and had a relation all this time. Link to post Share on other sites
Author sunnyjohn Posted June 18, 2009 Author Share Posted June 18, 2009 I understand what do u want to say...! but whatever i explained are my point of view and some how they explained my inner instinct..! i dont know why but i think there is some guy in the picture...Because she was never like that before...but what she told me that...There is no other guy...they are just friends...and she asked me not to compare myself with them..! i am much more to her then them...and she can give much more after her exam...! She said..she has spent a lot for exam preparation...and she is working really hard..whats the benefit if she can not clear the exam...! she told me not to come now...because she is too busy with exam and work and she can not take leave...she said she will feel quilt if I am there with her and she can not give time to me..! so she told me..lets make some wise plan of September instead of July. I fought with her on this topic..i told her..let me come for one day now..and i will come again in September.. She said no..Save money..we will use it later. But Her last email was so surprised...! May be she thinks that..let him go away for now..after her exam..she will patch up..as she knows that i will always be available for her...but just few days before when i asked her..do u still love me ? She said " I dont know"..but i used to...but i never said."I love you"..! Link to post Share on other sites
hoping2heal Posted June 18, 2009 Share Posted June 18, 2009 Well, personally I can understand I guess why she'd maybe feel guilty, but it's possible to make time for people if they are really important to you..after talking for two years, you'd think you would be to her, that said she sounds like she's checking out. "What does..I don't know..I used to" mean in relevance to do you love me? You know what I mean? She doesn't sound comitted to this any longer. Link to post Share on other sites
Author sunnyjohn Posted June 18, 2009 Author Share Posted June 18, 2009 Actually...about commitment...i think u r partially correct...! but she sent me an email on 4th of June and on 1st June night..before our fight..we were talking like...bf-gf..! all those private discussion...thats happens between bf-gf...! i know i made her super angry..so i m just looking for some way to make her calm..I am ready to give her space she needs...! Also i think that she wants to check out outside..as she has some options now..! yesterday night i sent her an sms..she replied instantly...but her reply was little sarcastic.. I asked her.. "Hi, long time no interaction...lots of H1N1 going on...just want to check my friend's health. ARe u all right?" She replied. "Yeah, i am stil alive. Thanks.." also about love...she told me...lets meet first and get to know each other in real life...then she will confirm me...! Link to post Share on other sites
hoping2heal Posted June 18, 2009 Share Posted June 18, 2009 That's fine and all, but what's concerning is that you asked her if she loved you and she said "I don't know...I used too". That's a complete and total contradiction of what she is now telling you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author sunnyjohn Posted June 18, 2009 Author Share Posted June 18, 2009 What i conclude from all this... She is confused and she doesn't want to fall into commitment...! may she wants to check out market..! May be she needs time to think over it and since she is busy now a days so she doesn't want to confirm anything now..! so i have decided to give her time to think about me..! But again since she is so busy now a days...so she doesn't have time to miss me..! so i m planning that time to time like everyweek..i will give her some gentle reminder...! like i text her last night..i will send her another sms next week...! Wat do u say..? Link to post Share on other sites
Author sunnyjohn Posted June 18, 2009 Author Share Posted June 18, 2009 Why no one is coming to help me..? I thought someone will help me on this forum...lots of ppl here are LDR expert.. Link to post Share on other sites
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