DanielleRon Posted October 31, 2003 Share Posted October 31, 2003 After 10 years he moved out! We were having no problems that I was aware of. He just packed his stuff & moved without saying a thing to me. I have 3 kids from a previous marrage, 2 still at home. He changed bank accounts & there is no more money. Can he do that? The kids 13 &15 & are devistated, as I am too. It was such a shock. Tomorrow it will be one week. I spoke to him once since then, I had to wait for him to leave his job to talk to him. He has not called or anything since then. I know there is no other woman as 6 years ago he had prostrate cancer & is unable to perform. I have had a sexless marrage all this time. I am 42 & he is 63. I have never been unfaithful, I am very involved at Church. I was fine with the way our relationship was as I felt we had something better then a marrage, we had best freinds, companionship, trust, honesy & loyalty. He has gotten himself a house & car. I am on SS disability & have been for 8 years. I can not work. I get $500 per month child support for the kids. I am not sure what to do. He works at the post office & is retired military, 24 years. When I asked him why he left he only said he was unhappy. He was in counseling about 6 months ago & the kids & I seen big changes for the better then he stopped going. I am an atractive woman & I know he has insecurities but I would never have done anythi9ng to hurt him as I love him to much. My parents think I should see an attourney. This has been such a shock. He was my best friend. Please give me some advise or hope. I told him on Monday night when I spoke to him that I loved him & wanted him to come home. He said maybe he made a mistake & could I ever forgive him but then I have heard nothing from him. Please help. Thanks, Danielle Link to post Share on other sites
ArdeaCandidissima Posted October 31, 2003 Share Posted October 31, 2003 Your parents are right...The best advice I can give you right now is to get some help from Legal Aid (low cost or free legal help). If he is converting joint assets to his own use, that's a problem that has to be addressed ASAP. A good attorney can provide other advice and assistance on financial and support questions. I take it you were not married? As to why he's leaving...based on your description of the situation, I don't really know, but I doubt if it's fixable. He seems pretty serious about a new life. If I were you, I would re-evaluate whether there was really as much trust and honesty as it may once have appeared. You're young and attractive...there will be other men, better ones I hope. I hope you maintained other friendships - best girlfriends, etc. You will need them now for emotional support. It never makes sense to have your whole life wrapped up in and dependent on one person. You've got your parents and your kids to anchor to as well. Link to post Share on other sites
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