Why can't some men get the other foot out the door?

[whichwayisup]

They have a counselling session tomorrow and he told me he is not going to commit to working on his M, and hoping she decides to call it quits. So if it ends it ends.

So, you may 'get' him by default. How nice of him.. He won't end his marriage because he doesn't have the balls to, he'd rather his wife decide it's over and call it quits?

 

You have no idea how he is going to feel/react during that session. I bet he doesn't know either. This could all change and he could decide to stay..

 

This guy has no reason to end his marriage other than to be with you. If he hadn't met you, he would still be with her.

 

 

My marriage didn't end because of infidelity, and neither is his. His will end because after 10 years of marriage he is not happy being married to her. She does nothing with him, is boring, and only wants a kid with him. He is adventurous, loves to travel, hiking, skiing, oceans, and she sits in the hotel room with a book and won't even go for a walk with him. Why would he want that for the next 40-50 years when he can be with someone who shares his zest for life?

 

But his marriage COULD be ending because of his affair with you.

 

Anyway, this guy has no balls..He'd rather his wife end it so he doesn't have to be the bad guy...Reminds of a teen boy who wants out of a relationship but can't or won't end it, so instead the guy goes into a-hole mode until the girl breaks up with him.

 

You only know what he's told you..Obviously he loved her enough to marry her..And stayed 10 years.

[MWC_LifeBeginsAt40]

You have no idea how he is going to feel/react during that session. I bet he doesn't know either. This could all change and he could decide to stay..

 

This guy has no reason to end his marriage other than to be with you. If he hadn't met you, he would still be with her.

 

He's just trying to keep the peace until he knows all his options (lawyer's advice as well) and there are huge financial implications for him.

 

Yes, things could change and he could decide to stay. I know what he says and I choose to believe him. If we didn't start our affair, he would still be questioning why he is with her.