rick Posted October 31, 2003 Share Posted October 31, 2003 Hi, I’ve been dating my girlfriend for 3 months, I really like her and we got on really well together, but she doesn’t express her feelings about me or us. In the past she had a bad relationship with this guy who used to cheat on her and treat her badly, so she built a massive barrier around her. How can I get her to open up to me?? I know that this relationship can work, but I’m going crazy not knowing what she thinks. Link to post Share on other sites
PinkCrayon03 Posted November 1, 2003 Share Posted November 1, 2003 Umm.. why dont u take i it slow.. with her, make her feel like u are the only person in the world that can make her be comfortable around her, maybe she isnt ready right now..but she will open up to u eventually.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author rick Posted November 1, 2003 Author Share Posted November 1, 2003 HI, yes that's what i'll try and do, hope it works before she drives me crazy. thanks a lot. Link to post Share on other sites
Baubles Posted November 3, 2003 Share Posted November 3, 2003 dopn't worry- she's probably just being cautious- be glad you're not hearing ranting or doubts... Link to post Share on other sites
Purrrfection8 Posted November 3, 2003 Share Posted November 3, 2003 Hi Rick, how r u? I'm going through a similar situation not knowing exactly what he feels, thinks and wants re us... It's tough, particularly when ur ready to roll in this relationship... He's not one to talk about his deep inner feelings also altho I know they're there... I just like to b reminded every now and again... All I could offer as suggestion to u is to give it time, b patient and while doing thus continue to show love, gentility and understanding.. The answers u seek to know will come with time... I feel a hypocrite saying this because I know how hard it is to b gentle, show love and understanding when all u wish to do is hold hands together and run up the hills screaming out loud to the world "I'm in love! I'm in love! What a good day it is to beeeheeeee in love!!!!" Well mayb I got carried away there in my own fantasy, but gluck, hope u'll b patient and persevere! Love and light, Purrrfection8 Link to post Share on other sites
innocent Posted November 4, 2003 Share Posted November 4, 2003 I was never in a long relationship like I am now (1 year 7 months).... and I still have issues with trust, mostly b/c practically everyone from my best friends to my ex's have treated me with complete disrespect and treated me badly. It's not that I don't want to open up to my b/f, I do now alot more than before, it is just when someone has broken your trust very badly you just plain don't trust anyone, even if they are kind and sweet and tell you their feelings, you are just in disbelief and kind of waiting for that person to prove you either wrong or right. It has taken me a long time to start opening up to my b/f and I am glad that he was patient b/c I don't know what I would do without him...I still have these issues with trust and it is still hard sometimes to talk about my feelings, but I love him and I am just so thankful that he has proved me wrong. Just take your time with her, and try to prove her wrong, if you are willing to take the time and effort to help her trust in you, and she will if you do. It just takes time and alot of you trusting her. She may not be as bad as I am about it b/c I have had tons of trust issues, and she may open up to you alot quicker than you might think. Link to post Share on other sites
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