My boyfriend has liked someone else since we met!

[fredweasleygirl7]

Hi, I'm a girl, just turned sixteen, haven't registered on the site yet. And I just currently - just yesterday, in fact, - broke up with my boyfriend David. It's affected me more than was expected.

 

Here's the thing: We were standing at lunch, waiting for the line to dwindle, when Chris, my ex, suddenly starts talking about this girl to David. I didn't care, I'm not that overprotective, it's just I overheard Chris say, "You know Emily, of course," and then give David a hearty wink. Upon hearing my best friends name, I leaned closer. David nodded, looking dreamy. Then I ruined my relationship with three words.

 

"You like her?" I asked David, making them both jump. Chris looked uneasy and David's eyes started wandering around the lunchroom.

 

"No," he responded. "Well, maybe. Yeah. May - "

 

"You do," I whispered my stomach sinking. And at this point I wasn't even mad, just a little disappointed. I didn't care. David could like me and someone else at the same time. As long as he liked me best. But then my idiotic ex spoke up.

 

"Yeah, he does, he likes her way more than you." At this David's shoulders slumped really low. Now I was REALLY mad. I just stormed off and ate lunch with my best friend Robby. And later that day, David left me. Chris told me all I needed to know - how David had never really liked me, how he had just used me to get to Emily (who doesn't even like him anyways so I don't understand the point).

 

I feel so stupid! So - so dumb! How could I not have seen that he didn't love me? Please, someone, help!

~Autumn

[HokeyReligions]

Don't be so hard on yourself. Have you ever heard the expression "love is blind" well that is the truth.

 

Just tell yourself, and anyone else who comments on your breakup, "good riddance to bad rubbish" You don't need that and you will have lots of short & long-term relationships to look forward to. Now that this one is over you can freely move on to something better.

[fredweasleygirl7]

I suppose you're right . . . love may be blind but i thought he loved me, dammit. i thought he actually loved me! i should have seen it coming, i should have known!! im just a confused - a confused - thing! A confused bunny! yeah! and maybe i am being kind of tuff on myself but what else am i to think? All my other options are scary! blaming it on myself is the only way to do it . . . bcuz otherwise . . . id have to admit defeat . . . i would have to move on and im not sure im ready to do that just yet. im not sure im ready to do ne thing yet.

~Autumn

[moimeme]

blaming it on myself is the only way to do it .

 

No it's not. Blame him for being too chicken to break up with you and tell you the truth when he realized he liked somebody else. This is not your fault.

[Dreamgirl03]

That sounds so familiar...ugh. That has happened to me as well. (And the funny thing is..my ex that it happeed with has friends with the exact same names as u and emily..lol)

but anyway..thought it was interesting

[fredweasleygirl7]

Thank you for finding my misery so interesting, DreamGirl.

 

You're right, I should blame it on him, but yesterday I overheard him talking and he was telling all his friends how "stupid I was" because I never knew I didn't like him. It crushed me and lately I've been in a slump, not talking much, that sort of thing. All my friends are worried and can't figure out what's wrong; it's weird how I'm spilling my heart out to people I don't know but can't bear to speak to my best friends other than an occasional "Hello" or "See ya later, I guess." *sniff*

~Autumn

[sexy]

Originally posted by fredweasleygirl7

Hi, I'm a girl, just turned sixteen, haven't registered on the site yet. And I just currently - just yesterday, in fact, - broke up with my boyfriend David. It's affected me more than was expected.

 

Here's the thing: We were standing at lunch, waiting for the line to dwindle, when Chris, my ex, suddenly starts talking about this girl to David. I didn't care, I'm not that overprotective, it's just I overheard Chris say, "You know Emily, of course," and then give David a hearty wink. Upon hearing my best friends name, I leaned closer. David nodded, looking dreamy. Then I ruined my relationship with three words.

 

"You like her?" I asked David, making them both jump. Chris looked uneasy and David's eyes started wandering around the lunchroom.

 

"No," he responded. "Well, maybe. Yeah. May - "

 

"You do," I whispered my stomach sinking. And at this point I wasn't even mad, just a little disappointed. I didn't care. David could like me and someone else at the same time. As long as he liked me best. But then my idiotic ex spoke up.

 

"Yeah, he does, he likes her way more than you." At this David's shoulders slumped really low. Now I was REALLY mad. I just stormed off and ate lunch with my best friend Robby. And later that day, David left me. Chris told me all I needed to know - how David had never really liked me, how he had just used me to get to Emily (who doesn't even like him anyways so I don't understand the point).

 

I feel so stupid! So - so dumb! How could I not have seen that he didn't love me? Please, someone, help!

~Autumn

 

 

Hi there

 

Well Im also 16 and I know what you went through with this stupid ex boyfriend of yours. He really aint worth it then.

 

Its not your fault that he maybe used you to get to your friend. It feels like **** yes but you'll get over it in time you'll see. YOU wil find someone much better and whom you can trust and really loves you for who you are and not cheking out your friend.

 

He most probarly feels bad in a way so if he comes running back to say that he's sorry and wants to be friends then you just say piss off and go home to your girl where you belong cause a little **** like him dont deserve you.

 

I went almost through the same situation like you but my ex left me in town for another girl whom he didnt even know. But now that was a long time ago, im going out now with a great loving guy who loves me and so im happy.

 

I hope you'll find your way also and forget about it. You can do better things than worrying about a little ****.

 

Hope to hear from you soon again and do tell if anything else happened.

[fredweasleygirl7]

I took sexy's advice. Yesterday he asked Emily out for coffee. I laughed so hard - the look on her face! - and watched him walk away real slow.

 

Well, today, he came up to me. He said he was sorry. He said he felt really bad. He said he wanted to be my boyfriend again. And for a second, I swear I almost reconsidered. But just as I thought it, Emily came by. And then I knew the real reason he wanted me back: he was using me, because he couldn't stand not having a girlfriend, the insecure little freak. I expect that we would have broken up if Emily had ever dared flirt with him. I looked at him for a second, then squared my shoulders, puffed out my chest, and happily told him to go f*** himself.

 

I feel better now.

 

Thank you, all of you. You've really helped.

~Autumn

[sexy]

Originally posted by fredweasleygirl7

I took sexy's advice. Yesterday he asked Emily out for coffee. I laughed so hard - the look on her face! - and watched him walk away real slow.

 

Well, today, he came up to me. He said he was sorry. He said he felt really bad. He said he wanted to be my boyfriend again. And for a second, I swear I almost reconsidered. But just as I thought it, Emily came by. And then I knew the real reason he wanted me back: he was using me, because he couldn't stand not having a girlfriend, the insecure little freak. I expect that we would have broken up if Emily had ever dared flirt with him. I looked at him for a second, then squared my shoulders, puffed out my chest, and happily told him to go f*** himself.

 

I feel better now.

 

Thank you, all of you. You've really helped.

~Autumn

 

 

Hi there Autumn

 

Well im glad my advice helped you and I hope that you wont think of him so much anymore even if its hard sometimes i know.

 

I was hoping you can help maybe.

 

I going out with this cute guy and i love him very much. Now me and my ex broke up few months ago and i loved him so much when he sends me an sms i want to die. But I dont want him back i love my boyfriend too much to go back. ]

 

He came last night to my house to say hallo to me and the best part is my boyfriend was standing there with me. So I introduced my boyfriend to him and then he went again. After that he sms'd me again and asked if i want to do something this weekend. My boyfriend is going to S.A for a game his playing there and his gonne be gone for a week. Im gonne miss him so much .Tonight his coming to say bay . What should I do about my ex ? I will always have feelings for him he was my realy first true love in my life, a person that i acually really loved and in a way always will. Im scared something might happen. He also still loves me.

 

Im scared I dont want to fall in love all over again with him. When I see him I get these lots of butterflies in my stomache and everything spins.What we had was deep and unexplainable. Nothing I had with anyone before in my life.

 

Whats wrong with me am i going crazy or what. Please

help!!!

[VelvetShadows]

Hey hun,

 

Sorry to hear about what happened.

 

But take some advice from an older woman. Dont be worried about having a boyfriend right now. If anything you should worry about finishing school, moving onto college and just over all bettering yourself. Guys will come and go. You'll fall hard for some, and others you wont be able to tolerate. I know its easier said then done. Especially with being as young as you are. But believe me, i've been there, done that.. Had my heartache from dreams and promises shattered but once i got on the track i needed to be and not worrying about guys and dating. Things got better. You'll see hun.

 

Besides guys in your age group are just well i'll say dorks sparing us the foul language. One moment they say your the love of your their life the next they like "Suzy or Sara" and love them... Believe me guys act better the older they get so just wait a few years... you'll fall in love again...

 

Well anyway... take care and i wish you the best of luck in all things you do

 

 

Velvet Shadows

[fredweasleygirl7]

OK, sexy, thank you for your help. You scratch my back I scratch yours, so . . .

 

The first thing you have to figure out is: Who do you want to be with?

 

I know it can be hard to do that, tho, so try to look at each quality of the two boys separately.

 

Maybe your ex has an anger problem.

 

Or an acne problem. (Don't attack me, I'm just kidding!)

 

But you know what I mean.

 

Yeah.

 

Okay, now you have to think: who do you love?

 

I know that one's hard, too, and sometimes you feel like you love both of them.

 

But you know, or at least your subconscious knows, that you love one of them more.

 

I know I can't judge because I've never met ne of you all, but it sounds to me like you still love your ex.

 

Not to be nosy, but how did ya'll break up?

 

It might answer a few questions.

 

~*Fredweasleygirl7

[sexy]

Originally posted by fredweasleygirl7

OK, sexy, thank you for your help. You scratch my back I scratch yours, so . . .

 

The first thing you have to figure out is: Who do you want to be with?

 

I know it can be hard to do that, tho, so try to look at each quality of the two boys separately.

 

Maybe your ex has an anger problem.

 

Or an acne problem. (Don't attack me, I'm just kidding!)

 

But you know what I mean.

 

Yeah.

 

Okay, now you have to think: who do you love?

 

I know that one's hard, too, and sometimes you feel like you love both of them.

 

But you know, or at least your subconscious knows, that you love one of them more.

 

I know I can't judge because I've never met ne of you all, but it sounds to me like you still love your ex.

 

Not to be nosy, but how did ya'll break up?

 

It might answer a few questions.

 

~*Fredweasleygirl7

 

 

Well thanks for your advice.

 

Well sorry i only reply now i was in Cape Town for a few weeks and it was the best time ever

 

Well you asked how we broke up, well he phoned and said my friends dont like him and he just feels not good enough for me all of that type of **** you know.

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But hay whatever . Dont ask what happened but im with my boyfriend now my ex is history.

 

Case closed. But anyways besides relathinships how was your holiday.?