stuckinoz Posted June 19, 2009 Share Posted June 19, 2009 Ok - I know there are married guys that come to this website - I'm VERY interested in hearing opinions on married men in strip clubs - so, wives & husbands - What's your take on this subject? Good / Bad / or Indifferent. Link to post Share on other sites
GorillaTheater Posted June 19, 2009 Share Posted June 19, 2009 Indifferant ranging to bad. I like T&A as much as the next guy, but find strip clubs to a mix of pathetic and predatory. They just don't do it for me. Though the last time I was in one (I had a boss who was VERY into "gentlemens' clubs") was nearly 20 years ago. Link to post Share on other sites
redtail Posted June 19, 2009 Share Posted June 19, 2009 I'm 53, I am currently married to my second wife, and I have never set foot inside a strip club. Not out of any objection or religous belief, personally I see no reason to go there and so have never had the inclination. Link to post Share on other sites
1Angel Posted June 19, 2009 Share Posted June 19, 2009 What is the point of getting stimulated if you can't complete the act? Link to post Share on other sites
seibert253 Posted June 19, 2009 Share Posted June 19, 2009 Nothing good can come of it. I personally think it's disresectful to a wife to go out and ogle over other naked women. I personally enjoy seeing my wife a la natural. Link to post Share on other sites
jmargel Posted June 19, 2009 Share Posted June 19, 2009 I"m married and go every once in a great while. My wife actually went once. The novelty has worn off a long time ago, and would rather her come with. Strip clubs itself doesn't 'make' a man cheat. If I wanted to cheat on my wife, there are numerous ways to do it. In reality the only way to keep a spouse from 'cheating' is to lock them up in a cage. The only reason I say this is because this discussion will turn into 'My husband went and did this and that, etc..' Thing is, if someone is going to cheat on you with a stripper he's going to cheat with on you with the chick he met at a local bar, store, work, etc.. In my opinion as long as both spouses have boundaries you don't cross then go for it. Same goes for porn. If a spouse is so threatened by strip clubs or porn because of their insecurity then there are alot more problems in the relationship than where the other goes. And often it's the insecure one that ends up cheating. Link to post Share on other sites
LoveNeverFails Posted June 19, 2009 Share Posted June 19, 2009 I find strip clubs degrading toward women and I would never go there. My fiancee has had guys from his work offer to take him there but he is also against it. Link to post Share on other sites
Dexter Morgan Posted June 19, 2009 Share Posted June 19, 2009 Ok - I know there are married guys that come to this website - I'm VERY interested in hearing opinions on married men in strip clubs - so, wives & husbands - What's your take on this subject? Good / Bad / or Indifferent. when I was married, i wouldn't go to them. Why would I? what would be my purpose as a married man to see other women take their clothes off? As a man who might find himself in a committed relationship, why would I want to watch other women get naked, and have them rub all over me, when I can get the real thing at home?.....that is of course I'm not satisfied with what I have at home and if thats the case, I wouldn't be in a committed relationship. then again, I went to a strip club once when I was single because that was where the best man set the bachelor party up....i've never been since....no desire. Link to post Share on other sites
Dexter Morgan Posted June 19, 2009 Share Posted June 19, 2009 on another note, I had an old gf lie to me about where she was going one night, came home at 2am...crawled in bed while I was asleep and said she wanted sex because she was all hot and bothered. I told her she can go in the kitchen and grab a cucumber....I want a woman that is hot and bothered because she wanted me...not because of some other guy. i wasn't interested in having sex with someone that was all jacked up and aroused because of someone else. Link to post Share on other sites
NOTSURE7 Posted June 19, 2009 Share Posted June 19, 2009 funny i am surprised to see so many responses against them considering everytime i have ever gone in one they are packed with men,most married and in business suits.now i am no saint as anyone who has read my posts will know but to be honest i dont find strip clubs that appealing, i think if you want to go that route and want to see another woman naked you can just turn on cinemax after dark and enjoy yourself in the comfort of your own home at least there you dont have to worry about all the unsanitary things floating around on this dancer.anyway thats my take Link to post Share on other sites
LakesideDream Posted June 20, 2009 Share Posted June 20, 2009 This topic comes up every three months or so. Personally I believe "strip clubs" are a waste of time and of lessor importance money. I have been to a "strip club" once, about 27 years ago. My employeer was having a bachlor party and I was roped in to be a designated driver. I was bored out of my mind for 5 hours. The girls/women were not disgusting, but I wouldn't have traded their looks for my wife's. The gyrations were ridictulous. ...And this was at a club on the Sunset Strip in Hollywood Ca. My advice to Men, don't bother. My advice to women who's husbands want to go, or currently go to strip clubs and you don't approve, tell your BF/Husband it's not OK in your opinion and you would rather they didn't. If the man doesen't heed your warning, take the steps you deem appropriate. I wouldn't be quick to denounce you gals if strip clubs were a deal breaker for you. Link to post Share on other sites
Jersey Shortie Posted June 20, 2009 Share Posted June 20, 2009 I personally don't think a strip joint is a place for an already attached man. Women are always told about how sexual men are and how much men think of sex. Then whenever this subject comes up all the sudden men are very innocent and aren't going to strip clubs for the sexual atmosphere. As a man, why would you even put yourself in a position to be tempted? And is self control never setting foot in one to start, or getting cloes enough to the line with your nose over it but keeing your feet behind it? If a man doesn't see a problem with his wife/gf actually being a stripper "once-in-awhile" for the fun of it, then I see no problem with him going to watch strippers. Women and men are different. Male strip reviews don't turn on 99% of women. However, we all know that men are different. Alot of guys would have major issues with their wife or girlfriends putting themselves in the spot of stripper, yet defend their right to see strippers. If a man isn't doing anything wrong by ogling strippers, then a woman isn't doing anything wrong by stripping. Yet, I doubt men would feel comfortable with a woman wanting to express her sexuality that way. Plus, it sucks that you have married men that are 30+ going to watch 18 year old girls gryrate probably while their wives are at home watching their children. Link to post Share on other sites
sb129 Posted June 20, 2009 Share Posted June 20, 2009 I am married and my H has only been to strip clubs since we have been together as part of bachelor- party type celebrations, and I don't care about that- I can't expect him NOT to celebrate his friends bachelor parties. Going to them on other occasions doesn't appeal to him, and on the occasions when we do go out- we go out together to somewhere that we both want to go. I have a friend who's H was a regular strip club attender- he works in banking and this was in the banking hey day where drinking/ attending clubs etc etc was almost part of the job description. I wouldn't be that pleased about that kind of thing, most of all seeing as once she found thousands of dollars on their credit card statement to a strip club. THAT would be a deal breaker to me. Lying about money as well as going to strip clubs is not good. Link to post Share on other sites
luvstarved Posted June 20, 2009 Share Posted June 20, 2009 Well...maybe I sound like a broken record but again I really think it depends on the couple. If a wife is ok with it ...and presuming it's not hurting anyone...then it's nobody else's business. Personally, I would not want to be with a man who was interested in strip clubs. Something about it just feels seedy and shallow and disrespectful to me. But if I had a friend whose husband went and she said she did not care, I don't think it would be right of me to upset her world by injecting my opinions. Which isn't to say I've never been guilty of that...but I try not to be! Link to post Share on other sites
Nikki Sahagin Posted June 20, 2009 Share Posted June 20, 2009 I am strongly against them. I think the sex industry is one of exploitation. A small percentage of women in the industry CHOOSE to be in it; many others do so because of extreme poverty, drugs, sexual addiction, limited options etc. If you speak to many women in this industry, you will find out much about them. As such, baring this in mind, I find it appalling to perpetuate that culture by feeding money into it. Now of course it is a dog eat dog world, and whether you eat chicken mcnuggets or watch tv, you are damaging something or someone out there, but the sex industry I find a truly demoralising one which has even seeped by degrees into music videos and magazines etc and has an incredibly corrosive effect on the self-esteem and self-image of developing children and teenagers, mainly because it perpetuates a fake and unnatural image of beauty, which takes considerable wealth, energy, time and often surgery to achieve. Baring in mind though we are talking about strip clubs...I think a man in a relationship has no place to be in one. For me it would be a dealer breaker. Link to post Share on other sites
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