Am I screwing this up?

[phineas]

I posted a long rambling post that probably made no sense.

I'll summarize.

I caught her sending nude pics to another man, she claims she ended it but moved out afterword claiming she can't take the fighting.

 

She wanted to do MC & work on marriage.

She has had her own apartment for the last two months & claims we still fight to much.

We argue because she dropped transparancy, (no phone bill or e-mail access) falls off the grid sometimes & feels like i'm invading her privacy wanting to know where she is going when she goes out.

She also spends way more time with her friends than with me & when she does have time for me she is ready to go home to bed by 10 while she'll stay out with friends all night.

 

I've decided to go as NC as possible.

Last night she did text me for MC's name & number.

I supplied that.

I don't know why, she just thinks he wants our money & refuses to listen to him.

 

I've told her until she is ready to move back in, do what the MC says & work on living together, plus proving to me OM is history by transparancy I don't want to talk to her except where it concerns kids.

I told her text messages only.

 

I'm sick of living like this.

Since I told her NC she has called me numerous times & I am not answering.

She texts me unneccesary things about kids then calls me & leaves a VM to see if I got her message because I didn't respond.

My text responce to those are as minimal as possible to let her know I got the message.

I don't want divorce. But, I don't see us going anywhere as long as she's living in her fortess of solitude.

 

From what i've read here, NC is the way to go in a situation like this. I have to Let her know what life will be like without me to be there for her.