andreautick Posted October 31, 2003 Share Posted October 31, 2003 So, to make a long story short, I've been seeing this guy I'm really attracted to..or was really attracted to. Each and every date we've had, we make out like the whole time and he keeps pushing for more and more and more physically. Our last date, I did a lot with him, but I didn't want to go beyond mycomfort zone even more on a 3rd date! I don't think he's a player, I think he's an exceedingly physical person. He did talk about balance ina relationship andall that...but he's just super physical The thing is, i was really attracted to him. But last night, he got pissed off because I wouldn't do more with him. Not like storming mad, just kind of annoyed. IT was such a turn off and it digusted me somuch... Now I don't really feel like I want to see him. How do I turn down his advances from now on? He's a really persistent guy. Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted October 31, 2003 Share Posted October 31, 2003 If you don't want to see him anymore, don't...then you won't have to worry about turning down his advances. When he calls you to ask you out again, simply tell him he goes way too fast for your blood, is just too pushy in the physical realm and let him know in clear terms that you didn't appreciate his attitude with respect to the boundaries you set for yourself. Then just don't see him again. Clearly, the two of you are not compatible. There are lots of guys who won't move so fast and will show you they care about other aspects of you. So don't even worry about dealing with him anymore. Just don't see him again and let him go find some freewheeling slut he can manipulate to get his rocks off. Link to post Share on other sites
HokeyReligions Posted October 31, 2003 Share Posted October 31, 2003 You've only had a few dates - just tell him that you don't think you two are right for each other and you feel it wouldn't be a good idea to see each other anymore. If he gets huffy about it tell him that you can't give him what he wants and he'd just be wasting his time with you. Link to post Share on other sites
Ryan Posted October 31, 2003 Share Posted October 31, 2003 This wouldn't happen to be the same guy you mentioned having attraction to while sorting through your relationship with your boyfriend....is it? Link to post Share on other sites
Author andreautick Posted October 31, 2003 Author Share Posted October 31, 2003 Ryan, It is the same guy, yes. At the same time this has happenned with new guy, my boyfriend (well, not boyfriend anymore, I broke up with him a couple days ago) has made a concerted effort to work through his issues about commitment, in a magical epiphanic sort of way--which started before the breakup and before I even let on about wanting to break up. It doesn't feel right,and being with this new guy has made me think...A LOT. Link to post Share on other sites
Ryan Posted October 31, 2003 Share Posted October 31, 2003 About boyfriend...stay broken up. About new guy....we told you so. Refer back to the thread in which all of this was discussed. I believe we described the situation as it would become...so you might find some more fortune telling there. It's a cliche until it is happening to you. Link to post Share on other sites
Vivid_29 Posted November 2, 2003 Share Posted November 2, 2003 If you don't want to see him anymore, then don't. Be honest with him and let him know how you feel. Link to post Share on other sites
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