Author Patrice Posted March 23, 2012 Author Share Posted March 23, 2012 Now says if I'll see him he'll leave his wife? What the heck is with these married men who want a cakewalk on the side. Do they perpetually lie, deceive? He's unhappy that I've moved on with my life? Or he's in a position to do something about his feelings now? I've been divorced for two years .. time marches on. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted March 23, 2012 Share Posted March 23, 2012 He's just trying to get your attention and to get you to respond! IF he wished to get divorced - it would be DONE- as in FINAL! There's no reason for you to take his bait! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Patrice Posted March 23, 2012 Author Share Posted March 23, 2012 No, I won't go down .. stronger woman these days ... not sure what this is about ... and why hold on for three years with the wife and keep trying? Maybe a bad patch in the marriage, not even entertaining getting involved. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
alexandria35 Posted March 24, 2012 Share Posted March 24, 2012 Wow! Three years have gone by and he's still with his wife! Just imagine how it would feel if you had agreed to become his OW 3 years ago. Three years later you would still be a hidden secret waiting on him to leave his wife and fullfill his empty promises to you. Good for you for not falling into that trap and thanks for the update. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Patrice Posted March 24, 2012 Author Share Posted March 24, 2012 Very curious indeed ... SO glad, I wasn't an OW waiting for this guy .. seeing a nice guy who is NOT married ... and happy now. I think these guys smell happiness and healing and just keep at it. You learn, you deal with your own issues and health and happiness, he needs to deal with his. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted March 24, 2012 Share Posted March 24, 2012 Now says if I'll see him he'll leave his wife? What the heck is with these married men who want a cakewalk on the side. Do they perpetually lie, deceive? He's unhappy that I've moved on with my life? Or he's in a position to do something about his feelings now? I've been divorced for two years .. time marches on. Why haven't you blocked him in all possible ways? How is he still in touch with you? He shouldn't know ANYTHING about you and your life since you two broke up .. 3 years ago. IGNORE HIM and focus on your life. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted March 24, 2012 Share Posted March 24, 2012 It looks like (from yours posts here) that he said the M was over in 2009! Sheez, he just lies and lies! 3 years later - he's still married- what a dork! Snort snort! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Patrice Posted March 24, 2012 Author Share Posted March 24, 2012 On a political blog and he shows up there from time to time ... e-mailed me today ... he won't bait me back in .... for the record, after 3 years I think it's time for him to move along. I was vulnerable at the time .. went to therapy about that ... trying to understand why I would let that person into my life. In the meantime, I've purchased a house on my own .. kids are great, ex and I are civil ... and time does heal. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted March 24, 2012 Share Posted March 24, 2012 Did you write him back or ignore him? Link to post Share on other sites
nofool4u Posted March 26, 2012 Share Posted March 26, 2012 I'm a very attractive, highly educated woman who could probably have her pick of men in her own surroundings Oh brother. Then I hope after your divorce is final that you stay unmarried. People that think this highly of themselves typically do not stay faithful for long. I'm not happy with the lack of dignity afforded me here .. I'm not happy compromising my principles to start a relationship that could just hurt me in the long run .. he says he needs to be with me physically to confirm the spiritual and emotional bond .. need your thoughts please. Well if you are all that as you profess, then you shouldn't have a problem, no? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Patrice Posted June 21, 2012 Author Share Posted June 21, 2012 He has not left the wife .. he continually badgers me still ... I did meet him and it was weird ... we are on a political blog which I have since disenegaged from to keep him at bay. My thoughts, no longer being vulnerable like I was then .. it was an escape and when it became real it wasn't what I was looking for. His take? I would not sleep with him and he needed that to end the marriage ... and I will keep on advising other women in the same situation. Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted June 21, 2012 Share Posted June 21, 2012 He has not left the wife .. he continually badgers me still ... I did meet him and it was weird ... we are on a political blog which I have since disenegaged from to keep him at bay. My thoughts, no longer being vulnerable like I was then .. it was an escape and when it became real it wasn't what I was looking for. His take? I would not sleep with him and he needed that to end the marriage ... and I will keep on advising other women in the same situation. YOU ALLOW him to DO this to YOU! Very unhealthy! How does a thread get active again after being dormant this long? That's very odd! It should have been "unable to be active to posts" after 6 months passed of inactivity. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Patrice Posted June 21, 2012 Author Share Posted June 21, 2012 He won't get back in ... the message remains the same ... nothing good comes from a vulnerable woman with a man that lies, and continues to 3 years after. Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted June 21, 2012 Share Posted June 21, 2012 He won't get back in ... the message remains the same ... nothing good comes from a vulnerable woman with a man that lies, and continues to 3 years after. He already is in - and YOU never eliminated him! Why aren't you seeing it? 3 years later and you still see his correspondence - and now meet up with him... YOU haven't "disengaged one bit"! Why torture yourself? You say he badgers you - nope - YOU allow it! Link to post Share on other sites
alexandria35 Posted June 21, 2012 Share Posted June 21, 2012 He already is in - and YOU never eliminated him! Why aren't you seeing it? 3 years later and you still see his correspondence - and now meet up with him... YOU haven't "disengaged one bit"! Why torture yourself? You say he badgers you - nope - YOU allow it! Have to say I agree with Sunny here. In your first update it sounded like you were done with him three years ago and you were bewildered as to why the guy was still trying 3 YEARS LATER. But I don't think you ended it three years ago, I think it's been going on the entire time. Oh maybe it's been off and on but I don't think you've ever really ended it. Sounds like you have recently tried to end it again but I'm not sure you will abide by your own decision and here it is 3 years later and dude is still with his wife. Link to post Share on other sites
alexandria35 Posted June 22, 2012 Share Posted June 22, 2012 He has not left the wife .. he continually badgers me still ... I did meet him and it was weird ... we are on a political blog which I have since disenegaged from to keep him at bay. My thoughts, no longer being vulnerable like I was then .. it was an escape and when it became real it wasn't what I was looking for. His take? I would not sleep with him and he needed that to end the marriage ... and I will keep on advising other women in the same situation. Okay Patrice I just had a look at some of your other threads which you have posted on other forums and I don't think you have been honest with us here. You're under no obligation to tell us the truth but really whats the point of even posting if you're not going to be honest? June 2009 you were saying that you were done with this guy and you hadn't slept with him and you weren't going to. A mere three weeks later you were posting on another board how you were about to fly to see a special someone you who had been involved with online and on the phone for many months. Said you were meeting up with him in a hotel and it was going to be your first sexual encounter since your divorce. Later you came back saying it was "splendid" and "amazing". I suspect this was the MM. Was it someone else? Link to post Share on other sites
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