Author MrMayI Posted August 31, 2009 Author Share Posted August 31, 2009 Thanks Dela, wow what a welcome! MayI, thanks for cluing me on the chesse salt, the US sounds so much nicer than here, I've always thought that! LOL I'm glad you got a full nights sleep last night, it kind of just happens doesn't it? I remember, around the 4 month mark I started sleeping through properly again, I've stopped losing weight now too, which is good, but bad at the same time, b/c now I am having to watch what I eat again! i'm hitting the 4 month mark myself. i've begun gaining weight like mad. i'm contemplating intensifying and increasing my workouts to keep up. my stbx has even made several comments about how she can't believe how good/athletic i look these days. i don't know if the US is nicer than England, but we have a lot of products here you don't see anywhere else. after all, we are the major consumers in this world. i'm sitting here in total disbelief of myself today. i feel just as good before my wife walked out. Link to post Share on other sites
LisaUk Posted August 31, 2009 Share Posted August 31, 2009 i'm sitting here in total disbelief of myself today. i feel just as good before my wife walked out. Really happy to hear that MayI. REALLY HAPPY! :bunny::bunny: Link to post Share on other sites
Gunny376 Posted August 31, 2009 Share Posted August 31, 2009 And that's a good thing! Link to post Share on other sites
Author MrMayI Posted August 31, 2009 Author Share Posted August 31, 2009 it feels good, for now, that's for sure. who knows when the crash will come again. Link to post Share on other sites
hopesndreams Posted August 31, 2009 Share Posted August 31, 2009 Enjoy it while it lasts. Really enjoy it! I have been experiencing more and more of those good days and when I think I am really over it, the crash happens. On my 2nd straight day of despair now but what keeps me going is that the good feeling is just around the corner. Just gotta wait it out. Link to post Share on other sites
Author MrMayI Posted August 31, 2009 Author Share Posted August 31, 2009 Enjoy it while it lasts. Really enjoy it! I have been experiencing more and more of those good days and when I think I am really over it, the crash happens. On my 2nd straight day of despair now but what keeps me going is that the good feeling is just around the corner. Just gotta wait it out. all true. i know it's inevitable i'll come down from this cloud, and be momentarily stuck in a rut again. it's just a matter of time. the reality is, i love this woman. i always will. nothing will change that for sure. i know this because i could not possibly love the person she's become, yet i still love her. it's obviously undying. i'm just pleased with who i am, and looking at myself in the mirror, i know i've always just been me. i haven't shape shifted and become someone else for anyone, unlike my wife. awwwww, it's just all so tiresome. i think i'll cook my daughter and i some steaks on the grill tonight and eat in the grass. she'll like that. Link to post Share on other sites
tojaz Posted August 31, 2009 Share Posted August 31, 2009 Glad to hear your happy MAYI!! Your finding your strength! Keep doing it man, do it for that little girl! And put up some pics, I want to see this sweetheart! TOJAZ Link to post Share on other sites
Author MrMayI Posted August 31, 2009 Author Share Posted August 31, 2009 Glad to hear your happy MAYI!! Your finding your strength! Keep doing it man, do it for that little girl! And put up some pics, I want to see this sweetheart! TOJAZ check them out, t. new pics up. quick, huh? i'm happy, for now. i made sure to emphasize that earlier. just now, looking at what pics are on my laptop, there were so many good memories with the wife on there. right now, it's not affecting me, but i'll go back and look again someday soon, and melt. i just know it. i don't have the heart to post one of her, or to delete them. not right now. cheers! tonight it's budweiser. had to stay domestic. Link to post Share on other sites
hopesndreams Posted August 31, 2009 Share Posted August 31, 2009 check them out, t. new pics up. quick, huh? i'm happy, for now. i made sure to emphasize that earlier. just now, looking at what pics are on my laptop, there were so many good memories with the wife on there. right now, it's not affecting me, but i'll go back and look again someday soon, and melt. i just know it. i don't have the heart to post one of her, or to delete them. not right now. cheers! tonight it's budweiser. had to stay domestic. I'm not in your contacts and I can't view the pics. Link to post Share on other sites
Author MrMayI Posted August 31, 2009 Author Share Posted August 31, 2009 I'm not in your contacts and I can't view the pics. you are now. sorry. Link to post Share on other sites
tojaz Posted August 31, 2009 Share Posted August 31, 2009 check them out, t. new pics up. quick, huh? i'm happy, for now. i made sure to emphasize that earlier. just now, looking at what pics are on my laptop, there were so many good memories with the wife on there. right now, it's not affecting me, but i'll go back and look again someday soon, and melt. i just know it. i don't have the heart to post one of her, or to delete them. not right now. cheers! tonight it's budweiser. had to stay domestic. Shes gorgeous MayI!! Leave it to little Ms.MayI to make picking her nose look glamorous!!:laugh: I know what you mean about the wife pics. I put them all away but two. Our wedding photo and one i shot right after bomb drop, when she looked like a zombie or something. I have a before and after in my profile, still scares me. I put a few new ones of my nephews up as well, they aren't mine, but i treat them like they are. Cheers bud, allthough it's just icewater for me tonight, spent the day in the ER and I'm chock full of drugs! TOJAZ Link to post Share on other sites
Author MrMayI Posted August 31, 2009 Author Share Posted August 31, 2009 dang man, i hope everything's alright. i have at least one hundred of her on this laptop, and a big crate of pics from the entire duration of our marriage and the kid's existence. i'd like even more of me, the kid, and the dog up, but i can't man. that's too much to spread out over the floor and drink myself to sleep. i can't be that. Shes gorgeous MayI!! Leave it to little Ms.MayI to make picking her nose look glamorous!!:laugh: I know what you mean about the wife pics. I put them all away but two. Our wedding photo and one i shot right after bomb drop, when she looked like a zombie or something. I have a before and after in my profile, still scares me. I put a few new ones of my nephews up as well, they aren't mine, but i treat them like they are. Cheers bud, allthough it's just icewater for me tonight, spent the day in the ER and I'm chock full of drugs! TOJAZ Link to post Share on other sites
tojaz Posted September 1, 2009 Share Posted September 1, 2009 dang man, i hope everything's alright. i have at least one hundred of her on this laptop, and a big crate of pics from the entire duration of our marriage and the kid's existence. i'd like even more of me, the kid, and the dog up, but i can't man. that's too much to spread out over the floor and drink myself to sleep. i can't be that. I guess I'll be fine. Doc thinks I might be allergic to my job!! Went to work and all of a sudden just couldn't breathe! By the time I got to the hospital it was getting better, but had to be on oxygen for a couple of hours and a bunch of scripts. Plus I can't work for a few days, and if that is the cause, I might have to change careers!:mad: WTF!!! Going to be a boring few days spent on LS!! I hear ya with the pics. That was me the first night after she left. 13 years worth of pics and stupid drunk! Wasn't the only night like that, but I don't want to go back there either. TOJAZ Link to post Share on other sites
hopesndreams Posted September 1, 2009 Share Posted September 1, 2009 you are now. sorry. Thx for sharing, she is super adorable! I added you as well, there's a few piccies up on mine. Link to post Share on other sites
phineas Posted September 1, 2009 Share Posted September 1, 2009 i'm hitting the 4 month mark myself. i've begun gaining weight like mad. i'm contemplating intensifying and increasing my workouts to keep up. my stbx has even made several comments about how she can't believe how good/athletic i look these days. i don't know if the US is nicer than England, but we have a lot of products here you don't see anywhere else. after all, we are the major consumers in this world. i'm sitting here in total disbelief of myself today. i feel just as good before my wife walked out. 4 months?!? I promise, 6 months will be better, I just worked out this morning & feel great. I just dropped a pant size & my XXL shirts I used to fill out because of my beer gut & "B" cups are now looking baggy on me. Except in the arms & shoulders. I've all of a sudden got options when it comes to women. I personally never thought I would because I was almost 40 & had two kids. But, it turns out there are a lot more attractive single women in their mid to late 30's than I thought & their coming up to me. And kids does not seem to be the deterrant I thought it would be. I guess gunny was right. (again) my market value has gone up. I'm in a better position to meet a quality woman than I was when I was 29/30 & met my STBXW. Link to post Share on other sites
Author MrMayI Posted September 1, 2009 Author Share Posted September 1, 2009 apparently, my brother had a confrontation with OM last night. i'll give any details i can when i get them. Link to post Share on other sites
Chrome Barracuda Posted September 1, 2009 Share Posted September 1, 2009 4 months?!? I promise, 6 months will be better, I just worked out this morning & feel great. I just dropped a pant size & my XXL shirts I used to fill out because of my beer gut & "B" cups are now looking baggy on me. Except in the arms & shoulders. I've all of a sudden got options when it comes to women. I personally never thought I would because I was almost 40 & had two kids. But, it turns out there are a lot more attractive single women in their mid to late 30's than I thought & their coming up to me. And kids does not seem to be the deterrant I thought it would be. I guess gunny was right. (again) my market value has gone up. I'm in a better position to meet a quality woman than I was when I was 29/30 & met my STBXW. There are always women after you divorce. BS's have it kinda good but they must be ready mentally to accept it when it happens. Link to post Share on other sites
tojaz Posted September 1, 2009 Share Posted September 1, 2009 apparently, my brother had a confrontation with OM last night. i'll give any details i can when i get them. What kind of confrontation are we talking about?? Don't leave me hanging like this!! TOJAZ Link to post Share on other sites
Author MrMayI Posted September 1, 2009 Author Share Posted September 1, 2009 What kind of confrontation are we talking about?? Don't leave me hanging like this!! TOJAZ not a violent one, fortunately. here's what i know: my brother went to OM's work last night for business reasons, and it just so happened when he went to park, there was OM looking very chummy with my wife in his work. i should mention wife works just next door. well, he said he parked, grabbed his wallet and saw my wife walk out and down the sidewalk. he went in, and OM said hi to him. they actually know one another even though my brother is 12 years older than him. anyway, my brother just stood and stared at him. this guy stands about 5'6", and maybe 130. my bro is 6'1" and about 215. so anyway, the OM disappeared into the back. my brother said to clean out his diaper . another guy comes out and ask my bro what's up. my bro asks him if he is aware that dude's little friend is married to his ****ing brother. the guy says 'no, but she's in here a lot, and he goes over there a lot'. my brother told that guy to tell OM he is going to kick his ****ing ass. the guy says, i understand why. i'll let him know. my bro then shouted out "and you better pray to god my brother doesn't catch you out in public", and left. then he walked next door to my wife's work, and the guy there said "she's gone on break". my brother says her car was parked right in front, and he knows she was hiding in the back. he figures the guy went in the back of his work and texted "oh ****!" or something to the like. i told him it's impossible for my wife to have been "gone on break", because she is management and can't leave the area when no other management is present. i think it's all about to come to a head in our little town. my sis-in-law is hellbent on having his other job, as well. my brother is going into the city today to get what he needed last night. apparently, he got so worked up he forgot about it. a lot more was said but i don't have all the details. Link to post Share on other sites
tojaz Posted September 1, 2009 Share Posted September 1, 2009 Glad your bro kept his cool!! I don't think I would have been so kind! I would guess that clears any questions you may have had as to whats been going on. Sorry man!! Sounds like this is probably going to break wide open pretty soon and all will be revealed! I know how small town drama gets, be sure to protect your sweet daughter from the S**T storm that will surly follow. Keep your head up MAYI I think the rollercoasters about to take another lap for you! Be strong TOJAZ Link to post Share on other sites
Author MrMayI Posted September 1, 2009 Author Share Posted September 1, 2009 Glad your bro kept his cool!! I don't think I would have been so kind! I would guess that clears any questions you may have had as to whats been going on. Sorry man!! Sounds like this is probably going to break wide open pretty soon and all will be revealed! I know how small town drama gets, be sure to protect your sweet daughter from the S**T storm that will surly follow. Keep your head up MAYI I think the rollercoasters about to take another lap for you! Be strong TOJAZ you're absolutely right. it's about to go full circle all over again. i'm preparing. my brother is well known in our town, very professional, as well as my sister in law. i really had no questions about what's been going on, short of "why won't she just sign the papers and be done if that's what she wants?". i really have come to grips with it all, but yeah, the lid is quickly coming off of the jar. i really hope OM and my wife have there defense systems up. Link to post Share on other sites
tojaz Posted September 1, 2009 Share Posted September 1, 2009 I'm sure they're running scared after what happened with your bro. Has she been served yet? Link to post Share on other sites
Author MrMayI Posted September 1, 2009 Author Share Posted September 1, 2009 I'm sure they're running scared after what happened with your bro. Has she been served yet? no. i talked to my lawyer yesterday, and he's sending out this week. we'll see. i gave him her work address, home, OM's home, and OM's work, and i gave him both of their phone numbers. Link to post Share on other sites
tojaz Posted September 1, 2009 Share Posted September 1, 2009 Just from hearing how your story has gone, i get the feeling that this is going to get nasty! Just a gut thing! Link to post Share on other sites
Author MrMayI Posted September 1, 2009 Author Share Posted September 1, 2009 Just from hearing how your story has gone, i get the feeling that this is going to get nasty! Just a gut thing! i understand, t. i really do. i think the same thing. however, i will be keeping my nose clean through all of it. i have what i want so far, and that's my little girl. i have a pretty forceful family, and they have all hit their breaking points with the wife, so it very well could get nasty. if that'd been my sister last night, she would've brought home a handful of my wife's hair with her. the main reason all of my family and friends are upset, are what's been pointed out here. she left, basing everything on a steaming pile of bull****. she hasn't lived up to one single thing she said. she's proven herself to be a liar and a cheat. let the chips fall where they may. i'm going to have to go for the ride whether i want to or not. i just hope it doesn't get nasty in court. Link to post Share on other sites
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