Author MrMayI Posted August 13, 2009 Author Share Posted August 13, 2009 i've gotten up and ready for work today. the thought is still lingering in my mind. i want to go and have a talk with the om, but i don't want it to turn into an altercation. he will not win, and i will not win because i will lose my daughter. i know enough about myself to know that while i am not a violent person, i won't be able to withhold the hell i want to unleash on this guy. i know enough about him to know that he is living a completely double life. WHEN i do expose them, it WILL ruin his career. his occuapation would leave no tolerance for being involved with another man's wife. Link to post Share on other sites
hopesndreams Posted August 13, 2009 Share Posted August 13, 2009 This OM is a joke, a pathetic loser, morally corrupt, a thief. Do not have any altercation with this dumba**. You will flip out and do damage. Keep your distance. When the time is right, expose. Expose now even. Just do not physically be in his presence. I could never, ever be anywhere near the MOW of my H. I know this! If I do ever see her, thank God they live 40 miles away, I think I would go for the kill, and I don't even have a violent bone in my body. Of course, at this moment, I have tons of hatred for all those who cheat and steal someone else's spouse, but my emotions will not rule me, ever. You have the choice, let anger rule you, or let it go. Just pity the both of em instead. They are the losers, don't make them winners by doing something you will regret for the rest of your life. You need to protect your daughter. She needs her dad. Link to post Share on other sites
Owl Posted August 13, 2009 Share Posted August 13, 2009 Don't put all your anger on OM. Time to focus that anger at your wife as well. She is the one who has chosen to destroy your family with him. Get MAD about it. And USE that anger to fuel your efforts to divorce her and move on!!! Seriously...you've been sitting there this whole time bllthely ACCEPTING whatever scraps she deigns to throw your way... TAKE ACTION TO GET OUT OF THIS SITUATION!!!!!! Take your power back...take ownership of leading yourself and your daugther out of this morass. Don't be afraid of ruining chances with your wife because of something you do today...the reality is...any ACTION you take today is far, far better for you and your daughter than sitting there waiting to see what your wife is gonig to do next. Step up...take charge...and if your wife doesn't want to come along with you and your daugther as you move forward, count her as lost and keep moving. Link to post Share on other sites
LisaUk Posted August 13, 2009 Share Posted August 13, 2009 I'm pleased to hear you didn't go over there. Get mad with your w, you can't steal someone who doesn't want to be stolen! Get those papers served, show her you are done iwth this s**t. Link to post Share on other sites
phineas Posted August 13, 2009 Share Posted August 13, 2009 I would never beat up OM. My kids are far more important than the feeling of bruising my knuckles on some pretty-boys face. I had more than enough people offer for me though. I know people who know people who know people that could get medieval on his buttocks for a surprisingly low fee. But I just don't care anymore. I think just "winning" my wife is punishment enough. Link to post Share on other sites
Author MrMayI Posted August 13, 2009 Author Share Posted August 13, 2009 I would never beat up OM. My kids are far more important than the feeling of bruising my knuckles on some pretty-boys face. I had more than enough people offer for me though. I know people who know people who know people that could get medieval on his buttocks for a surprisingly low fee. But I just don't care anymore. I think just "winning" my wife is punishment enough. no doubt. i am getting to the not caring point. seriously. i too know people who aren't known to anyone around here but me that would fly by night to do something. the papers are going to be served. i haven't been punking on them. i was waiting because if she simply agrees, they get filed in, 45 days later it's a done deal. this way, we have to file the petition, wait for her to be served, give her 30 days to respond, if she does, wait for her attorney to file his or her counterclaim, then wait for a court date. in my area, this process can take up to 8 months. that's why i've sat on my hands and waited for her to sign and agree. politely. **** it all right now. Link to post Share on other sites
TrustInYourself Posted August 13, 2009 Share Posted August 13, 2009 Your focus needs to be life, not your wife. Unless you enjoy working yourself into a fury and having your heart ache, I'd suggest focusing on what you need to do to make things better for yourself and your kids. Tough times man. Stay strong. Link to post Share on other sites
Author MrMayI Posted August 13, 2009 Author Share Posted August 13, 2009 also, there's a possibility, i file, they serve her, she panics and signs the agreement. that saves a little time as well. Link to post Share on other sites
Author MrMayI Posted August 15, 2009 Author Share Posted August 15, 2009 posting from our new house, and i gotta tell you, it feels pretty damned good. this place is nice. Link to post Share on other sites
tojaz Posted August 15, 2009 Share Posted August 15, 2009 Congrats on the new digs MayI, hows the little girl like it? TOJAZ Link to post Share on other sites
Author MrMayI Posted August 15, 2009 Author Share Posted August 15, 2009 Congrats on the new digs MayI, hows the little girl like it? TOJAZ she's so happy about it. i gave her the master, what do i need all that room for? my father and i built a bunch of shelves and a bookcase for her new room. she has nice carpet and PLENTY of room. she danced and sang in there til 9 and passed out. my dog is howling like crazy outside. Link to post Share on other sites
WTFO Posted August 15, 2009 Share Posted August 15, 2009 she's so happy about it. i gave her the master, what do i need all that room for? my father and i built a bunch of shelves and a bookcase for her new room. she has nice carpet and PLENTY of room. she danced and sang in there til 9 and passed out. my dog is howling like crazy outside. Sounds pretty cool. I also recently moved. I have to admit, It is fun to put the Apt. together the way I wanted to. I did wake up in the morning one time and feel very strange. Not in a good way, not in a bad. Just strange. It was Erie for about a minute,than I was fine. It was so quiet. Than it was business as usual. Link to post Share on other sites
deux ex machina Posted August 15, 2009 Share Posted August 15, 2009 posting from our new house, and i gotta tell you, it feels pretty damned good. this place is nice. Congrats to you doing that! I read a book (I think it was called Uncoupling), that stated if someone gets a new place after splitting up, it makes coping a lot easier. Your daughter sounds adorable. Have fun in the new digs! Link to post Share on other sites
tojaz Posted August 15, 2009 Share Posted August 15, 2009 she's so happy about it. i gave her the master, what do i need all that room for? my father and i built a bunch of shelves and a bookcase for her new room. she has nice carpet and PLENTY of room. she danced and sang in there til 9 and passed out. my dog is howling like crazy outside. Thats great, keeping that little girl happy is priority one! Sounds like your one hell of a dad. Enjoy the change of scenery. TOJAZ Link to post Share on other sites
Author MrMayI Posted August 15, 2009 Author Share Posted August 15, 2009 it's definitely a big change. i slept really well for the first time in a while. woke up today, and felt completely recharged. i'm still missing my wife, but i think i digress more and more each day. this move seems to have been a great idea. i know the OM is a block away, but at least right now, it feels like i'm in another world from them. i hope this good feeling lasts a while. Link to post Share on other sites
tojaz Posted August 15, 2009 Share Posted August 15, 2009 it's definitely a big change. i slept really well for the first time in a while. woke up today, and felt completely recharged. i'm still missing my wife, but i think i digress more and more each day. this move seems to have been a great idea. i know the OM is a block away, but at least right now, it feels like i'm in another world from them. i hope this good feeling lasts a while. It'll last as long as you let it. Unfortunately, thats easier said then done. TOJAZ Link to post Share on other sites
Author MrMayI Posted August 15, 2009 Author Share Posted August 15, 2009 It'll last as long as you let it. Unfortunately, thats easier said then done. TOJAZ that's the truth. i'll still have to go back to my office next week, and start the swapping of the child and all that all over again. i wish i could just "move on" in that respect too, but i don't think i'm completely ready. Link to post Share on other sites
tojaz Posted August 15, 2009 Share Posted August 15, 2009 It takes time bro. Just move at your own pace, it's the best thing for you. Your never completely "READY" for all this, just take what you can handle as it comes. TOJAZ Link to post Share on other sites
LisaUk Posted August 15, 2009 Share Posted August 15, 2009 Hi mayI Congrats on the new house! Not surprised your little girls happy, the master! You know when she hits 15, it will sound like a herd of elephants dancing up there don't you? With all the sleepovers with friends and the like! Enjoy it while it's sweet! LOL:D Link to post Share on other sites
Author MrMayI Posted August 16, 2009 Author Share Posted August 16, 2009 finished up the move yesterday. now, i have so many boxes of stuff that i just sat here last night looking at it all for hours. i left all of the wife's remaining things in a corner of the great room at the old place for her to come and get this evening. that's the only sadness i felt about it all so far. the move feels great. my daughter had some friends over yesterday and all of the sidewalks are covered in chalk drawings and scribbles. i still feel pretty damn lonely. i know she's not far away from here. at least in someone else's mind. it's a lot easier to cope when not looking at pics of her, and having new rooms to set up. Link to post Share on other sites
tojaz Posted August 16, 2009 Share Posted August 16, 2009 Stay busy MayI, it's the idle moments that the ghosts slip back in. TOJAZ Link to post Share on other sites
Author MrMayI Posted August 16, 2009 Author Share Posted August 16, 2009 Stay busy MayI, it's the idle moments that the ghosts slip back in. TOJAZ this is true. i haven't said on here, but i took a real stand in regards to custody. the wife hasn't had our daughter for more than an hour in about 8 days. she's getting her for a couple of nights starting tonight, so i'm gonna have a good bit of idle time. the test will begin tonight. thank god i've about 40 boxes to unpack. Link to post Share on other sites
tojaz Posted August 16, 2009 Share Posted August 16, 2009 I hear you man, why do you think I'm here all the time.:rolleyes: TOJAZ Link to post Share on other sites
lupa Posted August 16, 2009 Share Posted August 16, 2009 I hear you man, why do you think I'm here all the time.:rolleyes: TOJAZ Because we are all friends! *hugs everyone* ...I'm not joking. I find myself wondering what you people are up to on a day to day basis. Weird. Link to post Share on other sites
tojaz Posted August 16, 2009 Share Posted August 16, 2009 Because we are all friends! *hugs everyone* ...I'm not joking. I find myself wondering what you people are up to on a day to day basis. Weird. NOOOORRRRMMMM!!!! of wait, that was a TV show wsn't it. LUUUUUPPPPAAAA!!! Link to post Share on other sites
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