Chrome Barracuda Posted August 30, 2009 Posted August 30, 2009 beware her anger, when she does get served it's not gonna be pretty so prepare for it. I wish you the best.
Gunny376 Posted August 30, 2009 Posted August 30, 2009 beware her anger, when she does get served it's not gonna be pretty so prepare for it. I wish you the best. Vets know Vets!
tojaz Posted August 30, 2009 Posted August 30, 2009 thanks man. i swear in this lifetime i will hoist a beer with you. It'd be an honor and a priveledge to drink with you MAYI. First cold one of the night is dedicated to you. beware her anger, when she does get served it's not gonna be pretty so prepare for it. I wish you the best. I really don't know how that will play out. I was served, and I was more hurt then anything. Of course, I wasn't the walkaway. I would expect more shock and even an attempt to stop it, based on how wishy washy she has been on the whole situation. May even spur her to want reconciliation. Of course after all that has been, you would have a huge decision to make! TOJAZ
Author MrMayI Posted August 30, 2009 Author Posted August 30, 2009 beware her anger, when she does get served it's not gonna be pretty so prepare for it. I wish you the best. Vets know Vets! this is my only concern. unless someone helps her out though, i know for fact she won't be able to fund a courtroom battle, so i pray for her to just sign the original agreement. It'd be an honor and a priveledge to drink with you MAYI. First cold one of the night is dedicated to you. I really don't know how that will play out. I was served, and I was more hurt then anything. Of course, I wasn't the walkaway. I would expect more shock and even an attempt to stop it, based on how wishy washy she has been on the whole situation. May even spur her to want reconciliation. Of course after all that has been, you would have a huge decision to make! TOJAZ same to you. i'll be tipping one around 6 central time. if she wants reconciliation, it's going to take a LOT of thought on my end, and a whole lot of work i don't even think i'd be willing to do anymore. guess we just have to wait and see.
tojaz Posted August 30, 2009 Posted August 30, 2009 same to you. i'll be tipping one around 6 central time. if she wants reconciliation, it's going to take a LOT of thought on my end, and a whole lot of work i don't even think i'd be willing to do anymore. guess we just have to wait and see. Thank you sir! 6 oclock it is, got a fresh case of Killians chilling as we speak, CHEERS! Reconciliation is a tough one when things go this far. Everyone tells me she will come back, even my counselor, which I thought was strange. I don't rule it out, but it's going to take a huge commitment on HER part, not mine. I fought for the marriage, i put in the work, came to LS, sought help, learned about myself while she coasted. If she ever wants back in, shes going to need to do the same. If that becomes an option for you MAYI I suggest you keep a similar attitude. SHE BROKE IT, SHE NEEDS TO FIX IT! That dosen't sound fair, but what about this whole mess has been fair? TOJAZ
Author MrMayI Posted August 30, 2009 Author Posted August 30, 2009 Thank you sir! 6 oclock it is, got a fresh case of Killians chilling as we speak, CHEERS! Reconciliation is a tough one when things go this far. Everyone tells me she will come back, even my counselor, which I thought was strange. I don't rule it out, but it's going to take a huge commitment on HER part, not mine. I fought for the marriage, i put in the work, came to LS, sought help, learned about myself while she coasted. If she ever wants back in, shes going to need to do the same. If that becomes an option for you MAYI I suggest you keep a similar attitude. SHE BROKE IT, SHE NEEDS TO FIX IT! That dosen't sound fair, but what about this whole mess has been fair? TOJAZ killian's is good stuff. i have a 6'er of newcastle, and a few budweisers in the fridge. i'll be without my little girl for tonight. i'm going to sneak off and go to the movies this afternoon. i know it's going to make me sad to be there by myself. i mostly filed because i've come to the conclusion that i'm missing a life that can never be again. our security is all gone. the life we were building for 5 years is gone. our marital home is sold and gone. the only thing between us is our daughter, and i feel like the wife treats her as an object, as opposed to the beautiful little girl she is. my daughter asked me last night if i thought me and mommy will always be broken up. i told her sometimes things like that are for the best. asked her does she feel okay with everything, and she says she does, but when she's with mommy she always misses me.
Auroracoladybug Posted August 30, 2009 Posted August 30, 2009 Mr she will always miss you when she is with mom and vice versa...I am proud of you Mr you are really doing what you need for your daughter... Tojaz...you are right! She broke it, she needs to fix it! if there is any reconcilliation... funny one, so many people comment "they will come running back or they will come to regret it"...my mothers best friend got a phone call from her exH 10yrs latter saying I really f'd up...her response: Yep you sure did! I truly appreciate everyone here for all of their honesty and being forthcoming with their opinions... Mr you are very honorable so I toast to that.
tojaz Posted August 30, 2009 Posted August 30, 2009 killian's is good stuff. i have a 6'er of newcastle, and a few budweisers in the fridge. i'll be without my little girl for tonight. i'm going to sneak off and go to the movies this afternoon. i know it's going to make me sad to be there by myself. i mostly filed because i've come to the conclusion that i'm missing a life that can never be again. our security is all gone. the life we were building for 5 years is gone. our marital home is sold and gone. the only thing between us is our daughter, and i feel like the wife treats her as an object, as opposed to the beautiful little girl she is. my daughter asked me last night if i thought me and mommy will always be broken up. i told her sometimes things like that are for the best. asked her does she feel okay with everything, and she says she does, but when she's with mommy she always misses me. Try Smithwicks if you can find it. Real imported Irish beer, good stuff but a little pricey around here a sixer runs about the same as a case of Red. Once the trust has been broken, it is very hard to get it back, if at all. I don't have kids, but I have 2 nephews and i watched them being used as pawns in my sisters divorce, which lasted years! I know how it feels. It sounds like your daughter is dealing remarkably well and thats all thanks to you bro! Shoulders back, head held high! Be proud MAYI! TOJAZ
LisaUk Posted August 30, 2009 Posted August 30, 2009 Try Smithwicks if you can find it. Real imported Irish beer, good stuff but a little pricey around here a sixer runs about the same as a case of Red. Once the trust has been broken, it is very hard to get it back, if at all. I don't have kids, but I have 2 nephews and i watched them being used as pawns in my sisters divorce, which lasted years! I know how it feels. It sounds like your daughter is dealing remarkably well and thats all thanks to you bro! Shoulders back, head held high! Be proud MAYI! TOJAZ How about Stella Artois, can you get that there, you must be able to? When is she being served? Hope you enjoy the film (movie) MayI, have some salted popcorn for me!
tojaz Posted August 30, 2009 Posted August 30, 2009 How about Stella Artois, can you get that there, you must be able to? When is she being served? Hope you enjoy the film (movie) MayI, have some salted popcorn for me! I've had Stella, not bad but i tend to like something darker. Theres a pizza place here that features 110 different brands of beer. I had a british beer that was fantastic. I can't remember what it was called though. Had something to do with boats or sailing or something LOL! I'll have to look it up. What are you seeing MAYI, I haven't been to the theater in months! TOJAZ
LisaUk Posted August 30, 2009 Posted August 30, 2009 I've had Stella, not bad but i tend to like something darker. Theres a pizza place here that features 110 different brands of beer. I had a british beer that was fantastic. I can't remember what it was called though. Had something to do with boats or sailing or something LOL! I'll have to look it up. What are you seeing MAYI, I haven't been to the theater in months! TOJAZ There are real ale clubs here, most men are oppssed with Real Ale in Britain (a sweeping statement I know, but I personally have founf it to be very true). You have to be careful when getting one off draught though, sometimes they can make you very ill! LOL MayI, when you said newcastle's did you mean Newcastle Brown Ale? Was my ex's drink!
PWSX3 Posted August 30, 2009 Posted August 30, 2009 I drink water, lot less confusing & you can remember what you did the night before..:lmao:
Author MrMayI Posted August 30, 2009 Author Posted August 30, 2009 Mr she will always miss you when she is with mom and vice versa...I am proud of you Mr you are really doing what you need for your daughter... Tojaz...you are right! She broke it, she needs to fix it! if there is any reconcilliation... funny one, so many people comment "they will come running back or they will come to regret it"...my mothers best friend got a phone call from her exH 10yrs latter saying I really f'd up...her response: Yep you sure did! I truly appreciate everyone here for all of their honesty and being forthcoming with their opinions... Mr you are very honorable so I toast to that. i toast to you as well. stay in there. we're all getting better. Try Smithwicks if you can find it. Real imported Irish beer, good stuff but a little pricey around here a sixer runs about the same as a case of Red. Once the trust has been broken, it is very hard to get it back, if at all. I don't have kids, but I have 2 nephews and i watched them being used as pawns in my sisters divorce, which lasted years! I know how it feels. It sounds like your daughter is dealing remarkably well and thats all thanks to you bro! Shoulders back, head held high! Be proud MAYI! TOJAZ between my bro in law and myself, we drank at least 72 smithwick's in 6 days back in april on vacation. god, it was a fun time. thanks man. i am proud. i even let the wife come in today, as it was raining when she came to pick up our daughter. i genuinely felt very happy, and she still looks nerve racked and miserable. oh well. How about Stella Artois, can you get that there, you must be able to? When is she being served? Hope you enjoy the film (movie) MayI, have some salted popcorn for me! my mom drinks stella artois. i like it on occasion. i think it goes well with her baked chicken. oh. i had buttered, salted, popcorn, and put some cheese salt on it as well. I've had Stella, not bad but i tend to like something darker. Theres a pizza place here that features 110 different brands of beer. I had a british beer that was fantastic. I can't remember what it was called though. Had something to do with boats or sailing or something LOL! I'll have to look it up. What are you seeing MAYI, I haven't been to the theater in months! TOJAZ i saw halloween 2. it was awesome. i consider myself a horror connoisseur. i just started going back last week. the wife and i went at least once every couple weeks. i found a different theater to go to. There are real ale clubs here, most men are oppssed with Real Ale in Britain (a sweeping statement I know, but I personally have founf it to be very true). You have to be careful when getting one off draught though, sometimes they can make you very ill! LOL MayI, when you said newcastle's did you mean Newcastle Brown Ale? Was my ex's drink! newcastle brown ale. exactly. my favorite beer in the world, but when i toast in person with you lisa, it won't be what i drink.
LisaUk Posted August 30, 2009 Posted August 30, 2009 Sounds like you had a good time at the movies! I appreciate that re the brown ale! What in the world is cheese salt?
Author MrMayI Posted August 30, 2009 Author Posted August 30, 2009 Sounds like you had a good time at the movies! I appreciate that re the brown ale! What in the world is cheese salt? the theater i go to has around 10 or so different flavored salts. it's heavenly.
tojaz Posted August 31, 2009 Posted August 31, 2009 between my bro in law and myself, we drank at least 72 smithwick's in 6 days back in april on vacation. god, it was a fun time. thanks man. i am proud. i even let the wife come in today, as it was raining when she came to pick up our daughter. i genuinely felt very happy, and she still looks nerve racked and miserable. oh well. LOVE IT!!! i saw halloween 2. it was awesome. i consider myself a horror connoisseur. i just started going back last week. the wife and i went at least once every couple weeks. i found a different theater to go to. Excellent flick!! Every year the family gets together at my aunts the day before haloween for "spook fest" Good food and non stop horror flicks!! Good times, Haloween and the sequels are always on the play list! By the way, The theme from Haloween is the ring tone on my cell! You should see people jump when that puppy goes off in public! newcastle brown ale. exactly. my favorite beer in the world, but when i toast in person with you lisa, it won't be what i drink. Class act MAYI, class act! TOJAZ
delajoonal Posted August 31, 2009 Posted August 31, 2009 :)UMHellooooo.... what are WE talking about people......LOL:o:bunny: im lost... ok, so i haven't been on the board in more than a few days...so i need to catch up... what is the ale, halloween2 and drinking water....????? i like the water idea myself...must be Evian...even my dog won't drink ANY water unless it is Evian..LOL...that i am SO NOT kidding about..LOL HI LISAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA!!!!! yea...my sweet friend from across the pond is back... welcome back lis!!!:laugh:
tojaz Posted August 31, 2009 Posted August 31, 2009 :)UMHellooooo.... what are WE talking about people......LOL:o:bunny: im lost... ok, so i haven't been on the board in more than a few days...so i need to catch up... what is the ale, halloween2 and drinking water....????? i like the water idea myself...must be Evian...even my dog won't drink ANY water unless it is Evian..LOL...that i am SO NOT kidding about..LOL HI LISAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA!!!!! yea...my sweet friend from across the pond is back... welcome back lis!!!:laugh: Dela, So help me god, if Emma is actually soooo snooty she can only drink Evian, I can so not be your friend anymore!!! Like Oh My God!!! v v v Just kidding, good yo see you.:p:p TOJAZ
Author MrMayI Posted August 31, 2009 Author Posted August 31, 2009 i slept a full 9 hours last night!!!!! i cannot believe it. i realized when i woke up today that i have forgotten to take my anti-depressants for 3 days now. i don't know if i should start again or not. i think i may leave them alone. i feel pretty good. sure, i miss the life i had, but i'm also regaining happiness as a "bachelor" all over again. still, if she came back today wanting to work on things, i'd probably cave.
phineas Posted August 31, 2009 Posted August 31, 2009 How about Stella Artois, can you get that there, you must be able to? When is she being served? Hope you enjoy the film (movie) MayI, have some salted popcorn for me! Stella isn't bad, but if i'm going to have a Pills I'll just go for Pilsner Urquell. Though Stella is more readily available in resturants.
hopesndreams Posted August 31, 2009 Posted August 31, 2009 i slept a full 9 hours last night!!!!! i cannot believe it. i realized when i woke up today that i have forgotten to take my anti-depressants for 3 days now. i don't know if i should start again or not. i think i may leave them alone. i feel pretty good. sure, i miss the life i had, but i'm also regaining happiness as a "bachelor" all over again. still, if she came back today wanting to work on things, i'd probably cave. Yeah, same here, but we are getting stronger each day, each week, that passes. One day, we will say with 100% certainly, H*ll No!!
Author MrMayI Posted August 31, 2009 Author Posted August 31, 2009 Yeah, same here, but we are getting stronger each day, each week, that passes. One day, we will say with 100% certainly, H*ll No!! absolutely. she still looks beautiful to me. i can't help that. i guess she always will. just seems like a shell of the girl i love. i'm just trying to reprogram myself to be friendly. our daughter is too important for me to maintain anger or indifference toward her.
phineas Posted August 31, 2009 Posted August 31, 2009 i slept a full 9 hours last night!!!!! i cannot believe it. i realized when i woke up today that i have forgotten to take my anti-depressants for 3 days now. i don't know if i should start again or not. i think i may leave them alone. i feel pretty good. sure, i miss the life i had, but i'm also regaining happiness as a "bachelor" all over again. still, if she came back today wanting to work on things, i'd probably cave. I was in the car with my sister & her boyfriend & we were taking the kids to the STBXW at the laundry mat. My oldest son kept asking if the OM was there. Then when we got there she came up to the car after my oldest got out & he asked her if OM was washing clothes & the STBXW hurried him away & said "subway is right there you goof" because OM's name starts with an "S" I guess. She must think were all dumb. My kid anunciates. Everyone heard what he said. It wasn't subway. And she thinks she's all sneaky by telling me it was over between him & her. LOL! But, I didn't care. not one bit. I didn't even flinch knowing she is still with OM. when I consider the way she was "cheating" on him with me while she was cheating on me with him I am so glad i'm done with her. On the remote chance this OM ends it when it's time to sign the papers & she tries to come back i'd probably laugh in her face. There are so many women out there. More so than when I was 30. And, lately their approaching me! It's just weird. I'm not used to it.
LisaUk Posted August 31, 2009 Posted August 31, 2009 HI LISAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA!!!!! yea...my sweet friend from across the pond is back... welcome back lis!!!:laugh: Thanks Dela, wow what a welcome! MayI, thanks for cluing me on the chesse salt, the US sounds so much nicer than here, I've always thought that! LOL I'm glad you got a full nights sleep last night, it kind of just happens doesn't it? I remember, around the 4 month mark I started sleeping through properly again, I've stopped losing weight now too, which is good, but bad at the same time, b/c now I am having to watch what I eat again!
Author MrMayI Posted August 31, 2009 Author Posted August 31, 2009 i know what you mean phineas. my stbxw is still in the early phases of her OM, but she still thinks everyone believes and is just too dumb or blind to know she's really up to something. hell, i asked her if she was gonna go to the movies this weekend, and she said "i don't have anybody....i don't have any money". i just said, damn that's too bad. it's a good weekend to go. she sucks so bad. dumbass, you would've had someone to go with, and no need to worry about money had you kept your ass at home and not walked out on your family. you'd have a man who would've remained stable and true until the day he died, but you blew that off for a younger guy with no future, and no promise of anything beneficial to your life. enjoy yourself, because when it all comes crashing down, i'll be standing in the shadows with our beautiful child and the biggest ****eating grin the world has ever seen.
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