tredulce Posted November 1, 2003 Share Posted November 1, 2003 So I've been seeing this guy. I was REALLY attracted to him for a long time, and we've had a few dates and he is just always trying to push me to go farther than I want physically. The whole date is always just pushing, pushing, pushing...claiming he doesn't want sex yet either but that everything else is ok. Well, I don't want to go over my comfort level and so last time, Thursday, he got really pissed at me about it because he "sexually frustrated." He wasn't steaming mad, just very annoyed. He left and I decided that it wouldn't ever work because he doesn't respect me enough and his behavior has been SUCH a turn off for me....even though he is a beautiful man...I don't even see his physical beauty anymore because it was sucha turn off. So, then last night, Halloween, I get a knock on my door at 2:30 am (I live in a dorm). I know who it is because it was a semi-violent male knock. So I stayed really still in bed and ignored it. Then I hear two male voices...he brought a FRIEND for some reason. Then, I figured the worst was over. So, I try to get back to sleep at 15 minutes later he comes back alone and knocks, even trying to turn my door knob and get in. I ignore him and remained totally silent the whole time. Then, 2 minutes later I get a call from him (he left a message, because I knew who it was and I didn't want to answer) "Yeah it's me, gimme a call." sounding kinda beligerant. It's Halloween and I have no doubt he was a little drunkered up, most likely. It kinda freaked me out. So, my dilemma is this: we haven't been seeing eachother very long at all and we never even talked about being exclusive--even though Iknow I'm the only girl he's seeing right now. Should I call him and tell him I am not interested anymore? My fear with this is that he'll get mad OR want to talk to me in person OR both. And, now I'm scared of him. Or, since we haven't been dating long, is it ok to just not return his calls or visits? Link to post Share on other sites
Ryan Posted November 1, 2003 Share Posted November 1, 2003 Tell him or don't tell him. Doesn't really matter. It's over for you...so it's over. There's no reason to be living in fear. Link to post Share on other sites
Zankon Posted November 1, 2003 Share Posted November 1, 2003 FEAR!!! Fear in a relationship is no good. Let it go cuz you never know what's gonna happen when you get attached to each other. It's now or never don't even call. Just ignore it. Link to post Share on other sites
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