Is she into me??or friends?

[Jmina]

Hey so, I have this friend who i'm really attracted to, and i think she feels the same... but i'm not sure, i have pretty much narrowed it down to me needing to just take it easy and enjoy the ride, in stead of trying to make it more than what we are ready for...

 

This is how its spanned the past week

 

day one of catching up

 

we met at a club with friends and she was happy to see me, flaunting her self in front of me and touching my legs and butt. she had a few drinks, she also said she wanted to kiss me on the lips

 

that night after we went our separate ways, i texted her that she looked good and and that i had fun

 

she wrote back

 

"so did you! i wanted a goodnight kiss but we are friends. it was really good hanging out with you again!"

 

i was a bit confused by this, so i wrote back making my intentions clearer but then agreeing with her not to scare her off

 

"so did i, i could have followed you in, but as you said we are friends"

 

she wrote back

 

"but friends do hook up, nothings wrong with that"

 

so i suggested a club we could go to the following week she said

 

"yep, im with you on that one! maybe saturday night."

 

then i sent her a morning text knowing she was getting up early, she replied once she was on the train to work with

 

"hey what a nice morning msg, im on the train bet your asleep now! haha sweet dreams."

 

i wrote back something later in the day and she replied with a second text that confused me

 

"haha i thought you would fall asleep. sorry i didnt reply straight away i was getting up. sorry for last night, being all drunk, you must have been bored!"

 

i thought no way! she knows im keen doesnt she? i told her i could have follwed her in :S i was a bit shy at the club and didnt dance all over her, i sort of let her do her thing and didnt react toooo much because i had people watching me, maybe she sensed this.

 

i told her i wasnt bored and that i had fun.

 

she said "good im glad you werent bored"...and went on to say other stuff that doesnt affect this

 

i replied and she texted back some more, nothing interesting and then asked if i was working so i replied back.we texted back and forth a bit just saying what were up to but then i get more confused when i tell her that i think shes really pretty or really good looking and she says

 

"whatever woman:) or yer yer" sorta thing like she doesnt believe it....but i thought that if she was interested in me she would throw a compliment my way too...

then i reply with something and she doesnt reply.

 

 

=S

 

then the next night we texted back and forth abit and she asked me if i was still going to something with her the next day, she says its okay if im not and that its in the city =(

 

 

we text more, no flirting or anything then i apologise for having a social surge with all the texts and she says

 

"haha thats cool, its nice getting msgs. "

 

i text back she texts back, i text back then she stops texting.

 

by this point im thinking either she just doesnt want to run out of credit or shes saying back off. usually i would say "okay im going to sleep now, or okay im gonna go do this" and sort of end the conversation instead of just stopping so its just a bit different for me to understand.

 

 

the next day i get a text from her

 

"hey how was last night?"

 

we text back and forth i ask her if shes looking forward to that night when we hit the city she replies

 

"not really, but it should be fun haha!, its cold and its in the city =( (shes not too fond of the city) but im trying to be more social so i should go"

 

that night we text about times and pre drinks and things and she tells me

"hey you know i live with my parents, is that okay?"

 

 

another confusing msg later that night she texts saying

 

"its been cancelled but im still welcome to come around for drinks and we can see if we want to head out"

 

so i head over there, we have pre drinks and its really fun. we have lots to talk about, we both talk about our ex's and familes and what they think of our orrientation. we get drunk, and head out. we end up kissing and again shes touching my legs and butt.

we go back to her house and lets just say things get heated. we end up falling asleep and i go home the next day.

 

she texts me later in the day

 

"hey how you going? u still feel like ****, no more champange =( bad idea. then talks of other stuff etc etc"

 

i said thanks for having me over etc

 

she replied with another confusing msg

 

"it was my pleasure, anytime. hey sorry for hitting on you"

 

i was like huh? in my head.. i told her not to be sorry and that i had fun!

 

i didnt reply for a while as i had work and couldnt get to my phone but texted once i could and she asks how im doing says im a poor thing for having to work hungover, says the photo of us i texted her from the night out was cute =)and asks how im feelin

 

 

at this point because shes sort of acting more like a friend than being interested i say to her

 

"i hope i didnt make you uncomfortable last night" when things got heavy

she replied

 

"no not at all, i dont want you to feel uncomfortable around me either"

 

and i told her not at all!!

 

so im thinking okay maybe she is just really shy and testing the waters. then she just stops msging!lol

 

 

next day she msgs me first again

"hey how are you going?"

we text more, shes very reserved and polite and talks more friendly than flirty ..i said i had to get a needle that day then she suprised me with "you know i can give you a lil needle, im not as gentle =) haha"

 

so think okay its on =D

 

then my phone goes flat

 

so i msg her later that night, just general chit chat, a little bit of flirting but really not that much to what im used to =S(and at this point now im thinking that im like a sex fanatic and im the one with the problem ahah, shes really just shy isnt she!"

 

then we reminisce of the previous night, she tells me she remembers sititng with her legs around me and i say i remember it too =)

 

then she says "i cant believe we were that drunk. bad combination. never again champagne. its lethal =)

 

this confused me too because i dont know if shes backing off or if its just her way of saying literally no more champagne for choice of poison.

 

then she tells me that shes on the train and the person next to her smells like her ex with a =( face

 

 

 

 

:/

 

 

so this is what it is..shes been holding back because of her ex...so reply with something and she doesnt reply...

 

then i text again that her ex doesnt deserve her. she replies with

 

"i know but she smelt so good. i don't want her back, even if she begged"

 

i dont know whether to believe her or not but either way see this as being something that is going to happen SLOW. between us. which is good. just as long as i have some idea. she says she cant wait for the day when she cant remember what she smells like.

 

i said im always there for her and she says

 

"thanks, thats good to know coz i enjoy hanging out with you!"

 

i dont know is she just being friendly like were just friends or what

 

i write back and no reply.

 

that night i text her "just have to say it was good to have someone to cuddle with sat night"

 

im trying to figure out if this is friends or more. she rights back

 

"i agree. it was a great feeling! but i have to say there wasnt much cuddling. hehe X"

 

i smile

 

i said "oh yeah....that part wasnt bad either ;)"

 

she replies with this

 

"wasnt bad....it was alright =) hehe"

 

at that point as i seem to do, i thought hmmm does she really just think its alright? mainly because i would react different, and my past experiences would tell me otherwise... is she flirting? or is she being honest?

 

i wrote back "oh just alright? hehe"

 

and no reply! she may have fallen asleep i dont know.

 

we are now up to today. i waited all day for her to text and decided to text this after noon, one of the only times ive texted first.

 

asking how her day was

she says

 

"yer nah a bit crap. but thank god its over =) hehe. so what did you do today? enjoy the beautiful weather."

we text back and forth some friendly banter, then again she stops texting.

 

 

i dont know what to make of all this...

 

after asking some advice, and writing all of this out, it seems she is keen but very wary... maybe she really wants to just take it like friends and develop it. maybe shes scared...or maybe she only wants to be friends... i think its way to early to ask her....i dont want to play games with her or anything at all, but i think we might be on different levels at the moment with readiness.

 

 

please lend me your advice!!

[Lyssa]

There seems to be mixed signals or maybe, she isn't so sure of how you feel.

 

Maybe she's waiting for you to make the first move? Are you looking for something serious?

[Jmina]

you know what, i thought i had been clear...but maybe i havnt either....

 

 

ive done a little bit of horoscope searching not that i really take it into consideration but its a new insight...

 

it said her being a capricorn she will take a long time to build up to the level that a scorpian does easier, but the scorpion will also react with a backed off version of what they are capable of... but once the relationship has had time to build it will really hit off and be very secure and fulfilling...

 

 

so i'm hoping its just that...and her way of starting something..

 

Being only a week into seeing her, i don't know exactly what i want, i have wanted a relationship and asked the universe...although i asked for a guy...

 

see i kind of feel like i need to go out with a guy or two to confirm what i already know inside... and im thinking shes come a little bit to early ...

 

i really like her though...it seems like it would be a lot of effort, and i might be frustrated in her less affectionate ways that ive read about...and that although she is very polite and friendly, shes not very sexually fulled...which i seem to be.

 

i guess i am thinking about loud here... but your response has helped put the focus back onto me so thankyou for that

[Lyssa]

Being only a week into seeing her, i don't know exactly what i want, i have wanted a relationship and asked the universe...although i asked for a guy...

 

There - it's only been a week and also, you asked for a guy so perhaps, you should go out with a guy or two - just to be sure, there's nothing wrong in that. It's better to seek what you prefer now rather than later.

 

Glad to see you're back, Jmina. It's been a while. I still remember you helped me with my loss .

[Jmina]

Thanks Lyssa =D I remember you too

 

its always good to know LS is here for me. x

[Jmina]

does anyone else have any clue?

 

tnte the conversation goes like this

 

 

ME:"i have tickets to a show etc do you and your friend wanna come, im asking a mate too will be fun"

 

HER:" i would love to go, il text *friend* now and c if shes keen.so whos this mate u might invite? =)"

 

ME: "how was your day?"

 

HER: "lol nah my day was quite ****. how was work? ill hopefully speak to friend tmrw so ill let you know about her"

 

(did her mood just swing?)

 

ME: "Thats no good. you ok?" then talk about work

 

HER:"yer im good now thanks. i think i just need a holiday or even something good to happen!"

 

(im thinking that she is a good think happening to me.....maybe shes not thinking the same...or maybe shes hinting for something to happen i dont know)

 

ME: i talk about some stuff then "catching up with you has sparked some life back in me=)... also parents are going away so will have to take advantage of that etc your welcome to come and be social with me =)"

 

HER: "S*** thats gonna be so good having hte place to yourself! im a bit green eyed =) hehe"

 

ME: "will be awesome! your welcome anytime haha"

 

HER "thanks i might take you up on that"

 

ME "you should."

 

then she doesnt reply

 

she just wants to be friends doesnt she....=( bummed

[Jmina]

.....i'm so obsessing too. dang it.

 

maybe that is the only problem....

 

hellllp

[MissHollywood]

From what I read, it seems like you're quite hung up over the fact that she stopped replying to your texts. But there has to be a party to stop replying, right? It also sounded like she stopped texting where the conversation was likely to stop. It wasn't like she stopped replying after you asked if she wanted to go out with you.

 

Like what Lyssa said, she might be waiting for you to make a firmer next move. Perhaps a phone call to set up a date?

[Jmina]

I thought of that, but what made me think that i was wrong was that if it was me id say "okay, well i'm gonna get some sleep text soon =)"

 

but i guess everyone is different....shes reallllllllllllllllly different to me, but i like that about her.

 

 

(what im REALLY stoked about too is im over my ex!!!! =D)

 

i just end up either confused or disapointed after texting...

 

anyone here a capricorn female with tips? lol

 

thanks so much!

 

Mina xox

[MissHollywood]

That's right. Everyone is different. Texting creates a lot of confusion because what someone doesn't mean may come across as being miscontrued. So picking up the phone is much better.

 

Glad you're over your ex.

[Lyssa]

Hey Jmina,

 

How about you invite a few of your friends including her over for dinner and maybe some board games? See how she's like with a bunch of people.

 

If I were you, I'd straight up ask her out and see what she says about that. If she said no, then it's alright - at least you asked her out. I don't think there's anything to lose but honestly, from her texts - it doesn't seem like she's as into you as you are into her. Then again, I could be wrong!

 

And congratulations on getting over your ex!! :bunny:

[Jmina]

This is all just making me feel really disappointed and sad and like a perve.

 

I hate crushing on my friends =( shes just come back into the picture as a great new friend and i'm already all into her...why can't i just see her as a friend too...why should i even think there is a chance???

 

other than her touching my butt and legs...

 

i just jump way to early...i dont know how to control this...it happened before i knew it and now im obsessing and coming across as a stalkerish friend.