Anyone go NC and have their ex come back?

[WiseOne1]

Yes, I got back with atlest with a ex doing NC, we broke up a month and the NC was to much for her to handle, and by leaving her to deal with her no good ex, it made her see that the grass was greener with me, however we broke up 9 months later.

 

The 2nd time I had a ex come back, but when she left she was very sexy and a Virgin when she left, very nice girl, when she came back she had gained atlest 250lbs and became this man like female and had atlest had 10 sexual partners in 1 month, but I refused to take her back, she noticed that all the dudes she was so attracted to only wanted her for taht 1 thing, not for love.

[Thaddeus]

In my experiences...the one's you DON'T want to come back, resurface...The one's you DO want to come back don't...

Quoted for truth. That's my experience as well.

[NotSoSmiley]

I was dating a guy for about 6 months (we knew each/were friendly for about 6 months before the dating started) and then I went away on vacation (this was about 3 1/2 years ago). We did have a falling out prior to my vacation, but, I didn't think it meant the relationship was over. When I came home from vacation, he didn't want to see me (heard through mutual friends he was dating someone else); he still texted me about once/week. In the fall, he kept asking to see me and I kept pushing him off, but we were talking more frequently. When I finally said I would give him a second chance, we decided to take things VERY slowly (it was his choice). So, I gave him credit for that. We had been together for 2 1/2 years.

 

Around Christmas, I noticed he was using pain killers, so when he asked me to move in around Valentine's Day, I said no. Our relationship was over at that point-I knew it. He immediately started to date someone else and he made the extremely hasty decision of moving with her as of July 1st. Well, it is about 5 weeks later and he is already looking for a new place. My birthday was on Friday, and I heard from him. I also heard from a mutual friend that he is miserable.

 

All of this doesn't change the fact that I told him when we got back together the last time, that was his second chance. If he blew it then, he was screwed. I have no desire to get back together with him-I am better without him. However, I know he is going to come back and that scares the sh*t out of me. Love was never a problem for us; he was just a selfish and immature 38 year old who likes to fly by the seat of his pants and I can't keep up on his roller coaster again.

 

You need to take all of these things into consideration. Why did you break up in the first place? Most of the time, they come back...and it isn't always for the best. There are just some people that can't be "fixed."

 

Best of luck to you!

[CM2009]

I surprisingly find myself dating my ex again and it's been more than 3 years since we split and divorced. It was very acrimonious. Periodically throughout the years we would try to make contact and it would end in disaster and usually an argument - still too much anger and resentment existed. We both dated and had other serious relationships, but weren't ever truly happy inside. Neither of us. So we try once again to get together and talk to let go of all the bad blood - we do have a child together and she was caught in the middle - the planets must have aligned or something because for the first time in a LONG time, we were on the same page at the same time. We have decided to go with it and see what happens. It's been bittersweet, very emotional and exciting, and terrifying at the same time. It's hard to describe - it's new and familiar at the same time, it's like dating somebody new but he's the father of my child, it's nervous and comfortable all at once. I feel blessed to be able to write a new history instead of staying stuck in the old one which is not how we are NOW. Finally we have grown enough to open up to the possibilities of what can be. We don't know what will happen, we are taking our time and having fun. I don't know anybody personally who has broken up for a considerable time and then gotten back together - so I'm flying blind. In my heart, I never gave up.

 

Wow, thats great to hear. Good luck and may God bless your relationship with him...

[georgia girl]

My ex came back twice after no-contact. I broke it once when he asked for a second chance and explained that I just couldn't do it. I said that I wasn't putting myself through it again. That, while he may be sorry, it was just too late. I totally rejected him - in a nice way, but firmly. I think he got the message.

 

After he knew it was over, he started talking to me earnestly. He went back to first being my friend, then on to the guy who pursued me. He has been sharing his thoughts and dreams again, something he didn't do in the last three months of our relationship. He is making all of the effort, all of the time. I'm a little worried that the chase is now the appeal to him. Still, I caved in and he's making me dinner this week.

 

In our case, no one cheated and no one abused or maltreated the other. We just reached a point where one person (me) wanted more than the other (him). Because we're both in the same field and live in a small town (population less than 100,000), we always kept our business private and did the same with the breakup. There was no slamming each other, no going out and trying to pick up a new partner, etc. We just ended it and moved on. So, I think it makes a difference how you break up. Neither one of us would have tolerated the other person acting too badly. This way, there's not a lot of hard feelings there.

 

But as to a makeup? Who knows. I promise nothing here and I've told him that. It will take a long time of effort to get me to truly believe he's willing to change. He says he's up for it... I said prove it.

[NightLord1]

All of my exes have come back in some way shape or form over the years except for one who never did and I know why.

 

Whenever they came back around and wanted to get back with me I turned them down because I thought I could do better. Usually the time it took for them to come back was around a month or two. Some of them chased me really hard to get back others were more casual about it either way didn't matter I was over them.

 

So yes...it is possible for an ex to come back but that only is if you can truly let them go and move on and remain NC. Thats how it worked for me anyway.