andee Posted June 23, 2009 Share Posted June 23, 2009 so i'll make this short.! I betrayed my best friend with a boy! :/ I kissed the guy and now i don't know what to do! should I tell her??? They broke up more than a year ago but the girl obviously still like the guy! and it would hurt her! The thing is that i hardely talk to her now for the same reason! I broke the whole "no ex-boyfriend dating" girl rule! what do I do ? ? ? Link to post Share on other sites
dvsxx6 Posted June 24, 2009 Share Posted June 24, 2009 so i'll make this short.! I betrayed my best friend with a boy! :/ I kissed the guy and now i don't know what to do! should I tell her??? They broke up more than a year ago but the girl obviously still like the guy! and it would hurt her! The thing is that i hardely talk to her now for the same reason! I broke the whole "no ex-boyfriend dating" girl rule! what do I do ? ? ? First and foremost, tell her that you are very sorry for hurting her and for being selfish. [honestly, you kinda were. You weren't thinking of her at the time you did that, right?] Explain to her that you really should not have kissed him and you hope that she forgives you. At the same time, explain to her that her and the guy were together long time ago so in a way, you kinda felt it was alrite. But it was still wrong. Don't let her think that you felt that it was okay cause you did regret it later. Express to her that you value your friendship with her and you really don't want to lose a person like her in your life. Just tell her from your heart how you feel. Even though you probably know how she felt to some degree, ask her how she felt [in her words, just so that you have a better understanding on where she's coming from, and which will also be therapeutic for her too.] Just be open and be willing to hear the harsh truth. Hopefully if she forgives you, you both will have a stronger friendship and move on from this experience. Good luck and hope it works out. *DvS* Link to post Share on other sites
Ariadne Posted June 24, 2009 Share Posted June 24, 2009 should I tell her??? what do I do ? ? ? If I were you I'd tell her I kissed the guy/ want to date him/ he's cute/ I love him/ etc. And if she can't take it is her problem. Link to post Share on other sites
dvsxx6 Posted June 26, 2009 Share Posted June 26, 2009 If I were you I'd tell her I kissed the guy/ want to date him/ he's cute/ I love him/ etc. And if she can't take it is her problem. Gee, I'd hate to be your "best friend" cause not even a friend would do something cold like that. That's pretty selfish of you. Anyway, don't listen to Ariadne. She apparently does not know what it takes to be a good friend or a friend in general. If you are really serious about saving your friendship with her, be open and honest. Admit to your fault and she will hopefully respect that you are owning up to your mistake. Guys come and go and it really doesn't seem that you have strong feelings for this guy. Good friends are hard to come by, so really think about what you want to do. Link to post Share on other sites
Ariadne Posted June 26, 2009 Share Posted June 26, 2009 Gee, I'd hate to be your "best friend" cause not even a friend would do something cold like that. That's pretty selfish of you. Selfish is not to want your friend to be involved with the guy she likes, because you dated him in the past. But people of course, never get that part. Link to post Share on other sites
Island Girl Posted July 2, 2009 Share Posted July 2, 2009 Did this happen at work or do you work with her? Just wondering why this is under Business and Professional Relationships...? Link to post Share on other sites
Ping Posted August 3, 2009 Share Posted August 3, 2009 I kissed the guy and now i don't know what to do! should I tell her??? They broke up more than a year ago but the girl obviously still like the guy! and it would hurt her! The thing is that i hardely talk to her now for the same reason! If you do love this guy and do not want to lose your best friend, tell your firend the truth! Link to post Share on other sites
utterer of lies Posted August 3, 2009 Share Posted August 3, 2009 Gee, I'd hate to be your "best friend" cause not even a friend would do something cold like that. That's pretty selfish of you. They broke up more than a year ago, and it was only a kiss. Anyway, don't listen to Ariadne. I say: Listen to Ariadne! She apparently does not know what it takes to be a good friend or a friend in general. Or maybe not all people share your repressed, puritan attitude towards exes. Link to post Share on other sites
MSUE Posted August 3, 2009 Share Posted August 3, 2009 they broke up over a year ago...its fair game... its tricky though...if this is a guy you like and want to date then gently spit it out...if it was just a kiss a one time incident that will never happen again then you might be better off keeping it to yourself...tha't what I would do Link to post Share on other sites
RA1 Posted August 4, 2009 Share Posted August 4, 2009 Good god, it was only a kiss! There have been some very harsh replies. This loyalty code is a lot of nonesense IMHO. If he and your friend are broken up (they've been broken up for a year you say), then (IMHO again) you should be able to make advances to the man even if you a friend of his ex. I would recommend not to mention it to your friend at this stage. Just a kiss, after all. If it is going no further, no need to mention it further. If you are going to get into a public relationship with him, then she will need to know but there is no reason for you to feel any guilt. None whatsoever in my opinion. After all, they are over, have been so for a year. Link to post Share on other sites
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