Wanting to make friends online

[patcha]

Ok. I'm a bisexual girl, and it's difficult for me to make friends with fellow lesbians or bisexual girls.

 

I've been a member of a site for at least 2 weeks. I've messaged people, but they never message me back. What I've noticed is people who have just registered for the site were already getting messages. The difference is they have a self-image on their profile whereas I don't.

 

My reason for not putting a personal picture up is it's online. I prefer someone to want to befriend for my writing and not the way I look. I recently met a girl, and she didn't understand why I wouldn't share my pic as I'm a descent looking girl and am not overweight or anything like that.

 

I'm always tempted to put a pic up, but I resist to. I already have people offline who treat me a certain way just b/c of my looks alone. It would be great if someone wanted to befriend me without knowing how I looked at first. And I guess I'm also looking for that special someone, and knowing that they digged me way before they even knew how I looked like would be a major bonus for me.

 

Maybe you guys will understand this. It's not a gay, bi or straight problem. It's a wondering whether people like you for you looks or really for who you are problem.

 

What do you guys think of this? Should I just post a pic up and succumb or screw the no responses and eventually the rare ones will want to befriend me?

 

What are your points of views on this matter? Don't hold back.

[Stark]

Think of it this way; If people are supplying a photo as well as being interesting as well on their profile, who are they more likely to message?

 

Specially when you're advertising for being bisexual/lesbian, I think the woman want to know it's a woman and not a man.

 

There's just no way you're going to get people interested on these sort of websites without putting up a photo I'm afraid.

 

If you want messages and people, the photo needs to go up, you may still get some posters, but maybe not.

 

I never reply to people without photos either, even if they are interesting. My picture is on display, why shouldn't yours?

 

Your best bet is chat room or forums if you want to meet people without providing pictures at first glance, not a website where the first thing you see about a profile is their picture.

 

Also, no person should really digg you without looks. Looks are as important as personality, I don't mean smoking hot I just mean attractive to the person. It's not shallow, it's just the way it is.