Getting over a break up....

[GIZMO]

It really does help to know that we are all good people, and if you have never had a broken heart, then you will not appreciate your next relationship.

Everyone needs time to grieve, but grieve and then move on with yourself, if you don't, then you will be sitting in a house always thinking about the good moments, while your ex is out doing whatever..

You have to try and be strong and move on with yourself and keep in mind, you have one life to live and there are millions of single people in this world.. Someone is out there waiting for you.. But the more you keep sitting at home crying over your ex the longer it will take for you to meet the ONE..

We all all stong people, take it one day at a time..

[Grace]

Ary. You've totally given up. I'm in a similar boat you're in, but I know I will move past this because I don't like being in pain over someone who's not worthy of me. The man I lost was my world too...which is actually a messed up way of looking at any relationship. Did you ever think that maybe you're focusing on the relationship so much, because you don't want to focus on yourself. I bet the thought of even doing something for yourself like eating healthy, dressing up to look nice, playing the piano as you said....is the most difficult thing in the world for you right now. You have to understand that everyone who's ever gone through a breakup has felt or is feeling the exact same way you're feeling (read my previous postings). The reason it's so hard to get over is because it forces a person to focus on themselves again, when they were so caught up in focusing on someone else. You don't like yourself very much right now because you feel you were rejected by someone you cared a great deal for and put your heart into. Blaming an hating yourself is the only way you're able to have even an ounce of control over the situation. We've all been there. As for saying your too chicken and weak not to kill yourself. It's the opposite. You're too strong to not kill yourself. You're obviously in this life for the long haul. A weak, depressed person commits suicide cause they've given up on everything. You think you have (for the moment) but the fact remains that you don't want to and you're healthier than you realize, you've just been knocked down for the moment.

 

After reading the above postings you've written, it sounds to me like you're not happy with who you are. Instead of brainwashing yourself into believing you'll never love again, this person was your world... take this depression time to work on you. In a couple of weeks, you're going to realize that all you have is you and that will become your focus. You need to rebrainwash yourself and start thinking about you and how you're hurting. I've been sitting here for weeks crying over my boyfriend who left me. I blamed myself, I didn't want to get out of bed or work just like Gizmo and Bravegirl. No matter what anyone told me, I couldn't see how it wasn't my fault. Just keep crying and eventually you'll get sick of it. Once you make it through this and you start feeling happiness again, you'll pat yourself on the back and will be so proud of yourself. This time of pain is going to help you grow and it will prepare you for the next girl who comes along. Eventually you'll realize that you two were not as compatible as you thought.