Ex-wife wants baby with boyfriend

[pinkroses]

I have another troubling thought to deal with. My boyfriend also has an ex-wife. They only married due to an unplanned pregnancy and he never cared much for her, although now they get along okay because of their son. In the years since their divorce she's never found another man. He says she doesn't like men much. It's either that or she still loves my bf. Anyway, just recently, around the same time the ex-girlfriend showed up wanting him back, the ex-wife asked him to donate sperm to her so she could have another baby. He was, of course, appalled and told her she was crazy to ask such a thing and there was no way. He's already paying out the nose in child support for his 8 year-old. She claims she wants another child and doesn't have another man in her life, and she wants their son to have a "whole" sibling.

 

I've never heard of such a thing in my life, it made me sick to my stomach to hear it. Who does that? I know it's not my boyfriend's doing that his ex-wife and ex-girlfriend are both behaving like psychos, but I can't help feeling somewhat disgusted with him too. He tends to tell me everything, but this is one thing I would have been better off not hearing. I really think it's a private thing between him and the ex-wife, that is so ridiculous it shouldn't have even been repeated. Why do women refuse to let go of a man these days, and behave so outrageously?

[Tony T]

"Why do women refuse to let go of a man these days, and behave so outrageously?"

 

Insanity.

 

Your boyfriend really knows how to pick them...you being the nice exception. I think you need to talk to him about significantly diminishing his contact with these exes. I don't think you're going to have a quality relationship with him if they are around trying to keep contact and get sperm from him. Your ex does have control over this.

[vixen]

if my boyfriend had such delema's and didn't tell me i'd be rather pissed at him. I think it's good he tells you, this means you are in his life, you meen something to him, charish that. And as for these psychos, give him emotional support as he tried to weather these creatures out of his life. Sure he want's time with his son, it's very healthy, but it's up to him how he handles them, and i'd simply watch it. For it is his charicter and he is your man. Just be there for him when he neads you. I don't think these women are a threat to you, acting like they are, makes you a threat to you. Good luck.

 

Vixen

[EnigmaXOXO]

Wow, Pink. I could certainly learn some things from you!

 

Was in a similar situation several years ago. My partner’s ex girlfriend of four years--now turned platonic friend—wasn’t too thrilled about “J’s” new relationship with me although she had broken up with him because she had a revelation that she was gay. But according to “J,” she often mentioned in their conversations about him fathering a child for her. “Her d*ck in a glass jar” is how he referred to himself.

 

Well, needless to say, the week he moved into my home there was much debate between us concerning this girl. Apparently, she wanted my private phone number so she could reach him at his new home. Even went so far as to call his mother hoping she would help her contact him. “J” said that if I loved him…I should “trust” him to give her the number.

 

Yeah, Right!

 

Unfortunately, my reaction wasn’t nearly as dignified and level-headed as yours. Sure wish I could acquire your skills at self-control!!

 

Tony’s right. It’s absolute insanity. I’d tell him to send the brood mare to a sperm bank!

[moimeme]

I'm with Vixen on the issue of him telling you. He was open and honest and didn't try to hide this. So many people are dealing with sneaks and liars, you should be grateful you've got an honest man. Don't discourage this in him!