yongyong Posted June 25, 2009 Share Posted June 25, 2009 I hung out with this chick twice after I got her #. everytime I meet her, she talked about her bf (I didn't ask anything about him and acted like I didn't care) last sat, she wanted to go to club with me. I asked her to come to my house so we can go together. (little bit of test) she came 1 hour late so we ended up watching R movie, drinking wine. I cuddled with her, played with her hair, touched her face, neck and ears. no resistance but no respoense from her either (like grabbing my leg lol) I didn't go for kiss cuz it was too risky. I told her 'we are friend, you are like my little sister' (reverse psychology here) I am trying to act like I don't care about her bf and I am just interested in hangingout with her. I have good chemistry with her when having conversation (eye contacts, smiles) I am thinking she might be interested but not sure why she mentions about her bf. I see 3 possibilites. she doesn't have one. she has one but he is boring. she loves him and wants to hang out with me as just friends (maybe it's ok in south american culture? she is latin though) I am not gonna be those hollywood plot believers and tell her , 'I will be true to my heart, to be honest with you I like you' LOL I think my best bet is just keep hangingout with her, escalate little bit further everytime I see her while telling her you are my friend for those women who think I am trying to manipulate her, if I was interested in just getting into her pants, I won't invest this amount of effort and just move on to easier target Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted June 25, 2009 Share Posted June 25, 2009 Why even bother? You know she has a girlfriend and if she ends up cheating on him with you, don't you think one day if you two DO end up together as a couple, she is going to put herself in stupid situations where she'll cheat on you as well? Whatever your 'game' plan is, back off and just leave her be. You're not her true friend, because true friends don't do this, don't try to woo a girl away from another guy. They back off and wait until the girl is single and the timing is better. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted June 25, 2009 Share Posted June 25, 2009 I think my best bet is just keep hangingout with her, escalate little bit further everytime I see her while telling her you are my friend :) i think your best best is to forget about her and find a girl who is un-attached Link to post Share on other sites
hopesndreams Posted June 25, 2009 Share Posted June 25, 2009 Is it a challenge for you to get her away from her bf, is that the appeal? You've already succeeded. If she gave a darn about her bf she wouldn't have let you stroke her hair, never mind the rest. You could be right, she could be lying about having a bf and if she was, would that lose the appeal for you? Link to post Share on other sites
hoping2heal Posted June 25, 2009 Share Posted June 25, 2009 I hung out with this chick twice after I got her #. everytime I meet her, she talked about her bf (I didn't ask anything about him and acted like I didn't care) last sat, she wanted to go to club with me. I asked her to come to my house so we can go together. (little bit of test) she came 1 hour late so we ended up watching R movie, drinking wine. I cuddled with her, played with her hair, touched her face, neck and ears. no resistance but no respoense from her either (like grabbing my leg lol) I didn't go for kiss cuz it was too risky. I told her 'we are friend, you are like my little sister' (reverse psychology here) I am trying to act like I don't care about her bf and I am just interested in hangingout with her. I have good chemistry with her when having conversation (eye contacts, smiles) I am thinking she might be interested but not sure why she mentions about her bf. I see 3 possibilites. she doesn't have one. she has one but he is boring. she loves him and wants to hang out with me as just friends (maybe it's ok in south american culture? she is latin though) I am not gonna be those hollywood plot believers and tell her , 'I will be true to my heart, to be honest with you I like you' LOL I think my best bet is just keep hangingout with her, escalate little bit further everytime I see her while telling her you are my friend for those women who think I am trying to manipulate her, if I was interested in just getting into her pants, I won't invest this amount of effort and just move on to easier target Um, what the hell? She has a boyfriend, and she allows another man to be alone with her, cuddle with her, flirt with her, and put his hands on her? Wow. You really want to get with a girl who will be this disrespectful to her relationships and her boyfriends? Link to post Share on other sites
Author yongyong Posted June 25, 2009 Author Share Posted June 25, 2009 yes I am not her friend and I wasn't going to be one either. I told her we were friends just because not to show I was interested in her. don't you guys get scared if guys show their emotion right away? you can say I am sneaky Why even bother? You know she has a girlfriend and if she ends up cheating on him with you, don't you think one day if you two DO end up together as a couple, she is going to put herself in stupid situations where she'll cheat on you as well? Whatever your 'game' plan is, back off and just leave her be. You're not her true friend, because true friends don't do this, don't try to woo a girl away from another guy. They back off and wait until the girl is single and the timing is better. Link to post Share on other sites
Stark Posted June 25, 2009 Share Posted June 25, 2009 Um......she probably would have done more if you pushed it. Maybe not. But the point still stands that.... I mean heck, going to some guys house that she got a number off. I'm sure if I told a past or present girl that, that she would be totally fine and not freak out and dump me on the spot, I mean big time. Old friends is a push if you know a bit of background info, but some dude she met with a #....geeze. Girls in relationships who are decent would never even show up at your house, nevermind the rest. Think about it logically. If she was your gf, would you like her going to some dudes house she met, stroking her hair etc? I would dump her ass, I wouldn't care if she slept with the dude or not but giving out such huge signs and a total disrespect to who she's with is a bad bad sign. Even if you steal her away from this dude, she showed that she doesn't think twice about these kind of things. What makes you any different from her current bf in a future situation if you did get what you wanted? You shouldn't get involved with this type of girl, it's nothing but bad news, they have no respect for their partner or themselves apparantly. Link to post Share on other sites
Author yongyong Posted June 25, 2009 Author Share Posted June 25, 2009 you brought a good point. I will answers two questions you asked. it's true for guys (making generalizations here) that if they stole a girl from another guy (especially not a loser), they will feel some kind of achievement. (it's in our gene for survival) I heard some women lie about having bf to make a guy jealous. Although I haven't done the same thing, I admit that I tried to act like I have girls around me all the time to make girls jealous. If that's the case, I understand her. Is it a challenge for you to get her away from her bf, is that the appeal? You've already succeeded. If she gave a darn about her bf she wouldn't have let you stroke her hair, never mind the rest. You could be right, she could be lying about having a bf and if she was, would that lose the appeal for you? Link to post Share on other sites
001bh Posted June 26, 2009 Share Posted June 26, 2009 What you're doing is encouraging her to cheat on her bf. It doesn't matter, girls who are unavailable are off limits regardless how friendly they get. This is to stop them from hurting their significant other, and to not make you look like an ass. It also prevents her from fooling around with other guys should you start something more serious with her if she cheats on her bf with you. If she's loose enough to nearly cheat with you, that means if she'll cheat on you too. Girls like this need to be left alone. If they can't break off a relationship with someone they love and yet still get the wrong kind of attention from another man, it means they are insecure and cannot be trusted. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted June 26, 2009 Share Posted June 26, 2009 OP, what is your goal here? Right now, today, this minute, what do you want regarding this person? Remember, she is a person, not a psychology experiment Link to post Share on other sites
NopeNah Posted June 27, 2009 Share Posted June 27, 2009 it's true for guys (making generalizations here) that if they stole a girl from another guy (especially not a loser), they will feel some kind of achievement. (it's in our gene for survival). Umm. I'm going to disagree here. To me that's a weak douchebag that has ZERO respect for himself and the girl he's trying to "steal", is also a weak douchbag! Don't put all guys into this mess you're involved in. It's not fair to the good ones out there. Goodluck with your pimpin'! Link to post Share on other sites
boogieboy Posted June 27, 2009 Share Posted June 27, 2009 She is NEVER going to leave her BF for you, she is using you for attention. You will never get past playing with her hair. SHe is giving you NO positive body language, and she talks about her bf to keep a distance from you. Stop wasting your time with her. You are only tryin this hard because you forgot what its like when a woman really likes you. Link to post Share on other sites
Surfer Dude Posted July 1, 2009 Share Posted July 1, 2009 From the language you use, I see you're familiar with the basics of game. Your main problem is that you failed to escalate. Posters here are telling you "Don't do it because she's not interested in you". However, that's completely untrue. If she was uninterested, she wouldn't go to your place in the middle of the night obviously, and she wouldn't let you touch her. She kept mentioning her borefriend so that she can backwards rationalize after sex "I told him about my boyfriend, but it just happened!!", in a typical chick logic fashion. You failed to pull the trigger. Why didn't you escalate your kino? Why didn't you kiss her? Man, you could've sealed the deal that night. Good work on ignoring the borefriend talk though. Worry not though, mistakes happen and we learn through them. Link to post Share on other sites
runner Posted July 3, 2009 Share Posted July 3, 2009 this is not going to end well for any of the three. Link to post Share on other sites
kizik Posted July 3, 2009 Share Posted July 3, 2009 The only people who should hang out with girls as friends are other girls and gay men. Link to post Share on other sites
Author yongyong Posted July 7, 2009 Author Share Posted July 7, 2009 I think you are the only few who can understand what I am doing. yeah I didn't escalate because i felt only 50% chance. she seemed nervous and was just looking at the tv. I have bad memory too from similar situation - brought this latin girl twice to my house. on 2nd time, I tried to kiss her, she was saying 'no no we are friend~' lol (in heavy latina accent) anyway I am still working on it. I ran into her at the club (she just comes with her gf all the time. I never see her bf) I said hi and walked away from her like chicks usually do. I spoked to several white girls in front of her. (latin chicks really hate this lol) she txted after that day and I asked her to go for coffee. she didn't return my call. I think ignoring her at the club kinda backfired but I don't care (if she really has bf, why the heck she has to get mad? lol) From the language you use, I see you're familiar with the basics of game. Your main problem is that you failed to escalate. Posters here are telling you "Don't do it because she's not interested in you". However, that's completely untrue. If she was uninterested, she wouldn't go to your place in the middle of the night obviously, and she wouldn't let you touch her. She kept mentioning her borefriend so that she can backwards rationalize after sex "I told him about my boyfriend, but it just happened!!", in a typical chick logic fashion. You failed to pull the trigger. Why didn't you escalate your kino? Why didn't you kiss her? Man, you could've sealed the deal that night. Good work on ignoring the borefriend talk though. Worry not though, mistakes happen and we learn through them. Link to post Share on other sites
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