Boxer Posted June 25, 2009 Share Posted June 25, 2009 I met this girl on Xmas and we started dating but she left home out of the country in early Jan. She returned on late March but now she's leaving soon again... For a while I thought we were at the same level of feelings but Idk anymore. I still love her but she keeps saying she's worried for me in case things don't work out. I show her my love though various ways but she's told me she thinks I'm obsessed, am I really? Advice? Link to post Share on other sites
Lucky_One Posted June 25, 2009 Share Posted June 25, 2009 Depends on what the various ways are that you show her you love her. Have you sent her flowers, or have you cut off your ear and mailed it to her? Link to post Share on other sites
sunshine2031 Posted July 2, 2009 Share Posted July 2, 2009 How are you showing your love? I was in a 2yr committed relationship with a guy I felt was obsessive. On one hand, I really felt the guy truly loved me. He always did thoughtful things for me, called just to say I love you, really took interest in my wellbeing, etc. However, at times the calling was excessive. On average he'd call a few times a day. But sometimes it would be 10-20 times. He'd leave me tons of voicemails instead of just leaving one and letting me call back. He was very possessive and insecure. He didn't want me having any guy friends and didn't like me spending time out with just the girls either. If I ever did go out with the girls, I got 40 questions from him the next day about it. A few times, he'd even unexpectedly showed up at the resturant where the girls and I were at that evening. If he sent me flowers, it would just be a couple roses, it would be 4 dozen roses. Then if I did do whatever it was he wanted, he'd ask..."did you like all the flowers I sent?" I was totally faithful to this guy and never gave any reason for him to doubt me, but regardless, he smothered me. As yourself....when you call her, are you doing it out of love? Do you just want to share your day with her and hear about hers? Or are you calling her out of insecurity and want to know what she's been doing every moment she hasn't been with you? Do you do nice things for her out of love or because you are expecting/demanding something in return. Do you not allow her to have a fufilling live which includes time with people other than you?....family, friends, etc. Link to post Share on other sites
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